Ma Yekaterinburg, i ka wā o kahi hoʻomoana keiki ma ka Yeltsin Center, ua ʻike ʻia kahi mea kipa i loko o ka lua o nā wahine i kahi kiʻi weliweli: kahi psychologist e holoi nei i ka waha o kahi keiki me ke kopa. E uē ana ke keiki, a ua puka aʻe ka huʻa mai kona waha mai.
Ua wehe ʻo Lego Camp i ka wā Spring Break. Eia nō naʻe, ma kekahi o nā papa i loaʻa kahi hanana i "puhi" i ka Pūnaewele. ʻO ka mea kākau moʻolelo ʻo Olga Tatarnikova, he mea hōʻike i kēia hanana, i kākau e pili ana iā ia ma Facebook:
"Hiki i kahi mea mālama ke hoʻoikaika i kahi keiki e holoi i ko lākou waha me ke kopa a me ka wai? ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu. Akā i koʻu nānā ʻana i ke keiki uē me ka huʻa i ka waha i kēia manawa, ke kahe nei koʻu puʻuwai. Ua kū kekahi kumu ma kona ʻaoʻao a ua haʻi ʻia ʻo ka ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, e like me ka puʻu lepo, pono e holoi ʻia. Uwa ke keikikāne, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua holoi ʻo ia i mua, a hana hou ʻo ia iā ia e hana hou i ke kaʻina hana. “
ʻO Sasha ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia nona ka makahiki 8. Ua noi ka lā wahine i nā psychologists e ʻōlelo i ka poʻe komo i ka moʻolelo ʻoluʻolu ʻole.
Ua ʻōlelo maloʻo loa ka makuahine o ke keiki ʻo Olga:
- Ua hala ka hanana.
I ka wā o ka wā kauwela, ua hana nā kāne i ka "Camp Lego"
ʻO Elena Volkova, lunamakaʻāinana o ka Yeltsin Center:
- ʻAe, ua hana ʻia kēlā ʻano kūlana. ʻO ke keikikāne i aʻo ma kā mākou "Camp Lego" i hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo pelapela no kekahi mau lā. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohuli iā ia me nā huaʻōlelo, no laila ʻo ke kumu ʻo Olga Amelyanenko, ʻaʻole ia he limahana o ka hale ʻo Yeltsin, alakaʻi ʻia ke keiki i ka lua i ka lua a noi iā ia e holoi i kona alo a me kona lehelehe me ke kopa. Ua wehewehe lākou iā ia he mea kēia e "holoi" i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki a hana hou ʻole.
Akā ua kamaʻilio mua mākou me ke kumu, ua noi mai ʻaʻole e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kēia i loko o kā mākou paia. ʻOiai, ua kamaʻilio mākou me ka makuahine o ke keiki, nāna i hōʻoia ua hoʻohiki nui kāna keiki. A ʻaʻole huhū ʻo ia i ke kumu, no ka mea manaʻolana ʻo ia e kōkua kēia i ke kāne e hoʻohana ʻole i ka ʻōlelo ʻino, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i ka makuahine ponoʻī ke kūpale iā ia. Ma hope o ka hanana, ua hele mai ʻo ia i ka hui a hoʻomau i kāna mau aʻo ʻana. Ke nīnau aku mākou iā ia i kāna manaʻo e pili ana i kēia kūlana, ʻo kāna nīnau mua: "He aha ke kūlana?" ʻAʻole paʻa ke keikikāne iā Olga.
ʻO Olga Amelyanenko ka psychologist like… He ʻano ʻokoʻa kāna i ka mea i hana ʻia. Ua haʻi ʻo ia i ka Lā Wahine ʻo ke kūlana i hōʻike ʻia e ka mea kākau moʻolelo ua lawe ʻia ma waho o ka pōʻaiapili - ʻaʻole i uē a ʻaʻole hysterical ke keiki. He pilina maikaʻi ko Olga me kona makuahine a me Sasha:
He aʻo mākou no 6 a 11 mau makahiki, kahi e kālailai ai i nā ʻano kanaka like ʻole: ka ʻoluʻolu, ka wiwo ʻole, ka hanohano, ka hilinaʻi. Mālama ʻia nā papa i ka wā hoʻomaha o nā keiki. ʻO kēia ke kolu o ka lā. A i loko o kēia mau lā ʻekolu i hele mai kahi keikikāne kupaianaha iaʻu e ʻōlelo ʻōlelo ʻino. ʻAʻole ka leo nui a me ka lehulehu, akā surreptitious. No laila ua hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e hōʻoia iā ia iho.
I kēia lā ua kākau ʻo ia i kahi hua ʻōlelo hoʻohiki ma luna o kahi ʻāpana pepa a hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hōʻike i nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Ua lawe mai wau i waho a hoʻomaka wau e wehewehe i nā huaʻolelo pelapela he huaʻōlelo haumia ia e ka "ʻōpala" ʻōlelo, he hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kekahi kanaka - hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i maʻi (ʻo wau ka mea haʻi moʻolelo kaʻao, no laila hana wau ma o ka metaphor). Ua hoʻohui wau he koʻikoʻi kēia a hiki nō hoʻi iaʻu ke maʻi, no ka mea ua lohe wau i kēia mau ʻōlelo.
ʻO kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana e like me kēia: "Noho ʻoe i kahi kaiāulu kūpono?" - "ʻAe, maikaʻi." - "He keiki maikaʻi ʻoe?" - "Ae!" - "A ʻaʻole hoʻohiki nā keikikāne maikaʻi i kahi kaiāulu kūpono."
Ua hele mākou i ka lua a ua ʻae mākou e holoi pono i nā lima me ke kopa, a laila ko mākou alo. A ʻoiai me kahi hua liʻiliʻi e holoi mākou i ka "lepo" mai ke alelo.
ʻAʻole i uē ke keikikāne, ʻaʻohe ona huhū - ʻo kēia ka manawa mua aʻu e lohe ai i kēia iā ʻoe. ʻOiai, ʻaʻole hauʻoli ʻo ia i ka hopu ʻia ʻana, a i kēia manawa pono iā ia e "holoi iā ia iho". Akā inā me ka minoʻaka, inā ʻaʻole ia e aʻo i kahi haʻawina mai ka mōʻaukala. A no laila ua hoʻolohe ʻo ia iaʻu, ʻae a hana i nā mea āpau iā ia iho. Ma hope o kēlā ua noi ʻo ia iaʻu ʻaʻole e haʻi i kekahi e pili ana i kēia. A minamina nui wau i kēia manawa e haki wau i kaʻu hoʻohiki.
Ma hope o kēia hanana, ua hoʻi mākou i ka hui, huli ke keiki iaʻu, kūkulu mākou i nā kiʻi a huki like. Ua noho mau hoaaloha mākou me ia. Kupanaha ke keiki, a he makuahine maikaʻi kāna. Ua kamaʻilio pū mākou me ia, a ua ʻae ʻo ia he pilikia like ko lākou ma ke kula, a lana kona manaʻo e kōkua kaʻu ʻano hana.
ʻO ke kopa kekahi hana. Inā makemake ʻole kekahi i ke kopa, e hoʻohana i ka niho ʻāʻī a palaki. ʻO ka mea nui ka noho hoa ʻana i ke keiki, ma kona ʻaoʻao. Hōʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe e walaʻau iā ia, akā e kōkua. A laila e ulu ikaika wale nō kāu pili.
Ua noi aku ka lā wahine i ʻelua mau psychologists keiki hou e ʻōlelo e pili ana i ke kūlana.
Hoʻomaluhonua ʻO Galina Zaripova:
Loiloi wau i ke kūlana i hōʻike ʻia ma ka pāpāho - ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike i ka mea i hana ʻia ma laila. ʻO ka mea kūpono ʻole i ke kānāwai - no ka mea! Loaʻa iā mākou kahi Code Administrative e loiloi i kēia hana ma ke ʻano he hoʻomāinoino a me ke kino inā uē maoli ke keiki a noi e kū.
He hana maikaʻi ʻole kēia e hūnā i kahi keikikāne mai ka hoʻohiki ʻana. ʻO nā mea āpau a ke keiki 8 makahiki e lawe ai mai ka ʻike i loaʻa: “Me kēia kanaka, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohiki, a i ʻole, e kiʻi wau.” Inā ua hoʻāʻo ka makuahine ponoʻī e kamaʻilio me ke keiki, akā ʻaʻole kōkua kēia, a laila kupu mai ka nīnau e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻana. ʻO ka maʻamau, ʻo ia mau kamaʻilio ʻana he ʻano notational, ke hoʻāʻo kahi makua, mai kona kūlana, e wehewehe i kahi kanaka liʻiliʻi pehea ʻo ia e ola ai. A i loko o ka psychology keiki aia kahi lula maʻalahi - pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi. No ke aha e hoʻohana ai ke keiki i ka ʻōlelo pilau - hana hou i ka hana a haʻi? Hōʻike i ka huhū a i ʻole ka hauʻoli? Ke maopopo lea, e aʻo i kāu keiki e hōʻike pololei i nā naʻau. Maliʻa paha kēia kāna ala o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a ʻaʻole ʻike ʻo ia pehea e hana ai i kahi ala ʻē aʻe.
He mea kōkua nō ke kamaʻilio me nā keiki ʻē aʻe mai kēia kahua hoʻomoana. Pono ʻoe e nīnau iā lākou i ko lākou manaʻo no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo aia kekahi kanaka i waena o lākou e hoʻohiki, malia paha e pili kēia i ke keiki kāne. A, ʻoiai, i ka hoʻomaka, i kahi hoʻomoana, pono lākou e wehewehe i nā lula o ka hana, no ka mea he banal lākou.
ʻO Psychologist Natella Kolobova:
Me he mea lā ʻo ka wahine hōʻike (Olga Tatarnikova) ka mea i ʻeha loa i kēia kūlana. ʻAʻole maopopo iā mākou ka mea hiki a hōʻeha ʻole i kahi keiki. ʻO kekahi a me ke kūlana like no kekahi e "weliweli i kahi trauma", a e hele ʻo ia i nā psychotherapist me ia i kona ola āpau. E hele mālie kekahi o ke kūlana like, e lepo ana iā ia iho. ʻIke wau i hoʻokahi mea maopopo: i nā hanana paʻakikī, pono e loaʻa kahi mākua kūpono kūpono e hiki ke: wehewehe i kēia kūlana; piha (ʻo ia, kū i nā manaʻo ikaika o ke keiki, e noho pū me ia); kākoʻo. ʻO ke keikikāne, ka mea e uhaʻi pinepine i nā lula maʻamau, no laila "noi" i ke alo o kahi makua ikaika nāna e hoʻokau iā ia i nā palena paʻa, nā lula a me nā koi, akā i ka mea hiki iā ia ke hilinaʻi. ʻO Mom me kēia, ʻaʻole paha maikaʻi loa ia. No laila, hiki ke hoʻokau ʻia kēlā ʻano e ka psychologist, kumu, kumu aʻo.
No laila, ma aneʻi i hana ai ka psychologist ma ke ʻano he waha waha no nā ʻano nohona. ʻOiai, ma kona wahi, ʻaʻole wau e koi aku iā ʻoe e holoi i kou waha me ke kopa. ʻO Brr ... e noʻonoʻo wau i kahi mea ʻē aʻe, e laʻa, e hoʻolauna i kahi ʻōnaehana o nā hoʻopaʻi no ka hoa i ka hui.