He ʻāpana mai ka puke a S. Soloveichik "Pedagogy for All"
Ua lōʻihi ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana e pili ana i ka makua mana a me ka ʻae. Aia ka mea mua ma ka waiho ʻana i ka mana: "ʻO wai kaʻu i haʻi aku ai?" ʻO ka ʻae ʻana, ʻae ʻia nā mea he nui. Akā ʻaʻole maopopo ka poʻe: inā "ʻae ʻia nā mea āpau", no hea mai ke kumu aʻo? Noi nā kumu: e lokomaikaʻi i nā keiki, aloha iā lākou! Hoʻolohe nā mākua iā lākou, a ulu aʻe ka poʻe capricious, spoiled. Hoʻopaʻa nā kānaka a pau i ko lākou poʻo a hoʻōho i nā kumu: “Ua aʻo mai ʻoe i kēia! Ua hōʻino ʻoe i nā keiki!"
Akā ʻo ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ka hopena o ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻaʻole hilinaʻi i ka paʻakikī a i ʻole ka palupalu, ʻaʻole wale ma ke aloha, ʻaʻole ma luna o nā keiki i hoʻopaʻa ʻia a ʻaʻole hoʻi, ʻaʻole i ka hāʻawi ʻia ʻana i nā mea āpau a ʻaʻole i nā mea āpau - aia wale nō ia. uhane o na kanaka a puni.
Ke'ōlelo mākou "ʻuhane", "spirituality", mākou, me ka maopopo ole ia makou iho, ke kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i ke kanaka nui e hooikaika ana no ka pau ole - no ka oiaio, ka maikai a me ka nani. Me kēia manaʻo, ua hana ʻia kēia ʻuhane e noho nei i loko o nā kānaka, nā mea nani a pau ma ka honua - ua kūkulu ʻia nā kūlanakauhale me ia, ua hoʻokō ʻia nā hana me ia. ʻO ka ʻuhane ke kumu maoli o nā mea maikaʻi a pau i loko o ke kanaka.
ʻO ka ʻuhane, ʻo kēia ʻike ʻike ʻole, akā maoli maoli a maopopo loa, e hoʻolauna i kahi manawa hoʻoikaika a hoʻopaʻi e ʻae ʻole i ke kanaka e hana i nā mea ʻino, ʻoiai ua ʻae ʻia nā mea āpau iā ia. ʻO ka ʻuhane wale nō, me ke kāohi ʻole ʻana i ka makemake o ke keiki, me ka hoʻoikaika ʻole iā ia e hakakā me ia iho, e hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ia iho - iā ia iho, e hoʻolilo iā ia i kanaka aʻo, lokomaikaʻi, he kanaka hana.
Ma kahi e loaʻa ai ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe, hiki nā mea a pau ma laila, a e pōmaikaʻi nā mea a pau; kahi e noho alii ai na makemake palena ole, e poino ai ke keiki na mea a pau: ka candy, caress, and task. Ma laila, pilikia ka kamaʻilio ʻana me ke keiki iā ia, a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka poʻe mākua i loko o ia mea, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hopena. Kākau nā kumu i nā mākua ma nā puke moʻolelo a nā keiki: "E hana!" Akā i nā hihia ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, pono ia e kākau: "ʻAʻole aʻo maikaʻi kāu keiki a hoʻopilikia i ka papa. E waiho wale iā ia! Mai hele a kokoke iā ia!»
Poino ka makuahine, ua ulu mai ke keiki a ka ma'i. Ua pepehi ʻia ʻo ia: "ʻO wau ka hewa, ʻaʻole wau i hōʻole iā ia i kekahi mea!" Ua kūʻai ʻo ia i ke keiki i nā mea pāʻani pipiʻi a me nā lole nani, "hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ia i nā mea āpau, ʻo kāna mea e noi ai." A minamina ka poʻe a pau i ko lākou makuahine, ʻōlelo lākou: “Polo… Ua nui kā mākou hoʻolilo iā lākou! ʻO wau koʻu ʻaʻahu mua…” a pēlā aku.
Akā, ʻo nā mea a pau e hiki ke loiloi ʻia, ana ʻia i nā kālā, nā hola, nā mika square a i ʻole nā ʻāpana ʻē aʻe, ʻo kēia mau mea a pau paha, he mea nui ia no ka ulu ʻana o ka noʻonoʻo a me nā manaʻo ʻelima o ke keiki, akā no ka hoʻonaʻauao, ʻo ia hoʻi, no ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻuhane, ʻaʻohe manaʻo. He palena ʻole ka ʻuhane, ʻaʻole hiki ke ana ʻia i kekahi ʻāpana. Ke wehewehe mākou i ka hana ʻino o ke keiki makua ma muli o ko mākou hoʻolilo nui ʻana iā ia, ua like mākou me ka poʻe e haʻi ʻoluʻolu i kahi hewa liʻiliʻi e hūnā i kahi hewa koʻikoʻi. ʻO kā mākou hewa maoli i mua o nā keiki aia ma kahi semi-spiritual, ma kahi ʻano ʻuhane ʻole iā lākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka ʻae ʻana i ka hoʻonui waiwai ma mua o ka stinginess uhane.
No nā manawa a pau, koi mākou i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻepekema! Akā inā makemake kekahi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka holoi ʻana i ka ihu o ke keiki me ka ʻepekema, a laila eia: mai ka ʻike ʻepekema, hiki i ke kanaka uhane ke holoi i ka ihu o ke keiki e like me kona makemake, akā ʻo ka mea ʻuhane ʻole - mai hoʻokokoke i ka mea liʻiliʻi. . E hele wāwae ʻo ia me ka ihu pulu.
Inā ʻaʻohe ou ʻuhane, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea, ʻaʻole ʻoe e pane ʻoiaʻiʻo i hoʻokahi nīnau aʻo. Akā, ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole nui nā nīnau e pili ana i nā keiki, e like me kā mākou e ʻike ai, akā ʻekolu wale nō: pehea e hoʻoulu ai i ka makemake i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia hoʻi, ka noʻonoʻo; pehea e hooulu ai i ka makemake i ka maikai, oia hoi ke aloha i kanaka; a pehea e hoʻoulu ai i ka makemake i ka nani ma nā hana a me ke akamai.
Ke ninau nei au: aka, pehea na makua i loaa ole keia mau manao no ke kiekie? Pehea lākou e hānai ai i kā lākou mau keiki?
He weliweli ka pane, maopopo iaʻu, akā pono ʻoe e ʻoiaʻiʻo ... ʻaʻohe ala! ʻAʻohe mea e hana ai kēlā poʻe, ʻaʻole lākou e kūleʻa, e piʻi aʻe ka ʻino o nā keiki, a ʻo ka mea e ola ai kekahi mau kumu kula ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki ʻo ia ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka ʻuhane me ka ʻuhane, ʻaʻohe mea hana ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole. No laila - ua hoʻololi ʻia, a pēlā - ʻaʻole hana, ʻo ia wale nō.