Hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale i kekahi mau mea ʻano hōʻole, ʻo ia mau mea a pau, i ka nui a i ʻole ka liʻiliʻi, e hoʻomanawanui i ke ola kula o ke keiki i hōʻole ʻia.
- Pāhaʻi (mai hoʻokuʻu, kāhea i nā inoa, kuʻi, hahai i kekahi pahuhopu: hoʻopaʻi, leʻaleʻa, etc.).
- Hōʻole ʻeleu (kū mai i ka pane ʻana i ka manaʻo e hele mai ana mai ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia, hōʻike lākou he kanaka ʻole ʻo ia, he mea ʻole kona manaʻo, e hoʻolilo iā ia i kao ʻole).
- Hōʻole ʻia, e kū wale ana i kekahi mau kūlana (inā pono ʻoe e koho i kekahi no ka hui, e ʻae i ka pāʻani, e noho i lalo i kahi pākaukau, hōʻole nā keiki: "ʻAʻole wau e noho pū me ia!").
- Hoʻowahāwahā (ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe, ʻaʻole kamaʻilio, ʻaʻole ʻike, poina, ʻaʻohe mea kūʻē, akā ʻaʻole hoihoi).
I nā hihia āpau o ka hōʻole ʻana, aia nā pilikia ʻaʻole i ka hui wale nō, akā i nā ʻano o ke ʻano a me ke ʻano o ka mea i pepehi ʻia.
Wahi a nā haʻawina noʻonoʻo he nui, ʻo ka mea mua, hoihoi ʻia nā keiki a hoʻolei ʻia paha e ke ʻano o kā lākou mau hoa. Hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia ka kaulana i waena o nā hoa e nā hoʻokō hoʻonaʻauao a me nā haʻuki. Mahalo nui ʻia ka hiki ke pāʻani i kahi hui. ʻO nā keiki e hauʻoli ana i ka lokomaikaʻi o nā hoa, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā hoaaloha, ʻoi aku ka ʻoi aku ka ikaika, ka launa pū ʻana, ka hāmama a me ka lokomaikaʻi ma mua o ka poʻe i hōʻole ʻia. Akā i ka manawa like, ʻaʻole pili ʻole a aloha ʻole nā keiki i hōʻole ʻia. No kekahi kumu, ua ʻike ʻia lākou e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole iā lākou e lilo i kumu no ke ʻano kūpono o nā keiki i hōʻole ʻia: hoʻomaka lākou e uhaki i nā lula i ʻae ʻia, hana impulsive a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole.
ʻAʻole hiki i nā keiki pani a maikaʻi ʻole paha ke lilo i poʻe i hoʻokuke ʻia i ka hui. ʻAʻole lākou makemake i nā «upstarts» - ka poʻe e hoʻoikaika mau nei e hopu i ka hana, e kauoha. ʻAʻole lākou makemake i nā haumāna maikaʻi ʻaʻole e ʻae iā lākou e kākau, a i ʻole nā keiki e kūʻē i ka papa, no ka laʻana, hōʻole ʻole e holo mai ka haʻawina.
Ua kākau ʻo Dee Snyder, ka mea hoʻokani pila kaulana ʻAmelika i kāna puke Practical Psychology for Teenagers, ʻo mākou iho ka hewa pinepine no ka hoʻokomo ʻana o kekahi i nā "labels and price tags" ma luna o mākou. A hiki i ka makahiki he ʻumi, ua kaulana ʻo ia i ka papa, akā i ka neʻe ʻana o kona mau mākua i kahi poloka ʻē aʻe, hele ʻo Dee i kahi kula hou, kahi i hakakā ai ʻo ia me ke kanaka ikaika loa. I mua o ke kula holoʻokoʻa, ua pio ʻo ia. “Ua hāʻawi lokahi ʻia ka hoʻopaʻi make. Ua lilo au i kipakuia. A ʻo nā mea āpau no ka mea ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu i ke koena o ka mana ma ka pūnaewele. ”
Nā ʻano keiki i hōʻole ʻia
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