He hihia kupaianaha i kona loko ʻino. Ua pepehi ʻane ʻelua mau ʻōpio i kahi kumu a me kekahi mau haumāna.
Ma ka pūnaewele o ke Kōmike Hoʻokolokolo o ka Ter Teritori, aia kahi leka weliweli: i ke kakahiaka o Ianuali 15, ua hakakā nā keiki kula ʻelua i kekahi o nā kula o ke kūlanakauhale. ʻAʻole lākou i ʻike i ka pilina me kā lākou mau lima: lawe mai kekahi i nunchaku me ia, a hopu kekahi i ka pahi. ʻAʻole maʻamau ka ʻimi ʻana i nā haumāna ma ka puka komo, no ka mea, no lākou nō kā lākou. Akā, makehewa.
Ua hoʻāʻo kekahi kumu a me kekahi mau keiki e komo i ka hakakā. ʻO ka wahine a me kekahi o nā haumāna i hoʻāʻo e hōʻoki i ka hakakā ke hele nei i kahi ʻokiʻoki: ua ʻoki nui ʻia lākou. Ua lawe ʻia kekahi mau keiki kula hou i ka haukapila me nā hōʻeha liʻiliʻi: ʻo ka ʻōpio brutal e wewe nei i ka pahi ma ka ʻākau a me ka hema. Ua weliweli loa nā mea hōʻike i ke kaua. A hoʻokahi nīnau a nā mākua: no ke aha i hoʻouka aku ai nā keiki i kekahi i kekahi? No ke aha i hele ai ke kaua no ke ola a me ka make? No ke aha ka nui o ka huhū a me ka hoʻomāinoino i nā ʻōpio? A ʻo ka mea nui loa: ʻo wai ka mea e ʻike iā ia?
Forensic psychiatrist, kauka o ka ʻepekema ʻepekema a me ke polofesa psychiatry ʻo Mikhail Vinogradov i ka manaʻo o nā aʻa o ka pōʻino i hoʻomaka i nā ʻohana o nā keikikāne.
ʻO nā mea āpau i loaʻa i nā keiki, maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha, hoʻomaka mai ka ʻohana. Pono mākou e noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o nā ʻohana i loaʻa i ka poʻe ʻōpio.
ʻAʻohe a mākou pane i kēia nīnau. Akā, pehea inā maikaʻi nā ʻohana? Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe mea e manaʻo he hiki i nā kāne ke hoʻolei i kēlā mea.
ʻOiai inā he makuahine a me kahi makuakāne, inā he mau kānaka maikaʻi lāua a hui pū kekahi me kekahi, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i ke keiki i kekahi mea. ʻO ka mea mua o ka nānā. E hoʻi mai i ka home mai ka hana - hana me nā hana o ka hale. Kuke ʻaina ahiahi, hoʻopau i ka hōʻike, hoʻomaha ma ke kīwī. A mālama ʻole nā keiki. ʻO kona hemahema ka pilikia nui i loko o nā ʻohana o kēia ao.
Wahi a ka psychiatrist, hoʻowahāwahā nā mākua i ke kuleana o ke kamaʻilio ola ʻana me ke keiki. Akā ʻaʻole paʻakikī kēia: ʻo 5-10 mau minuke wale nō o kahi kamaʻilio mehana, pilikino e lawa ai ka ʻuhane o kahi keiki (ʻo kahi ʻōpio kekahi keiki) e ʻoluʻolu.
Pākuʻi i ke keiki, ʻapo, nīnau pehea ʻoe, ʻaʻole ma ke kula, akā pēlā nō. Hoʻomehana ka mehana makua i nā ʻuhane o nā keiki. A inā maikaʻi ka pilina ʻohana, akā kūlana, pilikia paha kēia.
A ʻo ka mea e ʻike i nā wana mua o ka loko ʻino a me ka huhū i loko o kahi keiki ... ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea nui ka hana a ka ʻohana ma aneʻi. Ua akaka he makua ʻole nā mākua ponoʻī; ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i kahi o ka maʻamau, kahi o ka pathology. No laila, pono e hōʻike i ke keiki i kahi loea, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻohe pilikia e ʻike ʻia. Psychologist kula? ʻAʻole lākou ma nā wahi āpau. A ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i kahi ala kokoke i kāu keiki, he nui loa kāna mau papa.
I ka makahiki 12-13, pono ia no ka psychologist, ʻaʻole i ka psychiatrist, e kamaʻilio me ke keiki. Pono kēia i mea e hōʻike ai i kāna mau makemake i loko loa. ʻO ka huhū kahi hiʻohiʻona o nā keiki āpau. He mea nui e kuhikuhi iā ia i kahi ala maikaʻi.
I kēia makahiki, hele nā keiki i nā loli hormonal i ke kino. Aia paha ka huhū i kahi pae makua, ʻaʻole hiki i ka lolo o ke keiki ke kū me ia. No laila, ʻōlelo pinepine ʻia nā ʻōpio e hoʻouna ʻia i nā ʻāpana haʻuki: mokomoko, hockey, aerobics, basketball. Ma laila, hiki i ke keiki ke hoʻolei i ka ikehu me ka hana ʻino ʻole i kekahi.
Hoʻomaha nā keiki. ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana o ka ikehu, hana ia - ʻo kēia ka mea nui.
A inā ʻoe e haʻo i kēia manawa a hele aku ke keiki i waho? Ua lohi paha e hoʻoponopono i ke kūlana?
I kēia hihia, ʻaʻole pono ka hele ʻana i kahi psychologist, akā he pono. Hiki ke hoʻoponopono i ka lawena ma kahi o ʻeono mau mahina. 4-5 mau mahina inā pili ke keiki. A i hoʻokahi makahiki - inā ʻaʻole.