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Ma hope o kēia hui mua e hoʻomaka a laila ka manawa o "reciprocal taming", o ka hoʻoponopono mālie. Hiki i nā mea a pau ke ʻike i kekahi i kekahi, ʻo ka mea shrinks i kapa ʻia "ka pilina mua": ʻo ka makuahine a me kāna keiki hou "hana" kekahi i kekahi, hoʻololi i kekahi i kekahi ma o ka mālama. , pāʻani, hānai ʻai a i ʻole ka ʻōmole!) a… nā mea ʻē aʻe! He manawa momona loa ia, he "cocoon", a hiki i ka huki iki ʻana, akā pono, kahi e noho ai kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana i kona wahi hou ma ka waiho ʻana i ka ʻāpana maikaʻi i ka mea hou (ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole.
He ʻōlelo aʻo : nā mahina mua ʻeono, e hoʻohana pono! E hoʻopiha i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi, wikiwiki loa ... E amo, e haʻalulu, e honi, e ʻoluʻolu, e hāʻawi i kou aloha "maka", e ʻōlelo kou mau makemake. Hāʻawi kekahi mau makuahine i ka ʻoluʻolu o ko lākou puʻuwai, ka mea i ʻike iā lākou iho he hyper mothering, e like me kā Juliette mai Rennes e haʻi mai nei iā mākou: “Ua hoʻololi loa ʻo Matthis iaʻu! Akā pono wau e lawe iaʻu iho (a ua kōkua nui ka makuakāne iaʻu) e pale i ka hoʻowalewale e hoʻopaʻa iaʻu iho i kēia duo… ”.
E makaʻala, ʻaʻole ʻo ka "hoʻokahi" me Baby he kuleana no kona pono! A hiki ke lilo i sclerosing ma hope. ʻO ka mea nui: e hoʻolohe i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi i ka wā e noho ana iā ʻoe iho. No ke kaulike o kēlā me kēia kanaka a me ka ʻohana ma ka laulā, pono e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho, i ʻole e poina iā ʻoe iho ...
E pale i ka pēpē me ka mālama ʻole iā ia
A liʻiliʻi, ulu ka manu liʻiliʻi ... a kupu mai ka makemake e hohola i kona mau ʻēheu e hoʻonui iki i kona pūnana, kona ʻike a pēlā e makaʻala ai i ka honua o waho. No ka mea, ʻo ia hoʻi kekahi ʻāpana o ke kanaka liʻiliʻi: eia kahi mea mākaʻikaʻi i hānau ʻia me ka hoihoi loa i nā mea āpau!
ʻOiai ʻo nā lima o Māmā lāua ʻo Pāpā e hōʻoluʻolu mau ana (a e mau ana) Hoʻokomo maoli ʻia ʻo Baby e kēia piʻi ʻana o ke ola e hāʻawi iā ia, e like me Christopher Columbus i loko o ka puʻupuʻu pōkole, ka makemake e neʻe iki mai ka "pohu" makua. Ma nā huaʻōlelo "ʻenehana", hāʻawi kēia: e hele i waho o ka palena palekana e ʻimi hou aku i ka mea i kapa ʻia e ka poʻe holomua ʻo "discovery zone". Hāpai ʻia e kona mau wāwae ʻuʻuku liʻiliʻi a me kona nānā ʻana, ʻaʻole pau ʻo Baby i ka holo ʻana i mua a hoʻoikaika i kāna ʻoihana.
ʻAe, akā, eia nō, hiki iā ia ke hana inā ʻike nui ʻia ka ʻāpana mua, no ka mea ua ʻike kāu keiki.inā hopohopo, hiki iā ia ke hoʻi mau mai e hoʻopaʻa i ka wahi palekana, ʻo ia hoʻi… me ʻoe! A ʻoi aku ka nui o kou hoʻolilo ʻana i kēia wahi i puʻuhonua liʻiliʻi o ka maluhia, ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o ka pēpē e haʻalele iā ia. Kūkākūkā? ʻAʻole, kikoʻī i ke ʻano kanaka.
ʻO ʻoe, e kona mau mākua, he kuleana koʻikoʻi i kāna kaulike: no ka mea e maopopo ana kāu keiki ʻaʻole e nalowale kou aloha e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho me ʻoe… He puna puna maoli no ka wā e hiki mai ana! A he kuleana kapu nō hoʻi, hāʻawi mākou iā ʻoe…
Nā mākua: e noʻonoʻo (no) iā ʻoe!
Hoʻomaha, Hana ʻia nā mea a pau ma ke ʻano maʻamau, me kekahi mau hitches a me nā kuhi hewa, e hiki ai ke hoʻoponopono hou i ka pana. Me ka poina ole ʻelua kūlana me ka ʻole o kēia kaʻina e lilo i mea paʻakikī :
- ka mua, ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka makuahine "ʻae" i kāna keiki e wehe a no laila e neʻe aku mai ona aku (ʻae, no kekahi, ʻaʻole maopopo ia!), He mea pono i ke keiki ke loaʻa ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho a ʻike i kona mau palena ponoʻī. Ma lalo o kou haʻaheo, ʻoluʻolu a nānā pono, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ʻo ia iho. I loko o ka paka, no ka laʻana, ʻaʻohe mea e paʻi iā ia "E hāʻule ʻoe!" i nā manawa a pau, i ka pilikia o ke ālai ʻana i kāna mau hana. E hele pū me ia ma ka ʻōlelo hāʻawi iā ia i nā hoʻonā inā pilikia ʻo ia, akā me ka ʻole o ke komo kino ʻana.
- Ka lua, ʻaʻa hoʻi ʻoe, e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe iho mai ka pēpē i kēlā me kēia manawa, me ka ʻole o ka manaʻo hewa! ʻAʻole wale ia e ʻae iā ʻoe e hoʻokokoke aku i ka makuakāne a i ʻole e lawe manawa no ʻoe akā eia kekahi, e hana maikaʻi loa ia iā ʻoe (inā haʻi mākou iā ʻoe!). No ka mea ʻo kēia ka mea e pono ai ʻo Baby e ulu hauʻoli: elua makua E-PA-NOUIS! ʻOiaʻiʻo, pili ia i ke ʻano gula.
Ma ke ala, ʻike paha ʻoe i ke kumu e noho ai nā hedgehogs i kahi mamao loa mai kekahi i kekahi? No ka mea, ma kahi mamao loa, e anu lākou akā kokoke loa, e ʻō ʻia lākou iā lākou iho. ʻAe, ʻo Māmā lāua ʻo Pepe, ʻano like ʻole ka moʻolelo moʻolelo nani…
Nā hōʻailona o kahi hoʻopili "palekana".
- Uwē a uē paha ke keiki, akā ua mālie koke i ka ʻike ʻana o kona makua a ma hope o kāna hana ʻana;
– Pane mai oia me ka minoaka;
- Mai nā mahina mua, hōʻikeʻo ia i ka hoihoi nui i kona makua: hahaiʻo ia iā ia me kona mau maka, hohola i kona mau lima iā ia, hoʻopili iā ia, makemake e pāʻani, e launa pū me ia;
- Hoʻonui wale kēia hoihoi i ka manawa a hiki i ka lilo ʻana i mea kūʻokoʻa i kekahi mau makahiki pololei (ka hopohopo kaʻawale ma kahi o 8 mahina a laila makaʻu i nā helu haole ma kahi o 15 mahina);
- Makemake ʻo pēpē e noho me ʻoe a kūʻē i kou hele ʻana;
- Ua makemake nui ʻo ia i ke kaiapuni o waho a nānā i kāu mau hopena ke hele ʻo ia i ka "ʻimi".