Mea kākau — Afanaskina Olga Vladimirovna, kumu www.b17.ru
Ua kamaʻāina nā mākua o nā keiki o nā makahiki a pau i ka makemake, a ʻo kekahi me ka huhū.
ʻIke mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o nā keiki he 3 mau makahiki he capricious, akā i ka wā e hoʻololi ai kahi pēpē hoʻokahi makahiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke lohe i nā huaʻōlelo: "Ua maikaʻi kāu, akā ua aʻo wale kaʻu e hele, akā ua hōʻike mua i ke ʻano."
I nā hōʻike o waho, ua like nā whims i nā keiki, a i nā kūlana hoʻi ke kumu. Ma ke ʻano maʻamau, hana ʻino nā keiki i nā huaʻōlelo "ʻaʻole", "ʻaʻole" a i ʻole nā palena i ko lākou makemake a me nā pono, me ka ʻole o ka makahiki.
Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoiai ke hele like nā pilikia o waho, ua hoʻokumu ʻia lākou ma nā kumu like ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi, aia nā ala like ʻole e hoʻoponopono ai i nā whims i kēlā me kēia makahiki. ʻOiai, ʻo nā kumu like nō - ka ʻoluʻolu a i ʻole ke kāohi ʻana i nā pono o ke keiki, akā ʻokoʻa nā pono o nā keiki, ʻokoʻa nā kumu o kā lākou makemake.
No ke aha e kipi ai ke keiki hoʻokahi makahiki?
Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hele, a wehe koke ʻia nā mea nui i mua ona: ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke nānā wale a hoʻolohe, akā hiki iā ia ke kolo i luna a hoʻopā, manaʻo, ʻono, haki, haehae, ʻo ia hoʻi, e hana!!
He manawa koʻikoʻi loa kēia, no ka mea, i kēia mau makahiki, lilo ke keiki i mea hoʻoikaika nui i kāna mau manawa hou e hele mālie ai ka makuahine i ke kua. ʻAʻole no ka manaʻo ʻana o ke keiki iā ia iho he kanaka makua, akā, no ka hopu ʻana o nā manaʻo hou iā ia i hiki ʻole iā ia ke hoʻomalu iā lākou i ke kino.
Ua kapa ʻia kēia ʻano hana kula, ke ʻoliʻoli ke keiki i nā mea a pau i loaʻa i kona mau maka, ua hoihoi ʻia ʻo ia i nā mea a pau e hiki ai ke hana i kekahi hana. No laila, me ka leʻaleʻa ʻāhiu, wikiwiki ʻo ia e wehe i nā keʻena keʻena, nā puka, nā nūpepa hoʻomoe ʻino ma luna o ka papaʻaina a me nā mea ʻē aʻe a pau i hiki ke loaʻa iā ia.
No laila, no nā mākua o kahi pēpē hoʻokahi makahiki, pili kēia mau lula:
- e liʻiliʻi nā pāpā e like me ka hiki
- Pono e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā pāpā i loko o ka paʻakikī a me ka maʻalahi
- ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e pāpā, akā e hoʻohuli
- inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e pāpā, a laila e hāʻawi mau i kahi ʻokoʻa (hiki ʻole kēia, akā hiki i kahi mea ʻē aʻe)
- ʻaʻole e hoʻoneʻe i kahi mea, akā me kahi hana: inā ʻaʻole hoihoi ʻia ke keiki i kahi hue plastik melemele ma kahi o kahi ipu āna i makemake ai e hopu, e hōʻike i kahi hana hiki ke hana ʻia me kēia hue (paʻi iā ia me kahi puna. , e ninini i kekahi mea i loko, e hoʻokomo i ka nūpepa ʻūlū i loko a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.)
- hāʻawi i nā mea ʻē aʻe e like me ka hiki, ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea āpau e hiki ai i ke keiki ke haehae, ʻūlū, kīkēkē, etc.
- mai ho'āʻo e hoʻopaʻa i ke keiki i loko o ka lumi hoʻokahi kahi mea hiki ke uhaʻi a hehi ʻia, e waiho i kahi waiho ma kēlā me kēia kihi e hiki ke hoʻohuli i ke keiki inā pono.
He aha ka hana i kahi keiki ʻekolu makahiki?
Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, hana ʻeha ʻo ia i nā kaohi o kāna hana a i ʻole ka hana ʻole. Akā ʻaʻole kūʻē ke keiki ma muli o ka hana / hana ʻole ponoʻī, akā no ka mea hiki mai kēia kaohi mai ke kanaka makua i mea e hoʻoikaika ai iā ia. ʻO kēlā mau mea. manaʻo ke keiki ʻekolu makahiki e hiki iā ia ke hoʻoholo: e hana a ʻaʻole paha. A me kāna mau kūʻē ʻana, ʻimi wale ʻo ia i ka ʻike ʻana i kāna mau pono i loko o ka ʻohana. A kuhikuhi mau nā mākua i nā mea e pono ai a pono ʻole e hana.
I kēia hihia, pili kēia mau lula i nā mākua o kahi keiki ʻekolu makahiki:
- e hoʻokuʻu i ke keiki i kona wahi ponoʻī (lumi, nā mea pāʻani, nā lole, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe), nāna e mālama iā ia iho.
- mahalo i kāna mau hoʻoholo, ʻoiai inā he hewa lākou: ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke ʻano o nā hopena kūlohelohe ma mua o nā ʻōlelo aʻo
- hoʻohui i ke keiki i ke kūkākūkā, noi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo: he aha ka mea e kuke ai no ka ʻaina ahiahi, kahi ala e hele ai, he ʻeke e hoʻokomo ai i nā mea, etc.
- e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa, e aʻo ke keiki iā ʻoe pehea e palaki ai i kou niho, pehea e ʻaʻahu ai, pehea e pāʻani ai, etc.
- ʻo ka mea nui loa, e ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua ulu maoli ke keiki a pono ʻaʻole i ke aloha wale nō, akā i ka mahalo maoli nō hoʻi, no ka mea, he kanaka ia.
- ʻaʻole pono a makehewa ke hoʻohuli ʻana i ke keiki, pono ʻoe e kūkākūkā me ia, ʻo ia hoʻi, e aʻo e kūkākūkā i kāu mau paio a loaʻa i nā kuʻikahi.
- i kekahi manawa, inā hiki (inā ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi ka pilikia), hiki a pono e hana i ka ʻae ʻana, pēlā ʻoe e aʻo ai i ke keiki ma kāu hoʻohālike e maʻalahi a ʻaʻole paʻakikī a hiki i ka hope.
ʻO kēlā mau mea. inā e hele ana ʻoe a me kāu keiki i kahi pilikia o ka makahiki mua, a laila e hoʻomanaʻo e nui aʻe nā manawa a me nā mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o nā pāpā. No ka mea, ʻo ka mea hoʻoikaika nui ma hope o ka ulu ʻana o kahi keiki hoʻokahi makahiki he hana, hana a hana hou!
Inā pilikiaʻoe a me kāu keiki i nā makahikiʻekolu, a laila e hoʻomanaʻo i ka uluʻana o ke keiki a he mea nui loa kouʻikeʻana iā ia ma keʻano he kaulike, a me ka mahalo, ka mahalo a me ka mahalo hou!