ʻO nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi maʻamau, akā ʻaʻohe mea hōʻike e hōʻike ana he ʻano kūlohelohe nā keiki i ka hoʻomohala ʻana iā lākou iho. ʻO ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki iā ia iho a ʻaʻole paha e hilinaʻi nui ʻia ma nā kūlana ʻelua: ma ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hōʻoluʻolu e hoʻopuni ana iā ia a ma ke komo ʻana o nā mākua i kona ulu ʻana.
Hoʻoulu maikaʻi nā keiki i nā kūlana ʻoluʻolu: māmā, mahanahana, nā mākua aloha, mālama pono a me nā hana hoihoi e hoʻāʻo ai iā lākou iho no ka ikaika, ke akamai a me ka hiki ke lanakila i nā pilikia o ke ola. Inā maʻalahi nā mea a pau - ʻaʻole ia he mea hoihoi, ʻaʻohe hoʻomohala, no ka mea ʻaʻohe pono. Inā he mau pilikia wale nō i loko o ke ola o ke keiki, hiki iā ia ke maloʻo e like me ke kīpē hiamoe a i ʻole, hoʻomaka e kipi a lanakila hou i kāna makemake. ʻO ka hana a nā mākua, ʻo ia ka hoʻolei ʻana i nā puʻupuʻu i ke keiki, e paʻakikī iā lākou i ka wā e ulu ana ke keiki. A i ka wā e nui ai ke keiki e hoʻolohe i kona mau mākua - e haʻi iā ia e pili ana i nā pilikia a me nā hauʻoli āu i loaʻa ai i kona mau makahiki, e hoʻonui ana i kona hiki ke hoʻomaopopo.
Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ulu ʻana o nā keiki ke mālama ʻole nā mākua a me nā poʻe mākua ʻē aʻe iā lākou, a ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu o ka noho ʻana o nā keiki. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke keiki me ka ʻole o nā mākua, ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka ʻoluʻolu o kona kaiapuni nona, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kona ulu ʻana. No ke aha? Aia ke keiki i ka ai, ka wela, ka wai, ka malamalama, a aole pono e ne'e — ma keia hihia, o ke keiki, oia hoi ke kino holoholona o ke keiki, aole he mau mea hooikaika e nee ia ia iho ma kekahi wahi a me kekahi mea.
ʻO ke komo ʻana o nā mākua i ka ulu ʻana o nā keiki ʻo ia ke kumu nui o ka ulu ʻana. Hōʻike ka hōʻike e ulu ana nā keiki i ka wā e ulu ai nā mākua.
Quote: "Ua hele au i ka punawai a me ke kauwela a pau i ka Orphanage, a pau ma ke kaona panalaau maikai 200 km mai Moscow. ʻAʻole au i ʻike i nā laina o nā mākua hānai e hoʻopilikia ana i ke kauka poʻo me ka makemake e lawe koke i ka "gene pool" i loko o ka ʻohana. Nui nā keiki. Ke ulu nei ke kula: hoʻoponopono maikaʻi loa, mauna o nā mea pāʻani, nā keiki hoʻokahi makahiki i ʻaʻahu ʻia i nā lole makamae e kau ʻole ʻia i nā mea hele wāwae. A ʻaʻole kīnā kēia - nā keiki olakino maikaʻi. ʻAʻole makemake wale lākou e hele, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe mea e paʻa i nā lima, ʻaʻole kelepona, ʻaʻole ʻanakē, ʻaʻole honi no kēlā me kēia ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole pāʻani nā keiki me nā mea pāʻani pipiʻi. ʻAʻole lākou pāʻani no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou ʻike pehea. ʻO ia ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne.
ʻO kahi kuhikuhi hoihoi no ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki ʻo ia ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi pilina ola me ko lākou mau mākua a i ʻole nā mākua ʻē aʻe. Ma ka liʻiliʻi - e like me nā mea pāʻani ola. Pela i ka mea? Ma lalo o nā kūlana o ka haukapila, ʻaʻole hōʻike nā keiki i ka nānā a i ʻole hoihoi i nā pākeke ma hope o 2-3 mau makahiki o ke ola.
I nā makahiki mua o ka mana Soviet, ua nui nā keiki i haʻalele ʻia i lawe ʻia i nā keiki makua ʻole. Ua hānai ʻia lākou, akā ʻaʻole mālama nā mākua iā lākou, a ulu nā pēpē e like me nā mea kanu i loko o ka māla. A lilo lākou i mea kanu. Ma hope o kekahi manawa, i ka wā i hoʻokokoke aku ai nā mākua iā lākou, lawe iā lākou i loko o ko lākou mau lima, ʻakaʻaka iā lākou a hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio me lākou, ʻo ka pane ʻana o nā pēpē i kēia mea i hōʻike wale i ko lākou hauʻoli: ua ʻoluʻolu lākou e noho me ka ʻole o kēia keakea ʻana o waho.
I ka manawa like, pono ke kumu e hoʻokumu i ka pilina me kahi keiki me ka maʻi maʻi o ka haukapila, no ka mea i loko o ka manawa pōkole ua hiki i nā keiki ke neʻe mamao ma ke ala o ka hoʻomohala ʻana, e hana i kahi ʻano ikaika i ka poʻe a me ka honua a puni. lakou. Makemake nā kamaliʻi e ulu inā ulu kēia makemake i loko o lākou e nā mākua. Inā ʻaʻole hoʻomohala ka poʻe mākua i kēia, e noho wale ka pēpē i mea kanu.
ʻAe, manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo K. Rogers aloha, ʻo ke ʻano o ke kanaka ke ʻano o ka ulu a me ka ulu ʻana, e like me ka hua o ka mea kanu i ka ulu a me ka ulu. ʻO nā mea a pau e pono ai no ka ulu ʻana a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana o ka hiki ke kūlohelohe i loko o ke kanaka, ʻo ia wale nō ka hana ʻana i nā kūlana kūpono. "E like me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o kahi mea kanu e lilo i mea kanu olakino, e like me ka hua i loko o ka makemake e lilo i kumulāʻau, pēlā nō ke alakaʻi ʻia ke kanaka e ka manaʻo e lilo i kanaka holoʻokoʻa, piha, hoʻokō pono iā ia iho," kākau ʻo ia. Pehea e mālama ai i kāna thesis? Pālua. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he moʻolelo kēia. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he mea pono ka moʻokalaleo, pono ke aʻo.
I ka hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo: inā ʻaʻole hoʻoikaika nui ke kanaka e hoʻomohala, kūpono ke hoʻoikaika ʻana iā ia e makemake kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka hoʻomohala ʻana iā ia iho. Inā mākou e hānai i nā keiki, a laila ʻo ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kēia makemake no ka hoʻomohala ʻana iā mākou iho he naʻaupō. Inā ʻoe e hana a hānai iā ia, ʻo ia nō. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻokumu i kahi makemake no ke keiki e hoʻomohala iā ia iho, e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi keiki me nā waiwai maʻalahi, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka mea a ka hui Lūkini a puni ia e hana ai no ke keiki.