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ʻO ka huhū, ka makaʻu, ka hauʻoli, ka hauʻoli… ʻO nā keiki he mau ʻōhuʻu manaʻo! A i kekahi manawa, manaʻo mākou ua hoʻokuʻu lākou iā lākou iho e hoʻopiha ʻia e kēia kahe. ʻO Catherine Aimelet-Périssol *, ke kauka a me ka psychotherapist, kōkua iā mākou e hoʻopuka i nā huaʻōlelo ma nā kūlana manaʻo ikaika… a hāʻawi i nā hāʻina no ka pono o nā keiki, a me nā mākua!
ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e hiamoe hoʻokahi i loko o kona lumi
>>Makaʻu ʻo ia i nā monsters ...
HOOLAHA. "ʻImi ke keiki i ka palekana. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i kona lumi moe ke lilo i wahi o ka palekana inā loaʻa iā ia kahi ʻike maikaʻi ʻole ma laila, loaʻa nā moeʻuhane ma laila… A laila manaʻo ʻole ʻo ia a ʻimi i ke alo o ke kanaka makua ", wehewehe ʻo Catherine Aimelet-Périssol *. ʻO ia ke kumu i piha ai kāna mau moemoeā: makaʻu ʻo ia i ka ʻīlio hae, makaʻu ʻo ia i ka pōʻeleʻele… He mea kūlohelohe kēia mau mea a makemake e huki i ka makua e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻia.
OLELO HOOLAHA: ʻO ka hana a ka makua ke hoʻolohe i kēia makaʻu, kēia makemake i ka palekana. Manaʻo ka psychotherapist e hōʻoluʻolu i ke keiki ma ka hōʻike ʻana iā ia ua paʻa nā mea a pau. Inā ʻaʻole lawa kēlā, e hele pū me ia i pane ʻo ia i kona makemake no ka palekana. E nīnau iā ia, no ka laʻana, he aha kāna e hana ai inā ʻike ʻo ia i kahi monster. E ʻimi ʻo ia i nā ala e "pale aku iā ia iho". Pono kona manaʻo momona i kāna lawelawe. Pono ʻo ia e aʻo e hoʻohana iā ia e ʻimi i nā hoʻonā.
Papa ʻoe iā ia e ʻike i kahi kiʻi paʻi kiʻi
>> Huhu ʻo ia
HOOLAHA. Ma hope o ka huhū, ua wehewehe ʻo Catherine Aimelet-Périssol e ʻoi aku ka makemake o ke keiki no ka ʻike ʻia: "Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia iā ia iho inā loaʻa iā ia kāna makemake, e ʻike ʻia ʻo ia he kanaka piha. Eia naʻe, aia kahi paʻa o ka subordination me kona mau mākua. Ke hilinaʻi nei ʻo ia iā lākou e ʻike ʻia. " Ua hōʻike ke keiki i ka makemake e nānā i kahi kiʻi paʻi no kona makemake, akā no kona makemake e ʻike ʻia.
OLELO HOOLAHA: Hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi iā ia, “ʻIke wau i ka nui o kēia kiʻi kiʻi iā ʻoe. ʻIke wau i kou huhū. »Akā ke koi nei ka loea i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo pono mākou e pili i ka lula : ʻaʻohe kiʻi kiʻi. E kamaʻilio me ia e haʻi iā ʻoe i kāna mea makemake nui i kēia kiʻiʻoniʻoni. Hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i kona ʻono, kona naʻau. ʻIke ʻoe i ke ala i ʻike ʻia ai ʻo ia (e nānā i ke kiʻi paʻi kiʻi), akā e noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka pono o ka ʻike o ke keiki, a hooluolu ia ia.
Ua hoʻolālā ʻoe i kahi huakaʻi i kahi zoo me kou mau hoahānau
>>Pahū ʻo ia me ka hauʻoli
HOOLAHA. He manaʻo maikaʻi ka hauʻoli. Wahi a ka loea, no ke keiki, he ʻano uku piha. "Hiki i kona hōʻike ʻana ke paʻakikī. E like me ka ʻakaʻaka o ke kanaka makua, ʻaʻole hiki ke wehewehe ʻia, akā aia kēia manaʻo. ʻAʻole mākou e mālama i ko mākou mau manaʻo, ola mākou iā lākou. He kūlohelohe lākou a pono e hōʻike iā lākou iho, "wahi a Catherine Aimelet-Périssol.
OLELO HOOLAHA: He mea paʻakikī ke pale aku i kēia kahe. Akā, manaʻo ka loea e hoʻokūkū i ke keiki ma ka nugget e hoʻāla i kona hauʻoli a piques i ko mākou ʻimi. E nīnau iā ia i ka mea e hauʻoli maoli ai ia. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka ʻike ʻana i kona mau hoahānau? E hele i ka zoo? No ke aha mai ? E nānā i ke kumu. E alakaʻi ʻoe iā ia e wehewehe, e inoa, he aha ke kumu o ka leʻaleʻa nona. E ʻike ʻo ia i kona manaʻo a mālie i ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
"He ʻenehana maikaʻi no kaʻu keiki e hoʻomaha ai"
Ke ukiuki ʻo Ilies, ʻūhū ʻo ia. No ka hoʻomaha ʻana iā ia, ua ʻōlelo ke kauka ʻōlelo i ka ʻenehana "rag doll". Pono ʻo ia e kuʻekuʻe, a laila e ʻomi ikaika i kona mau wāwae, no 3 mau minuke, a hoʻomaha loa. Hana i kēlā me kēia manawa! Ma hope, hoʻomaha ʻo ia a hiki ke hōʻike iā ia iho me ka mālie. ”
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Ua make kāna ʻīlio
>> Kaumaha ʻo ia
HOOLAHA. Me ka make ana o kana pipi, ke keiki aʻo i ke kaumaha a me ke kaʻawale. "ʻO ke kaumaha kekahi ma muli o ka manaʻo o ke kōkua ʻole. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i ka make ʻana o kāna ʻīlio, "wahi a Catherine Aimelet-Périssol.
OLELO HOOLAHA: Pono kākou e hele pū me ia i kona kaumaha. No kēlā, e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia ma ka pūliki ʻana a me ka pūliki ʻana iā ia. “He mea ʻole ka ʻōlelo. Pono ʻo ia e ʻike i ka pili kino o ka poʻe āna i aloha ai, e manaʻo e ola ana ʻoiai ʻo ka make ʻana o kāna ʻīlio, "wahi a ka loea. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo pū i kāu mea e hana ai me ka ʻoihana a ka ʻīlio, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau hoʻomanaʻo me ia… ʻO ka manaʻo e kōkua i ke keiki e ʻike he hiki iā ia ke hana e hakakā. kona manaʻo ʻole.
Noho ʻo ia ma kāna kihi ma kāna kahua tennis
>> Hoʻoweliweli ʻo ia
HOOLAHA. "ʻAʻole ʻoluʻolu ke keiki i ka makaʻu i mua o kahi kūlana maoli. Hoʻoikaika ʻia kona noʻonoʻo a lawe i luna. Manaʻo ʻo ia he poʻe ʻē aʻe. Loaʻa iā ia kahi hōʻike hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ia iho, "wahi a ka psychotherapist. No laila, manaʻo ʻo ia he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole kekahi, no laila ua paʻa ʻo ia iā ia iho i kāna mau manaʻoʻiʻo. Ua kanalua nō hoʻi ʻo ia i kona waiwai ponoʻī e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ʻo ka makaʻu e hoʻopōʻino iā ia.
OLELO HOOLAHA: "ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻololi i kahi keiki hilahila i keiki extroverted nāna e ʻakaʻaka ka ʻaha holoʻokoʻa," ʻōlelo aʻe ke kauka. “Pono ʻoe e hoʻokuʻikahi me kona ʻano. ʻO kona hilahila e hiki ai iā ia ke lawe i kona manawa e ʻike ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO kona noʻonoʻo, ʻo kona hoʻihoʻi ʻana he waiwai maoli nō hoʻi. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e puka i waho. Eia naʻe, hiki ke kaupalena i kou hopohopo ma ka hele ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ke kumu aʻo a i ʻole ke keiki, no ka laʻana. Hoʻopili ʻoe iā ia me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia. He mea kupanaha ka hopena o ka hui. E emi ana ka hopohopo o kāu keiki ke aloha ʻo ia i hoʻokahi a ʻelua mau keiki liʻiliʻi.
ʻAʻole ʻo ia i kono ʻia i ka pāʻina lā hānau o Jules
>> Ua hoka ia
HOOLAHA. He manaʻo pili loa i ke kaumaha, akā i ka huhū pū kekahi. No ke keiki, ʻaʻole e kono ʻia e kāna hoaaloha ʻaʻole ia e ʻike ʻia, aloha ʻia. 'Ōleloʻo ia iā ia iho he mea hoihoiʻoleʻo ia a hiki iā ia keʻike ma keʻano he hōʻole.
OLELO HOOLAHA: Wahi a ka loea, pono e ʻike ʻia ua manaʻo ʻo ia i kekahi mea ma ke ʻano o ka waiwai. E nīnau iā ia e pili ana i ke ʻano o kona manaʻoʻiʻo: “Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe? »Nīnau inā he mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e kōkua iā ia. E hoʻomanaʻo iā ia ʻaʻole hiki i kāna keikikāne ke kono i nā mea a pau i kona lā hānau, pono ʻo ia e koho. E like me kāu keiki i kona kono ʻana i nā hoaaloha. E kōkua kēia iā ia e hoʻomaopopo aia kekahi mau kumu waiwai e wehewehe ana i ke kumu i kono ʻole ʻia ai ʻo ia, ʻaʻole paha ke kumu. E hoʻololi i kona manaʻo a hoʻomanaʻo iā ia i kāna mau ʻano.
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