"E hui lima kāua, e nā hoaaloha": no ke aha ia e maʻalahi ai ka ʻeha

E noʻonoʻo hou i kou wā kamaliʻi. He aha kāu i hana ai i kou hāʻule ʻana a ʻeha kou kuli? ʻO ka mea nui paha, ua holo wikiwiki lākou i ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne e ʻapo iā ʻoe. Manaʻo nā kānaka ʻepekema ʻo ka paʻi ʻana o kahi mea aloha e hiki ke ho'ōla maoli, ʻaʻole wale i ka naʻau, akā i ke kino.

Ua hōʻea ʻo Neuroscience i ka manaʻo o nā makuahine a puni ka honua: kōkua ka paʻi ʻana a me ka empathy e hoʻomaha i ka ʻeha. ʻO ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia e nā makuahine ʻo ia ka hoʻopā ʻana i nā nalu o ka lolo a ʻo ia ka mea e alakaʻi ai i ka hoʻomaha ʻeha.

"Ke hāʻawi kekahi i ko lākou ʻeha me mākou, ua hoʻoulu ʻia nā kaʻina hana like i loko o ko mākou lolo e like me mākou iho i ka ʻeha," wehewehe ʻo Simone Shamai-Tsuri, he psychologist a me ke kaukaʻi ma ke Kulanui o Haifa.

Ua hōʻoia ʻo Simone a me kāna hui i kēia hanana ma o ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā ʻano hoʻokolohua. ʻO ka mea mua, ua hoʻāʻo lākou i ka pili ʻana o ke kino me kahi malihini a i ʻole hoa aloha i ka ʻike o ka ʻeha. ʻO ke kumu ʻeha ma muli o ka ʻike ʻana i ka wela, e like me kahi wela liʻiliʻi ma ka lima. Inā paʻa lima nā kumuhana i kēlā manawa me kahi hoa, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. A ʻo ka ʻoi aku o ke aloha o ka hoa iā lākou, ʻoi aku ka nāwaliwali o kā lākou loiloi i ka ʻeha. Akā, ʻaʻole i loaʻa ka hopena o ka pā ʻana o kahi malihini.

No ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke ʻano a me ke kumu e hana ai kēia ʻano, ua hoʻohana nā ʻepekema i kahi ʻenehana electroencephalogram hou e hiki ai iā lākou ke ana i nā hōʻailona i ka manawa like i ka lolo o nā kumuhana a me kā lākou mau hoa. Ua ʻike lākou i ka wā e paʻa ai nā lima o nā hoa a e ʻeha kekahi o lākou, ua hoʻonohonoho ko lākou lolo i nā hōʻailona: e hoʻomālamalama nā ʻāpana like ma nā wahi like.

"Ua ʻike mākou no ka manawa lōʻihi ʻo ka paʻa ʻana i ka lima o kekahi he mea nui ia o ke kākoʻo kaiaulu, akā i kēia manawa ua maopopo mākou i ke ʻano o kēia hopena," wahi a Shamai-Tsuri.

I mea e wehewehe ai, e hoʻomanaʻo kākou i nā neurons aniani - nā pūnaʻi lolo e hauʻoli i ka wā e hana ai mākou i kekahi mea a i ka wā e nānā wale ai mākou i ka hana ʻana o kekahi i kēia hana (i kēia hihia, loaʻa iā mākou iho kahi wela liʻiliʻi a ʻike paha i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hoa). ʻO ka hoʻonohonoho ikaika loa i ʻike ʻia ma ka ʻāpana o ka lolo e kūlike me ke ʻano o nā neurons aniani, a me nā mea i hiki mai ai nā hōʻailona e pili ana i ka pili kino.

"Malia paha i ia mau manawa ua pohihihi nā palena ma waena o mākou a me kekahi," wahi a Shamai-Tsuri. "Haʻi maoli ke kanaka i kona ʻeha me mākou, a lawe mākou i kahi ʻāpana."

Ua hana ʻia kekahi ʻano hoʻokolohua me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging). ʻO ka mua, ua hanaʻia kahi tomogram no ka hoa pili i kaʻeha, a ua paʻa ka lima i ka mea aloha a aloha. A laila nānā lākou i ka lolo o kahi mea aloha. Ma nā hihia ʻelua, ua ʻike ʻia ka hana ma ka lobe parietal haʻahaʻa: kahi i loaʻa ai nā neurons aniani.

ʻO nā hoa i loaʻa i ka ʻeha a paʻa ʻia e ka lima, ua hōʻemi pū lākou i ka hana i loko o ka insula, ka ʻāpana o ka cerebral cortex ke kuleana, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, no ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻeha. ʻAʻole i ʻike ko lākou mau hoa i nā loli ma kēia wahi, no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ka ʻeha kino.

I ka manawa like, he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka hōʻailona o ka ʻeha iā lākou iho (kapa nā kānaka ʻepekema i kēia hoʻoulu ʻeha o nā nerve fibers) ʻaʻole i loli - ua loli wale nā ​​manaʻo o nā kumuhana. "ʻO ka ikaika o ka hopena a me ka ikaika o ka ʻeha e mau nō ia, akā i ka wā i komo ai ka" memo "i loko o ka lolo, hiki mai kekahi mea e ʻike ai mākou i nā manaʻo he emi ʻole ka ʻeha."

ʻAʻole ʻae ka poʻe ʻepekema āpau i nā hopena i loaʻa e ka hui noiʻi Shamai-Tsuri. No laila, ke manaʻo nei ka mea noiʻi Swedish ʻo Julia Suvilehto hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio hou aku e pili ana i ka correlation ma mua o ke kumu kumu. Wahi a ia, he mau wehewehe ʻē aʻe paha ka hopena i ʻike ʻia. ʻO kekahi o lākou ka pane o ke kino i ke kaumaha. Ke koʻikoʻi mākou, ʻoi aku ka ikaika o ka ʻeha ma mua o ka hoʻomaha ʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi, ke lawe ka hoa i ko mākou lima, ua mālie mākou - a i kēia manawa ʻaʻole mākou e ʻeha nui.

Hōʻike pū ka noiʻi e hiki i ka launa pū ʻana ke hoʻohui i ko mākou hanu a me ka puʻuwai puʻuwai, akā no ka mea, ʻo ka puni ʻana i kahi mea aloha e hōʻoluʻolu iā mākou. A i ʻole ma muli paha o ka hoʻopā a me ka empathy i loko o lākou iho he mea ʻoluʻolu a hoʻōla i nā wahi o ka lolo e hāʻawi i ka hopena "hoʻomaha ʻeha".

ʻO kēlā me kēia wehewehe, i ka manawa aʻe e hele ai ʻoe i ke kauka, e noi i kāu hoa e hoʻopaʻa pū me ʻoe. A i ʻole makuahine, e like me ka wā kahiko.