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Pono ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho. Hāʻawi ia i ke keiki i ka ikaika e hele a kū i ke ao o waho (e aʻo i ka hele wāwae, e ʻimi, kamaʻilio…). Hiki iā ia ke mālama maikaʻi i nā kaʻawale; ʻike ʻo ia ua aloha ʻia ʻo ia e kona makuahine, no laila ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kona ʻae ʻana e haʻalele ʻo ia.
ʻO ka hope, kōkua ia e ola maikaʻi me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Ma waena o 0 a me 3 mau makahiki, ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka manaʻo ponoʻī ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana iā ia iho, ʻo ia hoʻi ka manaʻo ʻana i kahi kanaka i kaʻawale mai kona makuahine a iā ia mākou e hoʻopili ai i kekahi waiwai. Hāʻawi pololei ʻia kēia waiwai e nā mākua.
I ka pōkole, he mea nui ka manaʻo ponoʻī, akā ʻaʻole ia e hana ma kāna iho. He hana manawa piha na oukou e na makua!
E nā mākua, iā ʻoukou!
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka maikaʻi o ka nānā ʻana i kāu pēpē, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka ʻike ʻana iā ia he kumuhana a hāʻawi iā ia i wahi i loko o ka ʻohana, he mea nui ia mai kona mau manawa mua o ke ola. ʻO kēia ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo Emmanuelle Rigon “Paʻa i loko”.
Mahalo i kēia, kūkulu ke keiki i kahi palekana manaʻo kumu He mea nui ia ke ʻike liʻiliʻi ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka mana āpau a ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke loaʻa nā mea āpau i nā manawa āpau. Akā ʻaʻole lawa kēia narcissism kumu a na nā mākua e lawe. No laila he mea nui, i kēia manawa, e haʻi aku i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi he pēpē maikaʻi ʻo ia a hāʻawi iā ia i ke aloha a pau e pono ai.
No laila ke koʻikoʻi o ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ma waena o ʻoukou a me kāu pēpē. “Ke kamaʻilio nā mākua i kā lākou keiki, pono lākou e hele mai no ka mea pinepine pinepine lākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou. He mea nui e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou iho mai kā lākou mau kuleana (hale, hana, TV ...) no kekahi mau manawa e hoʻolohe maoli i kā lākou keiki liʻiliʻi.» Manaʻo ʻia ka psychologist.
Me nā mākua maikaʻi a hoʻoikaika, ma ke kumu, hiki i ke keiki ke kūkulu pono iā ia iho, me ka hilinaʻi piha iā ia iho.