Makahiki Hou: no ke aha ka nui o nā makana?

I nā lā hoʻomaha Makahiki Hou, kūʻai mau mākou i nā makana a hāʻawi pinepine… hāʻawi iā lākou i kā mākou mau keiki. ʻO kēlā me kēia makahiki, ke lilo nei kā mākou makana i mea kupanaha a ʻoi aku ka pipiʻi, ke ulu nei kā lākou helu. He aha ka mea e alakaʻi ai iā mākou a he aha ia e alakaʻi ai?

Ua hele mai ʻo Santa Claus maikaʻi iā mākou i kēia lā. A lawe mai ʻo ia i nā makana iā mākou i ka hoʻomaha makahiki hou. Ke mele mau ʻia nei kēia mele kahiko ma nā pāʻina makahiki hou o nā keiki. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole pono nā keiki hou e moeʻuhane no ka manawa lōʻihi e pili ana i nā mea pohihihi o ka ʻeke o ke kupuna kāne o ka makahiki hou. ʻO mākou iho me ka ʻike ʻole e wean iā lākou mai kēia: ʻaʻohe manawa e makemake ai, a ke kūʻai nei mākou. A lawe wale nā ​​keiki i kā mākou mau makana. ʻAʻole mākou e ʻimi e alakaʻi iā lākou i waho o kēia hoʻopunipuni. Akā, ma ka ʻokoʻa: he kelepona paʻalima, he kaua pāʻani, kahi pāʻani pāʻani, ʻaʻole e haʻi i ka avalanche o nā mea ʻono ... hāʻule kēia mau mea i nā keiki e like me ka cornucopia. Makemake mākou e kaumaha nui e hoʻokō i kā lākou makemake.

Ma ke Komohana, ua hoʻomaka nā mākua e hao i kā lākou mau keiki ma kahi o 60s, i ka wā i hoʻokumu ʻia ai ka hui kūʻai. Mai ia manawa, ua hoʻoikaika wale kēia ʻano. Hōʻike ʻo ia iā ia iho ma Rusia. E hauʻoli paha kā mākou mau keiki ke hoʻololi mākou i ko lākou lumi i hale kūʻai mea pāʻani? Nā keiki psychologist Natalia Dyatko lāua ʻo Annie Gatecel, nā psychotherapist Svetlana Krivtsova, Yakov Obukhov lāua ʻo Stephane Clerget e pane i kēia a me nā nīnau ʻē aʻe.

No ke aha mākou e hāʻawi ai i nā makana i nā keiki i ka wā hoʻomaha makahiki hou?

ʻO ka hui kūʻai, kahi a mākou e noho nei no kekahi manawa i kēia manawa, ua haʻi ʻia ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mea e like me nā mea maikaʻi a me ka pono o ke ola. ʻO ka pilikia "e loaʻa a i ʻole" i kēia lā ua hoʻoponopono hou ʻia: "e loaʻa i mea e lilo ai." Manaʻo mākou ua nui ka hauʻoli o nā keiki, a na nā mākua maikaʻi e hoʻolako. ʻO ka hopena,ʻo ka hikiʻole ke hoʻomaopopo ponoʻole i nā makemake a me nā pono o ke keiki e makaʻu ai i nā mākua he nui - e like me ka manaʻo o ka nele i kaʻohana, e hoʻoulu ai i ka manaʻo o ka manaʻoʻole, e hāʻawi ana i ka manaʻo o ka hewa. ʻO kekahi mau mākua, e huikau i ka makemake pōkole o kā lākou mau keiki me ka mea nui no lākou, makaʻu lākou e hoʻonele iā lākou i kahi mea nui. Me he mea lā iā lākou e ʻeha ka manaʻo o ke keiki inā, no ka laʻana, ʻike ʻo ia ua loaʻa i kāna hoa papa a i ʻole ka hoaaloha maikaʻi loa nā makana ma mua ona. A hoʻāʻo nā mākua, kūʻai hou aʻe ...

ʻO nā mea pāʻani a mākou e hāʻawi pinepine ai i ke keiki e noʻonoʻo ʻole iā ia, akā i kā mākou makemake.

Hiki ke hoʻonui ʻia ka nui o nā makana ma muli o ko mākou makemake e hoʻopau i ko mākou hewa iho: "Kakaʻikahi wau me ʻoe, paʻa loa wau (a) i ka hana (nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā, hana, ola pilikino), akā hāʻawi wau iā ʻoe i kēia mau mea pāʻani āpau. a no laila, manaʻo wau iā ʻoe!"

E heluhelu hou:

  • Nā hoʻomaha hoʻoilo a pau!

ʻO ka hope, ʻo ka Makahiki Hou, ka Kalikimaka no kākou a pau he manawa kūpono e hoʻi ai i ko kākou wā kamaliʻi. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi o nā makana i loaʻa iā mākou i kēlā manawa, ʻoi aku ka makemake o kā mākou keiki e nele. I ka manawa like, hiki mai ka nui o nā makana i kūpono ʻole i ka makahiki o nā keiki a ʻaʻole kūpono i kā lākou makemake. ʻO nā mea pāʻani a mākou e hāʻawi ai i kahi keiki e hōʻike pinepine i ko mākou makemake ponoʻī: kahi alahao uila i loaʻa ʻole i ka wā kamaliʻi, kahi pāʻani kamepiula a mākou i makemake ai e pāʻani no ka lōʻihi ... ʻo ke keiki a mākou e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia o ko mākou wā kamaliʻi. ʻO ka hopena, pāʻani nā mākua me nā makana makamae, a hauʻoli nā keiki i nā mea nani e like me ka ʻōwili pepa, pahu a i ʻole ka lipine paʻi.

E heluhelu hou:

  • Nā makana: e pili ana i ka ʻeke

He aha ka pilikia o ka nui o nā makana?

Manaʻo pinepine nā keiki: ʻo ka nui o nā makana i loaʻa iā mākou, ʻoi aku ka nui o ko lākou aloha iā mākou, ʻoi aku ka nui o ko mākou manaʻo i ko lākou mau mākua. I loko o ko lākou manaʻo, ua huikau nā manaʻo o "aloha", "kālā" a me "nā makana". I kekahi manawa ho'ōki wale lākou i ka nānā ʻana i ka poʻe e ʻaʻa e kipa aku iā lākou me ka lima ʻole a lawe mai i kahi mea ʻaʻole lawa ke kumu kūʻai. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo i ka waiwai hōʻailona o ka hana, ka waiwai o ka manaʻo nui e hāʻawi makana. Pono mau nā keiki "Gifted" i nā hōʻike hou o ke aloha. A inā ʻaʻole, ala mai nā paio.

Hiki ke uku ʻia nā makana no ka hana maikaʻi a i ʻole ke aʻo ʻana?

ʻAʻole nui kā mākou mau kuʻuna nani a hauʻoli. ʻO ka hāʻawi makana no ka Makahiki Hou kekahi o lākou. A ʻaʻole pono e hilinaʻi ʻia i nā kūlana. Aia nā manawa maikaʻi loa e uku ai a hoʻopaʻi paha i ke keiki. A i ka lā hoʻomaha, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lawe ʻana i ka manawa e hui pū ai me ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa a, me ke keiki, e hauʻoli i nā makana i hāʻawi ʻia a loaʻa paha.

Loaʻa pinepine nā keiki a nā mākua hemo i nā makana ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole anei ia e hōʻino iā lākou?

Ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻike nā mākua i hemo i ka manaʻo nui o ka hewa i ke keiki a ho'āʻo e muffle me ke kōkua o nā makana.

Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hoʻolauleʻa pinepine kēlā keiki i ka lā hoʻomaha: hoʻokahi me ka makuakāne, ʻo kekahi me ka makuahine. Ke hopohopo nei kēlā me kēia makua ma "kēlā hale" e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻolauleʻa. Aia ka hoʻowalewale e kūʻai i nā makana hou aʻe - ʻaʻole no ka maikaʻi o ke keiki, akā no kā lākou makemake narcissistic. ʻElua makemake - e hāʻawi makana a lanakila (a hōʻoia paha) i ke aloha o kāu keiki - hoʻohui i hoʻokahi. Hoʻokūkū nā mākua no ka makemake o kā lākou mau keiki, a lilo nā keiki i mau pio no kēia kūlana. Ma hope o ka ʻae ʻana i nā kūlana o ka pāʻani, ua maʻalahi lākou e lilo i mau mea ʻino ʻole: "Makemake ʻoe e aloha wau iā ʻoe? A laila e hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kaʻu mea e makemake ai!”

Pehea e hōʻoia ai ʻaʻole hānai ke keiki?

Inā ʻaʻole mākou e hāʻawi i ke keiki i ka manawa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kona mau makemake, a laila, ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke makemake maoli i kekahi mea. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e loaʻa nā makemake, akā inā e ala mai kahi keʻakeʻa ma ke ala e hiki ai iā lākou, e haʻalele paha ʻo ia iā lākou. E māʻona ke keiki inā hoʻopiha mākou iā ia i nā makana a i ʻole e manaʻo ʻo ia e hāʻawi maoli mākou iā ia i nā mea āpau a koke! Hāʻawi iā ia i ka manawa: pono e ulu a oʻo kona mau pono, pono ʻo ia e makemake i kekahi mea a hiki iā ia ke haʻi. No laila e aʻo nā keiki i ka moeʻuhane, e hoʻopaneʻe i ka manawa o ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā makemake, me ka hāʻule ʻole o ka huhū i ka huhū iki *. Eia naʻe, hiki ke aʻo ʻia kēia i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻaʻole wale ma ka lā Kalikimaka.

Pehea e pale aku ai i nā makana i makemake ʻole ʻia?

Ma mua o kou hele ʻana i ka hale kūʻai, e noʻonoʻo i ka moeʻuhane o kāu keiki. E kamaʻilio me ia e pili ana iā ia a inā lōʻihi ka papa inoa, koho i ka mea nui loa. ʻOiaʻiʻo, no ia, ʻaʻole no ʻoe.

Nā makana me kahi hōʻailona?

E hōʻeha ʻia nā keiki liʻiliʻi inā hāʻawi ʻia lākou i nā lako kula, nā lole maʻamau "no ka ulu ʻana" a i ʻole kahi puke hoʻonaʻauao e like me "Rules of good manners." ʻAʻole lākou e mahalo i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo ʻole mai ko lākou manaʻo, ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia no ka pāʻani, akā no ka hoʻonani ʻana i kahi papa. Eʻike nā keiki he mea hoʻohenehene a he makana "me ka hint" (no ka nāwaliwali - dumbbells, no ka hilahila - ka manual "Pehea e lilo ai i alakaʻi"). ʻAʻole hōʻike wale nā ​​makana i ko mākou aloha a me ka mālama ʻana, akā he hōʻike pū kekahi i ke ʻano koʻikoʻi a me ka mahalo i kā mākou keiki.

E pili ana i ia

Tatyana Babushkina

"He aha ka mea i mālama ʻia i loko o nā ʻeke o ka wā kamaliʻi"

ʻOihana no ka Hui Hoʻonaʻauao, 2004.

ʻO Martha Snyder, ʻo Ross Snyder

"ʻO ke keiki ma ke ʻano he kanaka"

Meaning, Harmony, 1995.

* KA MANAʻO EMOTIONAL MA KE KĀKĀKĀ I MANAʻO ʻole ʻia ma ke ala i ka pahu hopu. HOIKE I KA MANAʻO HELELE, PUHAU, HUI, HALA A HILAHILA.

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