ʻAʻole au makemake i nā makana

"Na nā makana e hopohopo iaʻu," wahi a Maria, 47, he mea hoʻonani. Makemake au e hana iā lākou, akā ʻaʻole i loaʻa. Hoʻoweliweli iaʻu i nā haʻalulu, huikau ka manaʻo o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ʻo kēia kūlana holoʻokoʻa e hoʻolei iaʻu i ke kaulike. ʻOi aku ka nui o nā makana. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea e pane aku ai iā ia."

Nui loa paha ka manaʻo i hoʻokomo ʻia i ka makana. "Hāʻawi mau ʻo ia i kekahi mau leka, ʻike a ʻaʻole paha," wahi a ka psychotherapist Sylvie Tenenbaum, "a hiki i kēia mau leka ke hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou. Aia ma kahi o ʻekolu mau manaʻo ma aneʻi: "e hāʻawi" ʻo ia hoʻi "loaʻa" a "hoʻihoʻi". Akā, ʻaʻole no kēlā me kēia ke akamai o ka hāʻawi makana.

ʻAʻole oʻu manaʻo i koʻu waiwai

ʻO ka poʻe i paʻakikī i ka ʻae ʻana i nā makana, ʻike pinepine lākou i ka paʻakikī o ka ʻae ʻana i nā hoʻomaikaʻi, nā lokomaikaʻi, nā maka. "ʻO ka hiki ke ʻae i kahi makana e pono ai ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe a me ka hilinaʻi i kekahi," wehewehe ʻo Corine Dollon. "A pili ia i ka mea i loaʻa iā mākou ma mua. No ka laʻana, pehea mākou i loaʻa ai nā ū a i ʻole nā ​​​​pacifiers i ka wā pēpē? Pehea mākou i mālama ʻia ai i ko mākou wā kamaliʻi? Pehea mākou i waiwai ai ma ka ʻohana a ma ke kula?”

Ina i loaa ia makou «o» nui, alaila, e loaa mai ana na makana me ka malie. Ina i loaa iki mai ia makou, aole paha, ua hemahema, a o na makana wale no e hooikaika i kona unahi. "Makemake mākou i nā makana e like me ka hoʻomaha ʻana iā mākou a kōkua iā mākou e manaʻo ke ola nei mākou," wahi a ka mea noiʻi psychoanalyst ʻo Virginie Meggle. Akā inā ʻaʻole kēia ʻo kā mākou hihia, a laila makemake nui mākou i nā makana.

ʻAʻole wau hilinaʻi iaʻu iho

"ʻO ka pilikia me nā makana ʻo ia ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka mea loaʻa," hoʻomau ʻo Sylvie Tenenbaum. Manaʻo paha mākou e ʻaiʻē i kā mākou mea kōkua. He mea hooweliweli paha ka makana. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻihoʻi i kekahi mea o ka waiwai like? He aha ko mākou kiʻi i ka maka o kekahi? Makemake ʻo ia e kipe iā mākou? ʻAʻole mākou hilinaʻi i ka mea hāʻawi. E like me ʻoe iho.

"ʻO ka ʻae ʻana i kahi makana ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana iā ʻoe iho," wahi a Corine Dollon. "A ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana iā ʻoe iho he ʻano like ia no ka pōʻino no ka poʻe i maʻa ʻole e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo, inā he hauʻoli a mihi paha." A ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua haʻi ʻia iā mākou i nā manawa he nui: ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka makana! ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i ka hōʻeha. Mahalo iā ʻoe! Hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai ko mākou mau manaʻo, nalowale ko mākou leo ​​ponoʻī a paʻa i ka huikau.

Noʻu, ʻaʻole kūpono ka makana

Wahi a Virginie Meggle, ʻaʻole mākou makemake i nā makana iā lākou iho, akā he aha kā lākou i lilo ai i ke au o ka ʻai honua. ʻAʻole i loaʻa hou kahi makana i hōʻailona o ke ʻano like a me ka makemake e komo. "E hoʻokaʻawale nā ​​keiki ma lalo o ka lāʻau, loaʻa iā mākou ke kuleana e "makana" ma ka hale kūʻai nui, a inā ʻaʻole mākou makemake i nā trinkets, hiki iā mākou ke kūʻai hou aku iā lākou ma hope. Ua lilo ka makana i kāna hana, ʻaʻole ia he mea kūpono, "wahi āna.

No laila, no ke aha mākou e makemake ai i kēlā mau makana i pili ʻole i ka "e", akā e "kūʻai" a "kūʻai" wale nō?

He aha e hana?

E hoʻokō i ka wehe ʻana i ka semantic

Hoʻouka mākou i ka hana o ka hāʻawi ʻana me nā manaʻo hōʻailona he nui, akā pono paha mākou e lawe i ka maʻalahi: hāʻawi i nā makana no ka leʻaleʻa, ʻaʻole no ka ʻoluʻolu, loaʻa ka mahalo, nānā maikaʻi a hahai paha i nā kuʻuna kaiaulu.

Ke koho ʻana i kahi makana, e hoʻāʻo e hahai i nā makemake o ka mea i loaʻa, ʻaʻole kāu ponoʻī.

E hoʻomaka me kahi makana iā ʻoe iho

ʻO nā hana ʻelua o ka hāʻawi ʻana a me ka loaʻa ʻana he pili pili. E ho'āʻo e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i mea e hoʻomaka ai. He trinket maikaʻi, he ahiahi ma kahi ʻoluʻolu ... A e ʻae i kēia makana me ka ʻakaʻaka.

A ke ʻae ʻoe i nā makana mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻohewa i ko lākou manaʻo. Inā ʻaʻole i like ka makana iā ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe he hewa kūlana, ʻaʻole ka hopena o ka nānā ʻole iā ʻoe iho.

E ho'āʻo e hoʻihoʻi i ka makana i kona ʻano kumu: he hoʻololi, he hōʻike aloha. E hoʻopau i ka lilo ʻana i mea kūʻai a lilo i hōʻailona o kou pili hou ʻana me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, makemake ʻole i nā makana ʻaʻole ia he makemake ʻole i nā kānaka.

Ma kahi o ka makana makana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i nā mea aloha i kou manawa a me kou nānā. E ʻai pū, hele i ka wehe ʻana o kahi hōʻikeʻike a i ʻole i ka hale kiʻiʻoniʻoni wale nō…