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ʻO ka pilina ma waena o nā kaikunāne, kōkua ia e ulu!
Aloha lākou kekahi i kekahi, hoʻopaʻapaʻa, mahalo kekahi i kekahi, mālama ʻole kekahi i kekahi, hoʻohālike kekahi i kekahi, huāhuā kekahi i kekahi… ʻO ka pilina ma waena o nā kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine he manawa maikaʻi loa ia e ʻimi ai i nā poʻohiwi me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a hoʻokumu i ko lākou wahi i kahi hui. He hale hana maoli no ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i ke ola i loko o ke kaiāulu!
“ʻEkolu mau kupua liʻiliʻi o 11 mahina, 2 makahiki a me 4 makahiki koke, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā, akā i koʻu ʻike ʻana iā lākou e pāʻani pū ana a ʻakaʻaka pū, hauʻoli ia e poina iaʻu koʻu luhi! ʻO wau ke keiki kamaʻāina, ʻike wau i ka pilina kupaianaha e hoʻohui ai i nā kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine. E like me nā mākua a pau, mahalo ʻo Amélie i ka pilina paʻa i hoʻohui i kāna mau keiki. He ʻoiaʻiʻo, mahalo pinepine nā kamaliʻi i ko lākou mau kūpuna. Pono ʻoe e ʻike i ke ʻano o ka paʻipaʻi ʻana o nā pēpē i ko lākou mau wāwae a me nā lima a me ka ʻakaʻaka i ka hele ʻana mai o ko lākou mau kaikunāne, me ka ʻike ʻana i kēia mau "kanaka liʻiliʻi" e like me lākou a me ka hana ʻana i nā mea hoihoi e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā manawa e leʻaleʻa ai.
ʻO kahi hui pinepine
He ʻoiaʻiʻo aia pinepine ka pilina kūlohelohe a me ka manawaleʻa i kahi kaikunāne. ʻAʻole hiki i nā mākua ke manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ka fraternity e hōʻike ana i ka lōkahi a me ke aloha, akā ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia! ʻO ka lili ma waena o nā kaikunāne he manaʻo hiki ʻole ke ʻike ʻoe pehea e ʻike ai a aʻo i ka defuse. Pēlā nō, hiki iā mākou ke lilo i mau kaikunāne a ʻaʻohe pilina no ka mea ʻokoʻa mākou. E like me kā ka psychoanalyst ʻo Dina Karoubi-Pecon i kahakaha ai: "Ma kahi kaikunāne, aia i kēlā me kēia keiki ke kuleana e koho i ke kaikunāne a i ʻole ke kaikuahine me ia e hui ai. Akā, he kuleana ko ke keiki e koho ʻaʻole e hana i ka berita. He hewa loa ia, no ka mea, ʻaʻole ia e pane i ka ʻōlelo a nā mākua: "He mau kaikunāne ʻoe, he kuleana ʻoe e noho maikaʻi a aloha kekahi i kekahi!" ʻAe, moeʻuhane nā mākua i nā kaikunāne ʻaʻole wale ke aloha, akā ʻaʻole lawa kēia makemake e hana i kahi ʻike maoli. ʻAʻole hiki ke kauoha ʻia ka manaʻo a me ka hoʻopili ʻana, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, mahalo i kekahi, ʻae! Na lākou e hoʻokumu i nā hana a me nā lula e pono ai i hiki i kēlā me kēia keiki ke hoʻonohonoho iā ia iho e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a aʻo e pale iā ia iho inā pono.
He mea maʻamau ka hoʻokūkū ma waena o nā kaikunāne!
ʻO ke kaikunāne a i ʻole ke kaikuahine ka mea a mākou e kaʻana like ai i ka hoʻoilina hoʻoilina hoʻokahi, akā ma luna o ka hale hoʻokahi a me nā mākua hoʻokahi! A i ka ʻike ʻana o kahi ʻelemakule i ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi pēpē hānau hou, manaʻo koke ʻia ka mea komo he "ʻaihue o ke aloha makua". ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia ka lili hoahānau a maʻamau. Pono ʻoe e heluhelu i nā moʻolelo moʻolelo kuʻuna e like me Cinderella e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai! Akā he mau ʻano maikaʻi ko nā manaʻo hoʻokūkū. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka ʻike ʻana i ka lili a me ka lanakila ʻana e hiki ke lilo i mea maikaʻi loa no ka noho ʻana i ke kaiāulu ma hope aku, ʻoi aku hoʻi ma ke kula a me ka honua ʻoihana kahi e hoʻokūkū ai ka hoʻokūkū… e kūʻē iā ia, e ʻike iā ia he mea pili a ʻokoʻa hoʻi, a e ana i kona ikaika i hoʻohālikelike ʻia me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka ʻimi ʻana e huki i ka manaʻo o kona mau mākua e hoʻoikaika i kēlā me kēia keiki e hoʻomohala i nā hoʻolālā o ka hoʻowalewale e hoʻoikaika i ka pilina e hoʻohui iā ia i kona mau mākua a aloha ʻia e lākou. He mea hoʻoikaika maikaʻi loa ia, no ka mea e hoʻāʻo kēlā me kēia keiki e ʻoi aku ma mua o kekahi, akā ma mua o nā mea āpau e hele ma mua o kona mau palena ponoʻī i mea e "hoʻohoihoi" iā lākou.
Elder, ʻōpio ... kūkulu mākou iā mākou iho
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o nā kaikunāne a me nā kaikunāne he hale hana koʻikoʻi no ka launa pū ʻana. Ma ka hamo ʻana i nā poʻohiwi me nā ʻokoʻa o ke kaikunāne a me ke kaikuahine e kūkulu ai kekahi iā ia iho! ʻEka, ʻōpio, ʻōpio, e loaʻa i nā mea a pau ko lākou wahi! ʻO ka poʻe kahiko, me ka makemake ʻole, e ʻae i nā ʻōpio e hānai i nā mea āpau a lākou i ʻike ʻole ai i ka hana. Nānā nā Cadets, mahalo, hoʻohālike a ulu aʻe e kūlike a ʻoi aku paha i ko lākou kumu hoʻohālike. ʻAʻole kēia hana hui ʻana he alanui hoʻokahi no ka mea na nā kamaliʻi i hoʻonaʻauao i nā poʻe kahiko. ʻO kēia ka ʻōlelo a Juliette, ka makuahine o Hugo lāua ʻo Maxime, i haʻi mai iā mākou: “He keikikāne mālie a mālie ʻo Hugo, makemake ʻo ia e pāʻani wale. ʻIke loa, i ka hiki ʻana mai o Maxime, ua hoʻonāukiuki koke ʻo ia i nā maʻamau o kona kaikunāne no ka mea he puahiohio maoli ʻo Maxime. Makemake ʻo ia e holo, pāʻani kinipōpō, ʻeke, piʻi i nā kumulāʻau. ʻO kona ʻaoʻao hyperactive i hoʻopili ʻia i kona kaikuaʻana i wehe i nā pāʻani pāʻani lehulehu. He kiaʻi kiaʻi maikaʻi ʻo Hugo, ʻo Maxime kahi mea hoʻokūkū maikaʻi a makemake nā mea āpau iā lākou i kā lākou hui! “
E like me Hugo lāua ʻo Maxime, ʻike nā kaikunāne he nui nā mea e aʻo ai mai kekahi i kekahi a ke hana nei nā kaikunāne ma ke ʻano he mea hoʻoikaika ulu maoli. “Ke koi mau nei ka Psychology i ka hoʻonaʻauao makua… Akā, aia nō ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana e nā kaikaina, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻike ʻia! », E kaha ana i ka mea psychologist Daniel Coum.
No kēlā me kēia i kona ʻano ponoʻī
Inā kūkulu ʻia nā kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine e ka ʻike maikaʻi, e like me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua kūkulu ʻia lākou ma ke kūʻē. E like me kā ka psychoanalyst Dina Karoubi-Pecon i hoʻohālikelike ai: "Hoʻohana nā keiki i nā mea ʻē aʻe ma ke ʻano he mau hiʻohiʻona a me ke ʻano hoʻohālike". ʻImi lākou e hoʻohālike, akā e kū i waho a hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou iho i mea e ola ai kēlā me kēia i ko lākou ʻokoʻa. Ua ʻike mākou a pau i nā kaikunāne ʻaʻohe mea like ʻole, nā kaikuahine ʻokoʻa loa kekahi i kekahi. Ko eni ko Paul, ko e tamai ‘o Prune mo Rose, ‘okú ne pehē: “Ko ‘eku ngaahi ‘ofefine ‘e ua ko e ta‘u ‘e tolu pē ‘oku ‘ikai ha me‘a kehe. Ma waho aʻe o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he blonde kekahi a he ʻulaʻula kekahi, ua aneane like lākou me kekahi. He kaikamahine nui ʻo Prune, makemake ʻo ia i nā lole a me nā aliʻi wahine. He tomboy maoli ʻo Rose, makemake wale ʻo ia e ʻaʻahu i ka pants a ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia e lilo i mokulele mokulele a i ʻole ka pahu pahu! He mea leʻaleʻa ia i ko lākou makuahine, ʻaʻole loa e poina i kahi manawa e hoʻomanaʻo mai iaʻu ua makemake wau e loaʻa iaʻu ke koho o ke aliʻi a ua wānana wau i ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi keikikāne ma mua o ka hānau ʻana o Rose! ”
Mahalo mākou i kēlā me kēia keiki
ʻO kēlā me kēia ʻano o ko lākou ʻano a me ko lākou ʻano, pono e ʻike ʻia a mahalo ʻia kēlā me kēia lālā o kahi kaikaina no ko lākou ʻano. E kōkua nui ia iā lākou e lanakila i kā lākou hoʻokūkū. Mai hoʻokaʻulua e haʻi aku i kāu mau keiki i nā manawa poina ʻole, nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa me kou mau kaikunāne a me nā kaikuahine, nā mea lapuwale, nā ʻakaʻaka, nā huakaʻi, nā ʻōlelo liʻiliʻi i hōʻailona i ka mōʻaukala ʻohana. “Ua ʻike ʻoe, ua hoʻopaʻapaʻa pū wau me koʻu kaikuahine. Makemake ʻoe iaʻu e haʻi aku iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka manawa āna i hoʻokuke ai iaʻu i loko o ka ʻupena? Pehea e pili ana i ka manawa aʻu i hoʻopaʻa ai i kahi nau ma kona lauoho? Hoʻopaʻi ʻo kupuna kāne a me ke kupuna wahine iā mākou, akā ʻakaʻaka nui mākou i kēia lā. E hoʻolohe lākou iā ʻoe me ka ʻōlelo ʻole a hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole mau ka hakakā ma waena o nā kaikunāne a pau mākou i ka ʻakaʻaka.