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ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ʻimi ʻana i ka hoa. Ke hoʻomaka nei e hoʻokokoke i kekahi, he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o kēia kanaka, inā paha ʻoe i kūpono i kekahi i kekahi. Ma ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kou mau manaʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kāu mau hālāwai me ka maikaʻi a hiki ke hōʻiliʻili i nā ʻike āu e pono ai.
Ma hope o ke aʻo ʻana i nā mea hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia e nā noi hoʻopaʻa inoa iā mākou, ua ʻoluʻolu mākou. ʻAe, i kēia manawa ua ʻoi aku ka laulā o kā mākou pōʻai kaiaulu ma mua. A inā ʻaʻole i holo pono ka lā Pōʻalima, hiki iā mākou ke ʻimi i kahi interlocutor ʻē aʻe i loko o ka radius o ka kilomika i ʻekolu mau minuke ma ke kaomi ʻana i ko mākou manamana lima ma luna o ka pale.
Maikaʻi ia, akā i kekahi manawa ua like ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi mea a mākou e makemake ai e kaʻana like i ko mākou ola e like me ka hele ʻana i ka supermarket. Me he mea lā ke holo nei mākou ma waena o nā papa, e hoʻāʻo nei e haʻalele i kahi hāʻawi hoʻokahi no ka hoʻolaha. Eia naʻe, hauʻoli anei kēia iā mākou?
Hāʻawi nā polokalamu pili iā mākou i ka hoʻopunipuni o ka pilina. Ke kamaʻilio pūnaewele, ke nānā ʻana i nā kiʻi, ka heluhelu ʻana i ka ʻike ma ka ʻaoʻao, manaʻo mākou ua ʻike maopopo mākou i ke kanaka i hui pū ai ka "swipe i ka ʻākau" iā mākou i kēia lā. Akā ʻo ia?
Hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ke kanaka ma ka lawe ʻana i ʻelua mau kofe me lākou? Ua lawa anei kēia e hilinaʻi iā ia ma nā ʻano āpau, me ka pili loa? Maikaʻi ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ma kahi wahi i hāʻawi ʻia i ka mana ma luna o ka naʻau. A ʻaʻole ia e pili ana i nā ʻenehana manipulative e mālama i ka hoihoi o ka hoa!
ʻOiai i ke au o ka multitasking a me ka wikiwiki kiʻekiʻe, pono mākou e mālama iā mākou iho a me ko mākou mau manaʻo. Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā hoa pili. Ma ka hahai ʻana iā lākou, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae iā ʻoe iho e huki ʻia i kahi pilina makemake ʻole a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ke kanaka nona ke kiʻi i kūkulu ʻia i kēia manawa ma nā leka, nā kiʻi a me kahi papa inoa pōkole o nā makemake i ka ʻaoʻao ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
1. Nīnau i nā nīnau
Loaʻa iā ʻoe ke kuleana e ʻimi a hoihoi i ke ola o kahi hoa pili. A i ʻole, pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ai inā kūpono ʻo ia no ka noho pū ʻana, pono anei e mālama i kahi pilina me ia? ʻAʻohe ala ʻē aʻe e ʻike ai inā makemake ʻo ia i nā keiki a ʻaʻole paha, ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia i ka monogamy a makemake paha i nā pilina maʻamau.
He kuleana kou e ʻike i kēia, no ka mea, pili ia i kou ola. ʻO kēlā me kēia mea i hōʻeha ʻia e kēia a makemake ʻole e pane i nā nīnau, loaʻa iā ia nā manawa āpau e lilo i meʻe o ka moʻolelo ʻaʻole nau.
2. E hoʻonoho i nā palena kūpono
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a makemake ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio kelepona, e haʻi i ka mea āu e kamaʻilio nei. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e moe ma hope o kāu lā mua, ʻekolu, a i ʻole ʻumi paha, mai noho haʻalele ʻoe. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻolimalima hale me kahi āu i ʻike ai no ʻelua pule, hiki ke ʻōlelo ʻia kēia.
ʻO ka mea makemake nui iā ʻoe e ʻae i kahi wikiwiki e ʻoluʻolu iā ʻolua. A ʻo ka hoʻomanawanui nui ʻana o ka interlocutor a i ʻole hoa e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe.
3. Mai wikiwiki
Ke hālāwai ʻoe me kahi āu e makemake nui ai, paʻakikī ke lele ʻole i loko o ka maelstrom o nā manaʻo. ʻOi loa inā he "kemika maoli" ma waena o ʻoe.
Eia naʻe, ʻo nā lā mua ʻaʻole i pau i kahi moe he hana koʻikoʻi loa ia: kōkua lākou iā ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi i kekahi a ʻike inā hiki iā ʻoe ke noho lōʻihi. Eia kekahi, ʻo ka rapprochement wikiwiki loa e lilo ai ka poʻe iā lākou iho a poina i kā lākou pono ponoʻī. A inā he mau hopohopo ʻē aʻe i kou ola, holo ʻoe i ka pilikia o ke alo i ka nalu o nā bila i hōʻiliʻili ʻia, nā hana a me nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā ma hope.
Loaʻa nā pilina olakino a hoʻokō wale i ka poʻe i nalowale iā lākou iho a i ʻole ka manaʻo ponoʻī i ka pilina me kekahi.
4. Mai poina e pili ana i ka noonoo
E hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i ka mea āu e ʻike ai ma nā polokalamu pili. Ua like paha kekahi o lākou me ke kanaka hiki ke kaʻana like me ʻoe i ka wā e hiki mai ana? Loaʻa iā lākou nā ʻano āu e makemake ai? ʻIke paha ʻoe i kekahi mea i kā lākou hana e hopohopo nei iā ʻoe?
E hoʻonohonoho i kahi "minuke o ka noho mālie" e lohe i ka leo o kou ʻike ponoʻī. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻokuʻu iā ʻoe.
5. Mai hoʻomaha i kou ola
ʻAʻole ʻo ka pilina ka pahuhopu a ʻaʻole wale ke ʻano o kou ola, he ʻāpana wale nō lākou, ʻoiai he mea hoihoi loa. Mai noʻonoʻo i ka ʻimi mau ʻana i nā "pāʻani" hou. Inā pono, e hoʻokomo i kahi noi ma kāu kelepona e kaupalena i kāu hana ma kēia wahi.
E ʻimi i nā koho hou i kēlā me kēia manawa, akā mai hāʻawi i kou mau lā a me nā pō āpau iā ia. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kāu mau makemake a me kāu mau leʻaleʻa, a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e poina iā lākou.