ʻO kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ʻano o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine o ke kula haʻahaʻa, ʻo ia ka hoʻokumu ʻana i nā hui like ʻole kāne (homogenization), ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ia mau mea i wehewehe pinepine ʻia ʻo "sex segregation". Hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā keiki i ʻelua mau kahua hoʻomoana - nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine - me kā lākou mau lula ponoʻī a me nā loina o ka hana; hoowahawahaia a hoohewaia ke kumakaia ana i ko lakou kahua hoomoana, a o ka manao i kekahi hoomoana ke ano o ka hakaka.
ʻO kēia mau hōʻike waho o ka ʻokoʻa psychosexual a me ka pilikanaka wahine ka hopena o nā ʻano psychological.
Ma waho o kahi noho a me ka moʻomeheu moʻomeheu, ʻike ʻia kekahi mau ʻokoʻa i ka ʻano o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine i nā makahiki ʻeono mua o ke ola. ʻO nā keikikāne 6-8 mau makahiki he ikaika a makemake nui lākou, aʻo nā kaikamāhine heʻoi aku ka mālie a me ka mālie. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka ikaika o nā keikikāne. ʻO ka huhū ke ʻano o ka ʻano e hoʻokaʻawale mau i nā kāne mai nā wahine, me ka ʻole o ka makahiki.
I nā manawa a pau a me nā wahi a pau, ʻo nā keikikāne, me nā ʻokoʻa ʻē aʻe, ke nānā aku nei i nā hoʻokō kiʻekiʻe a pono e hilinaʻi iā lākou iho i ka nui o nā kaikamahine. I ka huli ʻana, ʻike ʻia nā kaikamahine e ka palupalu a me ke akahai. Paipai ʻia nā keikikāne e ʻoi aku ka ikaika, ʻoiai ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kaikamahine.
ʻO kekahi hopena o nā manaʻo like ʻole o ka ʻano o nā keiki, ʻo ia ka hana ʻana o nā kāne a me nā wahine i nā ʻano like ʻole o ka launa pū ʻana.
Hoʻomaopopo mua nā kaikamāhine i ka hui i ka mea a me ke ʻano o ko lākou pili ʻana iā wai. Hoʻohana ʻia ke kamaʻilio e lākou e hoʻokumu i nā pilina pili, e hoʻoikaika i ka hui pū ʻana a mālama i nā pilina maikaʻi. ʻElua mau hana a nā kaikamāhine - e "maikaʻi" a ma ka manawa like e mālama i ka pilina maikaʻi loa me kā lākou mau hoaaloha i mea e hoʻokō ai i kā lākou mau pahuhopu me kā lākou kōkua. Ke alakaʻi nei nā kaikamāhine i ke ala ma ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka pae o ka ʻaelike i loko o ka hui, e pale aku i ka hakakā a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ko lākou kūlana kiʻekiʻe.
I loko o nā pūʻulu o nā keikikāne, ua kau ʻia nā manaʻo āpau i ka pono pilikino o kēlā me kēia lālā o ka hui. Hoʻohana nā keikikāne i nā kamaʻilio no ka manaʻo ponoʻī, no ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ia iho, e pale i kā lākou «'āina. Hoʻokahi hana ko lākou a pau - ka hōʻoia ʻana iā lākou iho. Hana nā keikikāne i kā lākou ala ma o nā kauoha, nā hoʻoweliweli, a me nā ʻōlelo ʻino.
ʻO nā pāʻani a me nā hana a nā keikikāne he kāne koʻikoʻi: kaua, haʻuki, hoʻokūkū. Makemake nā keikikāne i ka palapala heroic, heluhelu i ka huakaʻi, ka pūʻali koa, ka chivalrous, nā kumumanaʻo detective, ʻo kā lākou mau hiʻohiʻona he poʻe koa wiwo ʻole a wiwo ʻole o nā mea thrillers kaulana a me nā hōʻike TV: James Bond, Batman, Indiana Jones.
I kēia mau makahiki, he pono kūikawā nā keikikāne no ka pili kokoke i ko lākou makuakāne, ke alo o nā mea like me ia; He nui ka poʻe i hoʻohālikelike i nā makua kāne i kūʻē i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. I kēia mau makahiki i ʻike ʻia ai ka haʻalele ʻana o ka makua kāne i ka ʻohana e nā keikikāne. Inā ʻaʻohe makua kāne a ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā pilina me ia, a laila pono kahi kiʻi e pani ai iā ia, hiki ke lilo i kumu aʻoaʻo ma ka ʻāpana haʻuki, he kumu kāne.
Kaikamahine i loko o kā lākou pōʻai kūkākūkā moʻokalaleo a me ka maoli «ali'i», e hoomaka e ohi i na kii o ko lakou punahele artists, e hoʻomaka notebooks i loko o ka mea a lakou e kakau iho mele, poems a me ka moʻolelo naʻauao, ka mea pinepine like primitive a me ka ino i ka poe makua, delve i loko o ka "wahine" hana. (E hoʻololi i nā meaʻai culinary, hana i nā mea hoʻonani). I loko o kēia wā, aia kahi pono kūikawā no ka pili ʻana i ka manaʻo me ka makuahine: aʻo nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi e lilo i wahine ma ke kope ʻana i ka ʻano o ko lākou makuahine.
Ma muli o ka hoʻomohala ʻana o nā kaikamāhine i ka ʻike ma o ka ʻike ʻana me ko lākou makuahine, ʻo kā lākou pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka hilinaʻi a me ka pili ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Aʻo nā kaikamāhine i ka hoʻolohe, ʻike mua i ka pono e noʻonoʻo mua i nā mea ʻē aʻe.
No lākou, ʻo ka waiwai nui ka pilina kanaka. E aʻo nā kaikamāhine e ʻike i nā mea liʻiliʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana o nā kānaka, mahalo a mālama i ka pilina maikaʻi. Mai ka wā kamaliʻi mai, hopohopo mau lākou i ka hopena o kā lākou ʻano i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Hoʻokumu nā pāʻani kaikamahine i ka hiki ke hana like. ʻO nā pāʻani makuahine a i ʻole nā pāʻani pēpē he mau pāʻani pāʻani i nele i nā mea hoʻokūkū. A i nā pāʻani hoʻokūkū, no ka laʻana, i nā papa, hoʻomaikaʻi nā kaikamahine i nā ʻano pilikino ma mua o nā mākau kamaʻilio hui.
ʻO nā keikikāne ka mea kū'ē. Hoʻopaʻa lākou i ka makemake e ʻike me ko lākou makuahine, pono lākou e kāohi ikaika i nā hōʻike o ka wahine (nāwaliwali, nā waimaka) i loko o lākou iho - i ʻole e hoʻohenehene kā lākou mau hoa i ke "kaikamahine".
No ke keikikāne, ʻo ke kāne ke ʻano o ka ʻokoʻa mai kona makuahine, a ʻo nā keikikāne e hoʻomohala i kahi ʻano ʻike ma o ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka ʻike ʻokoʻa mai nā mea āpau o ka wahine. Hoʻopau lākou i ke aloha, ke aloha, ka mālama, ka hoʻokō. ʻAʻole lākou e pili nui i ka pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka mea nui ka hopena o lākou i ka hopena hope.
Ke aʻo nei nā pāʻani keikikāne i kahi ʻano ʻano ʻokoʻa loa. I nā pāʻani o nā keikikāne, aia mau ka hakakā a me ka hoʻomaka hoʻokūkū. Hoʻomaopopo nā keikikāne i ke koʻikoʻi o ka hoʻoholo hakakā kūpono a aʻo i nā mākau e hoʻoponopono ai. Aʻo lākou e hakakā me nā hoa paio a pāʻani pū me lākou. Ma nā pāʻani, aʻo nā keikikāne i nā mākau o ke alakaʻi a me ka mea hoʻonohonoho. Aʻo lākou e hakakā no ke kūlana ma ka hierarchy kāne. He mea nui nā pāʻani haʻuki hui no nā keikikāne.
ʻAʻole waiwai nā kaikamāhine i ka lanakila ʻana i ka pāʻani no ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina maikaʻi iā lākou ma mua o ka hōʻoia ʻana i ko lākou kūlana kiʻekiʻe. I ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kā lākou kamaʻilio kamaʻilio, aʻo lākou e hoʻokō kekahi i kekahi, ʻaʻole e nānā i ka poʻe lanakila. I nā pūʻulu o nā kaikamahine, ʻaʻohe kumu kumu no ka puka ʻana o nā paio, no ka mea he homogeneous lākou, a ʻo nā lula o ka pāʻani he primitive loa lākou e paʻakikī ke uhaʻi.
Ma muli o ke kūkulu ʻana o nā kaikamāhine a me nā keikikāne i ka pilina ma ke ʻano like ʻole, ʻokoʻa ka ulu ʻana o ka pilina ma nā hui o nā keiki. Eia kekahi laʻana, ma mua o ka hoʻomakaʻana e kamaʻilio, e pili ana ke kaikamahine i ka mea a ka mea kūkākūkā mua i'ōlelo ai a e hōʻike i kona manaʻo, heʻokoʻa loa ia mai ka mea ma mua. ʻAʻole hilahila nā keikikāne, keʻakeʻa kekahi i kekahi, hoʻāʻo e hoʻōho i kekahi i kekahi; hāmau nā kaikamāhine, hāʻawi i nā mea a pau e ʻōlelo. Hoʻopalupalu nā kaikamāhine i nā ʻōlelo aʻo a hoʻokomo i nā hoaaloha i ke kaʻina o ke kamaʻilio. Hāʻawi wale nā keikikāne i ka ʻike a me nā kauoha e hana i kēia a me kēlā.
Hoʻolohe maikaʻi nā kaikamāhine i kekahi i kekahi, i kēlā me kēia manawa e hoʻokomo i nā ʻōlelo hoʻoikaika aloha. Hoʻohenehene pinepine nā keikikāne i ka mea haʻi'ōlelo, keʻakeʻa kekahi i kekahi a ho'āʻo e haʻi koke i kā lākou mau moʻolelo pono'ī, me ka manaʻolana e loaʻa ka pāma a hōʻole e helu me nā koi o nā mea'ē aʻe.
Ke kū mai kahi paio, ho'āʻo nā kaikamāhine e hoʻoluliluli a kūkākūkā, a hoʻoholo nā keikikāne i nā kū'ē'ē i ala mai me ke kōkua o nā mea hoʻoweliweli a me ka hoʻohanaʻana i ka ikaika kino.
Hana maikaʻi nā keikikāne i nā hui, hiki ke ʻike ʻia ma ka laʻana o nā hui haʻuki. Ma nā pūʻulu keikikāne, ʻaʻohe mea mālama i ka manaʻo o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ua kākoʻo ʻia kēia mau pūʻulu e ka mālama koʻikoʻi i nā lula.
No nā kaikamahine a me nā keikikāne, ʻo ka manawa o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o nā makemake ma muli o ke kāne ka manawa o ka hoʻoholo ponoʻī ʻana i ka ʻōnaehana o nā kūlana kūlana a me nā pilina.
Akā ʻo kēia hoʻomohala wale nō e pili ana i ka puka ʻana o ka hoihoi i ka wahine ʻē aʻe, i hōʻike ʻia ma kahi ʻano hoʻokamakama. Hiki ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia kona ʻano kumu a pau, no ka mea he mea hoihoi ia i kahi kūlana o ka repulsion, ke aloha i nā kūlana o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka wahine. Pono ke keikikāne e hōʻike i ke kaikamahine ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻo ia iā ia i waena o nā kaikamahine ʻē aʻe, a huki iā ia i kona manaʻo iā ia iho, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa ʻana mai kona mau hoa.
ʻO ke kaikamahine, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa ʻana i kāna mau hoa, pono e pane i kēia. Hoʻoholo ʻia kēia mau hana kūʻē i loko ma o kahi ʻōnaehana o nā hana koʻikoʻi o waho a nā keikikāne a me nā hana pale a nā kaikamahine. No nā keikikāne, ʻo ka huki ʻana i ka lauoho o nā kaikamahine he ala maʻamau ia e ʻike ai. ʻAʻole hoʻokumu kēia hoʻopaʻapaʻa i nā hakakā koʻikoʻi ma waena o nā keiki. He ʻokoʻa ia mai ka hooliganism no ka mea e hana mau ʻia ana ma ka lehulehu a ʻaʻole lawe i ka huhū a i ʻole ka makemake e hōʻeha, ʻoiai ke ʻano haʻahaʻa loa. Hoʻoulu pinepine nā kaikamāhine iā lākou iho, me he mea lā, e hoʻonāukiuki i nā keikikāne i kahi hōʻike o ka nānā ʻana, e ʻakaʻaka iā lākou ma nā ʻano āpau. ʻO nā hoʻopiʻi a nā kaikamāhine he manaʻo maʻamau ka hoʻolaha ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka nānā. ʻO ka nele o ia mea hiki ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke kaikamahine, ʻaʻole hoihoi.
I ka hui ʻana o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamāhine i ka ʻano like ʻole, hiki i nā keikikāne ke alakaʻi mau. ʻAʻole paʻa nā kaikamāhine i kahi hui hoa, akā i loko o kahi hui hui pū ʻia lākou ma ka ʻaoʻao, e ʻae ana i nā keikikāne e hoʻonohonoho i nā lula a alakaʻi.
Ke hoʻoikaika nei nā keikikāne o ke kula haʻahaʻa i nā ala āpau e hoʻokumu i kā lākou "Z" i loko o ka hui hoa, no laila ke emi nei lākou i nā noi a me nā manaʻo mai nā kaikamahine. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ka ʻike ʻana o nā kaikamahine i nā pāʻani me nā keikikāne ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu a pale aku iā lākou i nā ala āpau.
ʻAʻole manaʻo nā pāʻani no ke keikikāne i ke ʻano o ke kaikamahine. Aʻo nā kaikamāhine i ka pilina ma o ka hoʻomohala ʻana a me ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina maikaʻi. Aʻo nā keikikāne i ka hana hui ʻana ma o ka pāʻani ʻana i nā haʻuki a me nā pāʻani hoʻokūkū kahi e hoʻoikaika ai lākou e hoʻokō i kahi kūlana alakaʻi.
ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona o ka hana i ka wā o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o nā makemake ma muli o ke kāne ke kumu o ka hopohopo i nā pākeke a me ka makemake e kāhea i nā keiki e "kauoha". ʻAʻole pono i nā mākua a me nā kumu ke gu.e. komo i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waena o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine, no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke keʻakeʻa i ka holo piha a me nā kikoʻī o nā keiki ma ke ʻano kūlohelohe o ka ulu ʻana.
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