Ma 30 mau makahiki
Léa, 34, makuahine o Anna, 5, a me Elie, 3.
"Ua hana mākou i kahi papa inoa o nā mea āpau a mākou i makemake ai e hana ma mua o ko mākou mau mākua. “
Ua pololei wau i ka awelika Farani, ua loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu kaikamahine ma 28 a me kaʻu keikikāne ma 30. Makemake mau wau i nā keiki, akā ʻaʻohe nīnau o ka hana ʻana iā lākou me ka mea hele mua, pono wau i kahi makuakāne nui. I ka manawa i ʻike ʻia ai ka "specimen", ua ʻae mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole mākou makemake e ʻoki i nā kihi, makemake mākou e ʻike i nā mea ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi ʻohana. Hana mākou i ka papa inoa o nā mea a pau a mākou i makemake ai e hana ma mua o ka lilo ʻana i mau mākua: hele i ka Opera, New York, Maldives… I koʻu hoʻōki ʻana i ka pila, ʻaʻohe oʻu mihi. 28 makahiki, he ʻuʻuku nō ia e lilo i makuahine, ʻo wau ka mea mua o kaʻu mau hoaaloha. Noʻu, he mea nui ka loaʻa ʻole o kaʻu mau keiki i lohi, no ka mea, ua loaʻa iaʻu koʻu makuahine i 36 a, i ka wā kamaliʻi, pilikia ia iaʻu i kekahi manawa. Ua hele maikaʻi koʻu hāpai mua ʻana, ua hala au i ka mahina. Akā, i ka hānau ʻana o kaʻu kaikamahine, hoʻomanaʻo wau ua kaumaha wau. Laki ka hiki iā ʻoe ke noho i ʻelima mau lā i loko o ka hale hānai, kahi a ka pale keiki e hoʻomaʻamaʻa mai nei iaʻu… Inā ua loaʻa iaʻu kēia pēpē i ka makahiki 25, inā ua nele au i ke oʻo e kū i kēia kai eʻe. A laila hānau ʻia kaʻu keiki i ʻelua makahiki ma hope. No kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua, hoʻomaha wau i kēlā me kēia ʻeiwa mahina a ʻike wau ua kāohi ia i kaʻu ʻoihana. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa nā mea a pau. ʻO ka noho pū ʻana me kaʻu mau pēpē kaʻu mea nui i kēia manawa a ʻaʻole au e mihi, akā ʻelua lau makua i loko o ʻelua makahiki ʻaʻole ia ka mea kūpono no ka hoʻomohala ʻoihana.
I kēia lā, ua kaʻawale au me ka makuakāne. Manaʻo wau ua ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī iā ia ma mua o kaʻu. Akā naʻe, hauʻoli nui wau i kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua, ʻo lāua ka mea e hoʻomake iaʻu e ala i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka. Ke lilo ʻoe i makuahine solo, hoʻololi nā mea nui. I kēia manawa, nānā au i kaʻu hana. ”
Ka manao o ka emi
Manaʻo pinepine ka poʻe ʻo kā lākou XNUMX ka manawa maikaʻi loa e loaʻa ai nā keiki. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kaʻu mau maʻi, me ka paradoxically, ʻike wau he nui nā nīnau a me nā hopohopo i kēia manawa o ke ola. I ka makahiki 30, ʻo ka hāpai pinepine ka hopena o ka hoʻolālā ʻana, e like me kā Léa e haʻi mai nei iā mākou. Lawe ʻo ia i kona manawa, kali e ʻike i ka makua kūpono, hoʻohana pū me kāna kāne. Hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i kona manaʻo ʻole e pili ana i nā makahiki o kona makuahine. ʻAʻohe mea i hana maʻamau, aia kahi mea ʻike ʻole e piʻi aʻe, inā paha ma ka pae o ka makahiki a i ʻole ke koho ʻana o ka hoa. Hoʻonohonoho ʻia nā wahine ʻōpio i kēia lā i ka maikaʻi loa a paʻakikī loa ka hoʻihoʻi iki ʻana. Makemake lākou e kūleʻa i kā lākou ʻoihana, ʻike i ka makua kāne kūpono, aia lākou i loko o ka huhū, haehae ʻia mai nā ʻaoʻao a pau e kahi hui e koi nui nei iā lākou. Hiki i kēia heihei no ka hana ke hoʻoulu i nā pilikia, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka male. Hoʻopuka pū ʻo Léa i ka paʻakikī o ka holomua ʻoihana inā loaʻa kāu mau pēpē pili. Pololei ʻo ia. He mea ʻino ka ʻike ʻana i ka wā e hoʻomaka maoli ai ke kanaka e noʻonoʻo nui ʻia, a i ʻole e haʻalele maoli ana kāna ʻoihana, hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia ka piʻi ʻana e ka makuahine. Ma nā ʻāina ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia.