Ua haʻi aku nā makuahine ʻōpio i ka mea a me ke aha e pāpā aku ai iā lākou e alakaʻi i ke ala kahiko o ke ola.
Ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe pehea ka loli o kou ola me ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke kuleana, nā kuleana hou a me nā pō hiamoe ʻole i kēia manawa. ʻO mākou ka neʻe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i nā ʻahamele like ma mua? A hui pū me nā hoaaloha? A hele i nā wahi punahele like? Manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole paha ia ...
Kūpono ka pilikia. A pēlā nō ia i nā kūlanakauhale he nui a me nā tausani o nā mākua like ʻole. ʻO kahi laʻana, ma Sverdlovsk, ʻaʻole i ʻae ʻia nā mākua ʻōpio i ke kūʻai kūpono me kahi stroller; i Moscow, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ka makuahine a me ke kaikamahine e komo i ka veranda o kahi pā kaulana ma hope o ka ʻeiwa o ke ahiahi; ma Vladivostok, ʻaʻole i ʻae ʻia kahi wahine me ka stroller i loko o kahi hōkele (!); a ma hope o ka ʻae ʻole ʻia o kekahi o nā makuahine ʻōpio i ka hale ʻahamele o Tomsk, ua hana ke kaikamahine i kāna papahana ponoʻī ʻo "Mozart mai ka pāluku", nāna i ʻae i nā keiki o nā makahiki āpau e hele.
ʻAʻole lawa paha ka hopena i nā keiki mai kekahi poʻe kipa i nā hale ʻāina a me nā hale ʻaina.
"He makuahine wau no nā keiki ʻekolu a no nā makahiki he nui ʻaʻole wau i hana ma kahi ʻē. No ke aha mai? He maʻalahi ia: ʻo nā hoaaloha a me nā hoaaloha a mākou e hoʻolālā nei e hui pū ai, e ʻōlelo ākea: “E hele keiki ʻole!” ʻAneʻane like ka mea like ma nā maka o nā luna a me nā luna o nā ʻoihana like ʻole. A i loko o nā kinima a me nā kikowaena kūʻai, ʻaʻole hoʻokipa ʻia nā keiki, - wahi a Olga Severyuzhgina. - Kūleʻa ka wehewehe: e hoʻopilikia kāu keiki me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, haki i nā mea āpau, hōʻino i ka hoʻomaha o ka poʻe. Akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hānai i kahi keiki hānai maikaʻi i ʻike i nā lula o ka hana ma kahi ākea, inā pāpā mau ʻia ʻo ia e kipa i kēia mau wahi! ʻAe “
Kākoʻo ʻia ko Olga kūlana ma kahi o ka hapalua o nā makuahine Lūkini, ʻoiai ka hapalua ʻē aʻe ... ʻaʻole makemake pū e noho i kēlā mau wahi kahi i hiki mai ai kahi keiki.
"No ke aha wau e lohe ai i nā keiki ʻē aʻe e walaʻau ana a koi i kekahi mea, inā wau e hoʻokō wale i kaʻu moemoeā a waiho i ka mea like, akā kaʻu keiki ponoʻī! Makemake wau e kiola ʻia mai iaʻu me nā tōmato pala, akā e ʻōlelo nō wau: i nā keʻena lehulehu e pono ʻoe e kau i nā hōʻailona: "Kapu loa ʻia ke komo ʻana me nā keiki!" ʻAʻohe kālā no kahi nanny a kōkua ʻole nā kupuna wahine - noho me kāu keiki ma ka home iā ʻoe iho. Pōkole ke kamaʻilio! “
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka nīnau inā lawe ʻoe i nā keiki me ʻoe i nā hanana like ʻole a i nā hui like ʻole he paʻakikī. Eia kekahi, ʻo ke kaikaina o ke keiki, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī. ʻĀnō e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole kēia he keiki liʻiliʻi wale nō, akā he keiki nō hoʻi me nā pono kūikawā ...
"I kuʻu hānau ʻana i kahi pēpē me Down Syndrome, kaumaha loa wau. A ʻaʻole no ka nui o ke kuhi (ma o ka nui, i kēia manawa ke hoʻoponopono ʻia nei nā mea āpau, a ke noho nei ka poʻe me ia no nā makahiki he nui), akā no ka mea ua maopopo iaʻu ʻaʻole e ʻae ka hui kaiāulu, e like me ma mua. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hele hou i nā ʻahamele a me nā lā nui, e haʻalele wau i ka hele ʻana i nā hanana lehulehu a hāʻawi i nā haleʻaina a me nā hale ʻaina. Ma ka maikaʻi, i kēia mau wahi, e ʻike wau me kaʻu keiki i ka nānā ʻana mai ka ʻaoʻao o ka poʻe kipa. Ma ka maikaʻi loa, e noi wale ʻia mākou e haʻalele i kahi. “
A i kēia manawa, hiki ʻole paha ke hoʻohuli i kēia kūlana? Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he poʻe keiki mākou a pau, a ʻaʻole i pau ke ola me ka helehelena o kahi keiki.
ʻO kēia kahi e hiki ai ke ʻaina awakea me nā keiki ʻelua.
“Hāʻawi ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki i kekahi mau kapu, akā aia lākou a pau i ko mākou poʻo! Ke luliluli mākou i kēia poʻo, e nalowale nā kapu, - maopopo ka makuahine o nā māhoe, ʻo Lilia Kirillova. - Inā haʻi mai kekahi iaʻu ua pāpā ʻia ka puka komo me nā keiki, hōʻole hōʻole wau e hele i kēia hanana a i kēia poʻe paha. No ke aha mai? Akā no ka mea inā ua kau lākou i nā kapu a "hilahila lākou i ka uē o nā keiki", ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻohe mea e hāʻawi i nā hōʻoia ma hope o kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hoʻohilahila ʻia lākou e kaʻu mau hoaaloha, koʻu ʻano o ke ola, a laila ʻo wau iho. A no ke aha wau e pono ai i kēlā poʻe? E manaʻo kīnā ʻole? E manaʻoʻiʻo iaʻu, a me ka ʻole o kēia mea he nui ka poʻe e makemake e hōʻike iā ʻoe pehea e ola ai a me ka mea e hana ai. No laila, mai hāʻawi aku iā lākou i kumu hou aʻe no kēia a me ka hauʻoli aʻe mai ka lanakila o ka lanakila. “