Hiki ke lanakila i kāu ʻohana hui!

He mea maʻalahi ia, akā aloha nā hiccups a mākou i manaʻo ʻole ai! No ka holomua i ka luʻi o kēia kumu hoʻohālike ʻohana hou, i hauʻoli nā makuahōnōwai a me nā hūnōna e noho pū. e hahai i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a kā mākou kumu. ʻO kahi ʻike pōkole o nā pitfalls a me kā lākou hoʻonā.

"ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke aloha i ke keiki a ke kāne aʻu i aloha ai. ʻOi aku ka ikaika ma mua oʻu, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke lilo i makuahine! “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. ʻAʻole no kou aloha i ke kāne e aloha ai ʻoe i kāna mau keiki! No ka manawa, ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu ʻoe i nā honi, nā pūliki, ʻaʻole ia he hōʻole, hiki ke ulu i nā mahina. ʻO ka noho pū ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā e hiki ai ke hoʻokō i ke kuleana o ka makua hoʻokele. Mai manaʻo hewa ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo "makuahine" me kahi keiki ʻaʻole nau, ʻaʻole e aloha i nā keiki a kāu hoa e like me kou makemake i kāu. ʻAʻole ia e kāohi iā ʻoe mai ka hoʻolohe ʻana, ka mālama ʻana iā lākou me ka mahalo, ka mālama ʻana i ko lākou pono a me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi pilina aloha me lākou.

"Ke noho kāna mau keiki ma ka home, makemake koʻu hoa iaʻu e mālama i nā mea āpau a hoʻopiʻi ʻo ia iaʻu no ka mālama ʻole ʻana. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā.E kūkākūkā nui e wehewehe i nā kuleana o kēlā me kēia kanaka. He aha kāu makemake mai iaʻu ? E aha hana 'oe? ʻO wai ka mea kūʻai, hoʻomākaukau i nā meaʻai, holoi i nā lole? Na wai lākou e ʻauʻau, e heluhelu i nā moʻolelo ahiahi e hoʻomoe iā lākou, e lawe iā lākou e pāʻani i ka paka? E pale aku ʻoe i ka hewa ma ke kau ʻana i nā palena paʻa mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka mea āu e ʻae ai e hana a ʻaʻole paha.

"Ke hoʻopiʻi nei ka wahine mua a koʻu hoa i kāna keiki e kūʻē iaʻu. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. E lawe i kāu kelepona a wehewehe aku iā ia ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e pani i kona wahi, e like me ia, makemake ʻoe i ka maikaʻi o kāna keiki a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi nona e holo maikaʻi nā mea ma waena o ʻolua. ʻAʻohe nīnau e lilo ʻoe i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa ma ka honua, akā pono ka liʻiliʻi o ka kamaʻilio a me ka mahalo no ka pono o nā mea āpau.

 

 

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 “ʻOi aku ka ikaika ma mua oʻu, lili au i kona mau manaʻo no kāna keiki. Aia ʻo ia ma laila, nona wale nō! “

ʻO ka hoʻonā.ʻO kēia keiki mai kahi hui mua, ʻo ia ka mea i loaʻa i ka wā o kāu ipo i hala he wahine ʻē aʻe i mea nui i kāu hoa. ʻAʻole ʻoe he haipule, a inā he mau manaʻo maikaʻi kou, ʻo kou lili he hopena maʻamau. E nānā i kāu moʻolelo pilikino a nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ke aha ʻoe i hoʻoweliweli nui ai e kēia ex-girlfriend ʻaʻole ia he hoʻokūkū aloha. A e ʻōlelo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, ʻaʻohe pili o ke aloha makua kāne i kāna keiki me ke aloha nui a me ke aloha kino iā ʻoe. E hoʻolimalima iā ia i nā manawa kūikawā i ka duet me kāna keiki a lawe i ka manawa e ʻike i kāu mau hoaaloha.

"ʻAʻole makemake kaʻu keiki i koʻu hoa a he mea ʻeha iaʻu ke ʻike iā ia e ʻeha a huhū. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoikaika i ke aloha, no laila e ʻae ʻaʻole e kaʻana like kāu keiki i kou hoihoi no kāu hoa! ʻAʻole ʻo ia i waena o kahi moʻolelo aloha, ʻaʻole like me ʻoe. ʻO ka hoʻoikaika nui ʻana i kāu keiki e aloha i kona makuakāne, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka hana. E wehewehe aku iā ia ʻo kāu ipo kēia kanaka, e noho pū ana ʻo ia me ʻoe. Hoʻohui ʻoe ua hoʻokumu pū ʻoe i nā lula e pili ana i ka nohona ʻohana, pono ʻo ia e mahalo iā lākou e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Hoʻohui i kou aloha iā ia a aloha pū ʻoe i kou hoa.

"Hāʻawi mai kāna keiki iaʻu i ka ʻōlelo kaulana: 'ʻAʻole ʻoe koʻu makuahine! ʻAʻohe ou kuleana e kauoha iaʻu! ” ” 

ʻO ka hopena E noi i kāu hoa e kākoʻo iā ʻoe i kāu kuleana ma ke ʻano he makuahōnōwai wahine, e hōʻike ākea i kona hilinaʻi iā ʻoe. He mea nui kona kākoʻo iā ʻoe e lawe i kou wahi ma ka ʻohana hou. A e hoʻomākaukau i kāu mau laina: ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole wau ʻo kou makuahine, akā ʻo wau ke kanaka makua ma kēia hale. Aia nā lula a kūpono hoʻi iā ʻoe!

“Makemake au e maikaʻi nā mea a pau, makaʻu wau i ka nalowale ʻana o kaʻu hoa kāne a me koʻu ʻohana hou. Akā, aia nā leo i nā manawa a pau! “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. Haʻalele i ka makemake e holo maikaʻi nā mea a pau ma nā koina a pau. No ka loaʻa ʻole o nā hakakā ākea ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻoluʻolu nā mea a pau. Ma ke kue! ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻomalu ʻia nā pilina, a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia i nā kaikunāne (i haku hou ʻia a ʻaʻole paha). Ke hū lākou, he mea ʻeha ke ola, akā maikaʻi no ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia a i waho. Inā ʻaʻohe mea i puka mai, e hoʻokomo nā kānaka a pau i kā lākou ʻōhumu. Akā, he mea kūpono ʻoe ma ke ʻano he makuahōnōwai wahine e makaʻala i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pilina.

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“Ke hoʻohewa ʻia nei au no ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha i kaʻu keiki. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā.E akahele loa i ka pono a me ke kaulike, mai hoʻopaʻi i kāu keiki ma mua o ka haʻi. ʻO ka hoʻololi nui ʻana he mea ʻino loa ia no kāu keiki ponoʻī. ʻO nā keiki i loko o ka empathy, mamao loa mai ka hauʻoli i kona kūlana kūlana, e manaʻo ana kāu no ka mea ʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo i kona kuasi-kaikunāne a quasi-kaikuahine paha, e manaʻo hewa a hauʻoli ʻo ia. no lakou.

"Ke ho'āʻo nei kāna keiki e hoʻohuli i kona makuakāne iaʻu. Ke ʻimi nei ʻo ia e hoʻopau i kā mākou pilina a puhi i kā mākou ʻohana hou. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. ʻO ke keiki i manaʻo ʻole ʻia, hopohopo e nalowale ke aloha o kona makua e ʻimi i nā mea e pale aku ai i ka pōʻino āna e makaʻu nei. ʻO ia ke kumu he mea nui e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia ma ka hōʻoia hou ʻana iā ia i kāna mea nui, ma ka haʻi ʻana iā ia ma nā ʻōlelo maʻalahi e mau ke aloha makua, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai inā ua kaʻawale kona makuahine a me kona makuakāne, ʻoiai inā e noho ana ʻo ia me kahi mea hou. hoa pili. Mai hoʻohaumia i ke keiki a kekahi, mai hoʻonoho iā ʻoe iho he ʻenemi no kahi keiki liʻiliʻi e makemake wale e mālama ʻia, e hōʻike ana ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻo ia a ʻaʻole makemake e luku i kāu kāne hou!

ʻO ka hōʻike a Marc: "Loaʻa iaʻu koʻu wahi me ka mālie"

I koʻu neʻe ʻana me Juliette, Véra a me Tiphaine, kāna mau kaikamāhine, ua manaʻo lākou he mea kanu ʻōmaʻomaʻo wau! ʻAʻohe oʻu kuleana e komo i kā lākou hoʻonaʻauao ʻana, makemake ʻo Juliette e hoʻopakele i kāna ex i noho ʻino loa no kekahi kāne e mālama i kāna mau mea aloha liʻiliʻi. I ka wā mua, ua maikaʻi iaʻu, ʻaʻole wau makemake e lilo i makua kāne hoʻopukapuka kālā, aloha wau iā Juliette, manawa. A laila, i nā mahina, hoʻomaka mākou e mahalo kekahi i kekahi, e kamaʻilio pū kekahi i kekahi. Ua hoʻokuʻu au iā lākou e hele mai, ʻaʻole wau i noi. Aia wau ma ko lākou ʻaoʻao, makemake wau e pāʻani me ia i ke kali ʻana iā Juliette e hoʻi mai i ka home mai ka hana. Hoʻomaka wau e kuke liʻiliʻi na lākou, hana wau e like me koʻu manaʻo a loaʻa iaʻu koʻu wahi me ka mālie. “

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“ʻAʻole hiki i kā mākou mau keiki ke honi i mua o lākou. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā.Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe i kahi pilina aloha, he ʻuʻuku ʻoe. Akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pale ʻana i nā hōʻike aloha i mua o lākou, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma ka hoʻomaka. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, no ka mea ʻaʻole pono nā keiki e komo i ka moekolohe makua, ʻaʻole ia o kā lākou ʻoihana. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, no ka mea, makemake mākou a pau e noho like ko mākou mau mākua e like me ka moʻolelo moʻolelo. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i kou makuakāne e honi i kekahi wahine a i ʻole kou makuahine e honi ana i kahi kāne ʻē aʻe e hoʻihoʻi mai i nā hoʻomanaʻo ʻeha.

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He liʻiliʻi nā kaikamāhine i koʻu ʻike mua ʻana iā lākou. ʻO ka lilo ʻana i lālā o ko lākou ʻohana ʻo ia ka luʻu nui loa aʻu i kū ai. ʻO kā mākou hoʻomaha hoʻomaha ʻohana mua i hōʻailona i kahi huli ʻana i ko mākou pilina. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa lōʻihi i kahi ʻokoʻa he manawa kupua. 

A ʻo ka mea i hoʻoikaika nui ai i kā mākou pili ʻana, ʻo ia ka hōʻea ʻana mai o ko lākou kaikaina. I kēia manawa, loaʻa iā mākou kahi pilina kino maoli e hui pū ai iā mākou. “

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"Ke hopohopo nei au i nā hopena pule i ka wā e noho pū ana kāna keiki me mākou. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. He mea paʻakikī i ke keiki i hele mai i kona makua i ka hopena pule ʻaʻole e manaʻo "nui". ʻOi loa inā mālama kona makua i kekahi keiki i ka manawa piha. No ke kōkua ʻana iā ia ʻaʻole e haʻahaʻa i ke aloha ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe, e hoʻonohonoho iā ia e kaʻana like i nā manawa kūikawā me kona makua. E lawe ʻo ia i kēlā mau manawa e like me nā waiwai o ka hale ʻē aʻe.

“Mai koʻu hāpai ʻana, paʻakikī kaʻu mau keiki hānai. “

ʻO ka hoʻonā. ʻO ke keiki hānau ʻole e hāʻawi i ka ʻiʻo i kāu hui. ʻO ka poʻe ʻē aʻe e hoʻomanawanui i ka kaʻawale ʻana e like me ka mea hiki iā lākou, akā ʻo ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi pēpē hānau hou he mea hōʻeha e hiki ai ke hoʻāla hou i ka lili i hele pinepine ʻole ʻia. E hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā lākou a wehewehe iā lākou ʻo kēia hānau ʻana e hui pū ai ka ʻohana hou.

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