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Kamaʻilio waha ʻole: deciphering body language
Hōʻike mākou iā mākou iho me nā huaʻōlelo, akā me nā ʻōuli. Ma ka nānā ʻana i ka ʻōlelo a ke kanaka, hiki ke haʻi inā hopohopo lākou, hoihoi, inā wahaheʻe lākou, a i ʻole inā lākou ma ka pale ...
He aha ka ʻōlelo kino?
ʻO ke kino ke ʻano o ka hōʻailona a ʻike ʻole ʻole o ko mākou kino, kā mākou hana, kā mākou helehelena, ko mākou kūlana ... Hāʻawi ia i ka ʻike e pili ana i ko mākou ʻano naʻau a i ʻole nā manaʻo.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ka kamaʻilio waha ʻole i kapa ʻia synergology. Wahi a nā loea i kēia aʻo, ʻo 56% ia o ka leka i kahi kamaʻilio. ʻO kekahi mau manaʻo e wehewehe i ka ʻōlelo kino.
Hoʻolohe a me ka hoihoi
Ke hoihoi a hoihoi paha kekahi kanaka, ua hāmama nā maka a nānā mālie i ke kanaka e ʻōlelo ana a i ʻole i ka mea me ke ʻālohilohi mau ʻana o nā lihilihi: kahi neʻe e hāʻawi i ka rhythm i ka hoʻohui o ka ʻike. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, hiki i kahi nānā kūpaʻa ke hōʻike ua nalo ke kanaka i ka noʻonoʻo.
Eia hou, ʻo ke kākoʻo ʻana i kona poʻo me kona manamana nui ma lalo o ka ʻāʻī a me ke kunou ʻana i kona poʻo he hōʻailona hoihoi nui ia.
Ka wahaheʻe
Ke kuhikuhi i ka maka o ke kanaka ke kamaʻilio hiki ke hōʻike he wahaheʻe lākou: inā aia ka maka i ka ʻākau, aia kahi manawa kūpono e wahaheʻe nei iā ʻoe. ʻO kēia kuhiakau mai nā synergologists, ka mea i manaʻoʻiʻo ka nānā ʻana o nā maka i ka ʻāpana o ka lolo i ka wā e noʻonoʻo ai ke kanaka a i ʻole ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe e hoʻomanaʻo i kahi hanana.
Eia hou, ʻo nā hana a pau i kapa ʻia ʻo "parasite", ʻo ia hoʻi ka ʻōlelo maʻamau ʻole no kāu mea kamaʻilio, e hōʻike paha he wahaheʻe kāna. ʻO ka hoʻopā ʻana i kou pepeiao, kou lauoho, a wili ʻana paha i kou ihu mau ʻano e kākoʻo i ke kanaka i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e noho kūlohelohe ke hoʻāʻo e hūnā i kekahi mea, ʻoiai he ʻano ʻokoʻa lākou.
ʻO Vexation
Hiki i ka huhū ke hana i nā aʻa koko i ka ihu e ʻaelike. ʻO kekahi mea hilahila e hoʻopā pinepine i ko lākou ihu.
Weliweli
Ke hopohopo ke kanaka, akā e hoʻāʻo e hūnā, e hoʻokuʻu kūlohelohe lākou i ko lākou hopohopo ma nā lālā o lalo. Pēlā nō, ke pāʻani nei me nā manamana o kekahi a i ʻole me nā mea i kū i ka makaʻu a i ʻole ka makaʻu pae.
Hōʻike ka neʻe wikiwiki a hopohopo hoʻi i ka hopohopo a me ka palekana ʻole.
ʻO ka hilinaʻi ʻana iho
Ke ʻōlelo kekahi e hana ana i V me ko lākou manamana lima a kuhikuhi i ko lākou mau lima i luna, hōʻike ia i ka hilinaʻi nui iā ʻoe iho. Ke hoʻāʻo nei kēia e hōʻike ua mākaukau lākou i kā lākou kumuhana. Ma ka laulaha, hōʻike ka mea liʻiliʻi i kahi hōʻoia.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka ʻāha i hāpai ʻia, ka umauma ʻōhū a me nā wāwae he nui e hōʻike i ka ʻike ʻana o ke kanaka iā ia iho he alakaʻi.
Hilinaʻi i kekahi
Inā makemake kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e lawe i nā ʻano like a me nā kūlana like me ʻoe, hōʻike kēia ua maikaʻi a hilinaʻi hoʻi lākou.
Eia kekahi, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike, ke launa maikaʻi ka poʻe, ʻike pinepine ʻia ko lākou ʻano a me kā lākou neʻe ʻana.
Nā kūlana pani a pale
Kūleʻa mākou e ʻōlelo i nā wāwae kea he hōʻailona o ke kūpaʻa a me ka pani ʻana. Eia kekahi, mai nā kūkākūkā 2000 i hoʻopaʻa ʻia e Gerard L. Nierenberg lāua ʻo Henry H. Calero, nā mea kākau o Heluhelu i kāu mau hoa kūʻē puke hāmama, ʻaʻohe ʻaelike i ka wā i hele ai kekahi o nā mea kūkākūkā i nā wāwae!
Pēlā nō, ke kau nei i nā lima e like me ke pani pani, kahi e hana ai i kahi mamao me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka pōʻaiapili, hiki i nā lima i keʻa ke kuhikuhi i kahi ʻano pale.
Akā e akahele e noʻonoʻo mau i ka pōʻaiapili: ʻo ka poʻe, no ka laʻana, ʻoi aku ka pelu ʻana o ko lākou mau lima ke anuanu a i ka ʻole o ka noho lima o ko lākou noho.
ʻO nā lima pani a hāmama paha, e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe o ka ʻōlelo o ke kino he mau hōʻailona wale nō ia a ʻaʻole hiki ke lawe ʻia e like me ka hāʻawi ʻia ʻana, keu hoʻi ʻoiai hiki ke kāohi ʻia.