Makemake nā mākua aloha i kā lākou mau keiki i poʻe holomua a hilinaʻi iā lākou iho. Akā pehea e hoʻoulu ai i kēia mau ʻano i loko o lākou? Ua hāʻule ka mea kākau moʻolelo i kahi haʻawina hoihoi a ua hoʻoholo e hoʻāʻo i kona ʻohana ponoʻī. Eia kāna mea i loaʻa ai.
ʻAʻole wau i hoʻopili nui i nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi i hui ai koʻu mau kūpuna a i ʻole ko lākou noho ʻana i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi. A hiki i kekahi lā, ʻike wau i kahi haʻawina mai ka makahiki 1990.
Ua hoʻokolohua ʻo Marshall Duke lāua ʻo Robin Fivush mai ke Kulanui o Emory ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa a ʻike i ka nui o nā keiki i ʻike i ko lākou aʻa, ʻoi aku ka paʻa o ko lākou noʻonoʻo, ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī a ʻoi aku ka hilinaʻi hiki iā lākou ke mālama i ko lākou ola.
"ʻO nā moʻolelo o nā ʻohana e hāʻawi i ke keiki i ka manawa e manaʻo ai i ka mōʻaukala o ka ʻohana, e hoʻokumu i kahi pilina me nā hanauna ʻē aʻe," heluhelu wau i ka haʻawina. - ʻOiai ʻeiwa wale nō ʻo ia, manaʻo ʻo ia i ka lokahi me ka poʻe i noho i hoʻokahi haneli mau makahiki i hala, ua lilo lākou i ʻāpana o kona ʻano. Ma o kēia pilina, hoʻomohala ʻia ka ikaika o ka noʻonoʻo a me ke kūpaʻa. "
ʻAe, nā hopena maikaʻi loa. Ua hoʻoholo wau e hoʻāʻo i ka nīnau nīnau a ka poʻe ʻepekema i kaʻu mau keiki ponoʻī.
Ua maʻalahi lākou i ka nīnau "Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i kahi i ulu ai kou mau mākua?" Akā, hina lākou i nā kūpuna. A laila neʻe mākou i ka nīnau "Ua ʻike ʻoe i kahi i hui ai kou mau mākua?". Eia nō hoʻi, ʻaʻohe hitches, a ua lilo ke ʻano i mea aloha loa: "Ua ʻike ʻoe i ka makuakāne i loko o ka lehulehu ma ka pā, a he aloha ka ʻike mua."
Akā, ma ka hui ʻana o nā kūpuna ua kū hou. Ua haʻi aku au iā ia ua hui nā mākua o kaʻu kāne ma kahi hula ma Bolton, a ua hui koʻu makuakāne a me koʻu makuahine ma kahi hui hoʻokuʻu kaua nuklea.
Ma hope mai, nīnau au iā Marshall Duke, "Ua maikaʻi paha inā hoʻonani ʻia kekahi o nā pane?" ʻAʻole pili, wahi āna. ʻO ka mea nui, kaʻana like nā mākua i ka moʻolelo ʻohana, a hiki i nā keiki ke haʻi i kekahi mea e pili ana.
Eia hou: "Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i ka mea e hana nei i ka ʻohana i ka wā i hānau ai ʻoe (a me kou mau kaikunāne a mau kaikuahine)?" Ua liʻiliʻi loa ka hiapo i ka wā i ʻike ʻia ai nā māhoe, akā hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i kapa ʻia ʻo ia he "pepe pink" a me "pepe uliuli".
A i koʻu hanu ʻana i ka ʻoluʻolu, ua paʻakikī nā nīnau. "Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i kahi i hana ai kou mau mākua i ko lāua wā ʻōpiopio?"
Hoʻomanaʻo koke ke keiki hiapo i ka hāʻawi ʻana o ka makuakāne i nā nūpepa ma luna o ke kaʻa, a ʻo ke kaikamahine muli loa ʻo wau he mea lawelawe, akā ʻaʻole wau maikaʻi ma ia mea (hoʻokahe mau wau i ke kī a huikau ka ʻaila kālika me ka mayonnaise). "A i kou wā i hana ai i loko o kahi hale pāʻani, ua hakakā ʻoe me ke kahu, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe meaʻai mai ka papa kuhikuhi, a lohe nā malihini a pau iā ʻoe."
Ua haʻi maoli aku au iā ia? Pono anei lākou e ʻike? ʻAe, wahi a Duke.
ʻO nā moʻolelo hoʻohenehene mai koʻu wā ʻōpiopio ke kōkua iā lākou: no laila e aʻo ai lākou pehea i lanakila ai ko lākou ʻohana i nā pilikia.
"Hūnā pinepine ʻia nā ʻoiaʻiʻo maikaʻi ʻole mai nā keiki, akā ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā hanana maikaʻi ʻole no ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka manaʻo ma mua o nā mea maikaʻi," wahi a Marshall Duke.
ʻEkolu ʻano o nā moʻolelo mōʻaukala ʻohana:
- I ke ala ʻana: "Ua hoʻokō mākou i nā mea āpau mai ka ʻole."
- I ka hāʻule: "Ua nalowale mākou i nā mea āpau."
- A ʻo ka koho kūleʻa loa he "swing" mai kekahi mokuʻāina i kekahi: "Ua loaʻa iā mākou nā piʻi a me lalo."
Ua ulu au me nā ʻano moʻolelo hope loa, a makemake wau e manaʻo e hoʻomanaʻo pū nā keiki i kēia mau moʻolelo. Ua ʻike kaʻu keiki ua lilo kona kupuna kāne i mea miner i ka makahiki 14, a ua ʻike kaʻu kaikamahine ua hele kona kupuna wahine i ka hana i kona wā ʻōpio.
Ua maopopo iaʻu ke ola nei mākou i kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa loa i kēia manawa, akā ʻo kēia ka ʻōlelo a ka mea lapaʻau ʻohana ʻo Stephen Walters: "He nāwaliwali ke kaula hoʻokahi, akā i ka wā e ulana ʻia ai i kahi mea nui aʻe, pili me nā kaula ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka haki ʻana. ” ʻO kēia ke ʻano o ko mākou ikaika.
Manaʻo ʻo Duke he kumu maikaʻi ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā keaka ʻohana no ka launa pū ʻana o nā mākua a me nā keiki ke hala nā makahiki o ka wā moe. "ʻOiai ʻaʻole ola ka meʻe o ka moʻolelo, hoʻomau mākou e aʻo mai iā ia."
No ka mea kākau: He mea kākau moʻolelo ʻo Rebecca Hardy ma Lākana.