Manipulator e like me E. Shostrom

ʻO kahi manipulator e like me Everett Shostrom, he ʻano ʻino o ka neurotic manipulator i wehewehe ʻia e E. Shostrom. ʻO ka puke kaulana e E. Shostrom «The man-manipulator» pili i ka manaʻo o ka «manipulator» kahi manaʻo hoʻomau maikaʻi ʻole, i lilo i kuʻuna.

No nā ʻano manipulators ʻē aʻe, e ʻike i ka ʻatikala nui Manipulator

Wahi a Shostrom, ʻo ka manipulator he ʻano manipulative o ke kanaka e ʻimi nei e hoʻopaʻa a hoʻokele i nā kānaka i ke ʻano o ka mīkini manipulator. ʻO ia hoʻi, no ka mea, ʻaʻole nā ​​​​kānaka ʻē aʻe a pau, ʻaʻole nā ​​​​kānaka, akā nā malihini, nā mea ʻike ʻole a me nā mea ola ʻole, a nāna e mālama iā lākou me ka wehe ʻole ʻana, me ka hilinaʻi ʻole, e like me nā mea mechanical. ʻO ke kanaka o kēia ʻano ʻimi wale nō i kāna mau pono ponoʻī, he mea kupanaha ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka makemake o kahi mea mechanical nona, no laila he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole kēia o ke kanaka.

ʻO ia poʻe manipulative e hoʻomalu i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma o nā ʻano like ʻole, me ka hōʻike ʻana i ko lākou kūlana paʻakikī. Eia kekahi laʻana,ʻo kēia nā "Whiners",ʻo ia hoʻi, nā poʻe e hana maikaʻi ana, akā i ka wā e hui ai lākou, hiki iā lākou ke kamaʻilio no nā hola e pili ana i ka pōʻino o nā mea a pau iā lākou a me ka luhi o nā mea a pau.

ʻAʻole maopopo paha i ka mea manipulator, ʻike ʻole ʻo ia he manipulator a i ʻole he mea hoʻopunipuni.

Pehea e hoʻoholo ai inā he manipulation hale kēia a i ʻole ke ʻano o ke ʻano o ka manipulator? Inā he kūlana ka manipulation a ʻaʻole i hana hou ʻia i nā kūlana ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā. Inā hana ke kanaka e like me ka manipulator i nā manawa a pau, me ka ʻole o ka haʻalele ʻana i kēia kuleana, he ʻano ola kēia.

E nānā kākou i kēia me ka laʻana o ke keiki. Makemake ke keiki e nānā i kahi papahana ʻē aʻe paha. Nīnau au, ua maikaʻi. Ua uē ʻo ia - ua hoʻāʻo e hoʻohuli, akā ua hoʻohuli ʻia - ua hoʻopunipuni ʻia kēia i loko o ke ʻano o nā makahiki maʻamau. A inā ʻo ia e uwē mau a hoʻomau a hōʻike iā ia i kahi kiʻi paʻi kiʻi, koi ʻo ia e uē i kona ʻaoʻao ponoʻī, he manipulator kēia.

manipulative a neurotic

ʻO kahi predisposition i ka manipulativeness ke ʻano o kahi neurotic. ʻO kekahi o nā pono o ka neurotic ka pono o ka mana, ka mana. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei ʻo Karen Horney ʻo ka makemake nui e noho aliʻi e alakaʻi i ka "hiki ʻole o ke kanaka ke hoʻokumu i nā pilina like. Inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e lilo i alakaʻi, manaʻo ʻo ia e nalowale loa, hilinaʻi a nele. He mana loa ʻo ia a ʻo nā mea a pau i ʻoi aku ma mua o kona mana, ʻike ʻia ʻo ia e like me kona hoʻouna ʻana.

ʻO ka hoʻohewa ʻana i nā hemahema i nā manaʻo o E. Shostrom

Ma hope o E. Shostrom, kapa pinepine ʻia nā manipulators i nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o ka poʻe i kūpono ʻole i kēlā ʻano hōʻailona maikaʻi ʻole.

"ʻO ke kanaka hoʻohana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hoʻokō i kāna mau pahuhopu he manipulator." Ka wahahee a me ka lapuwale. Hoʻohana ka haumāna i nā kumu no kāna pahuhopu e lilo i kanaka hoʻonaʻauao - he haumāna maikaʻi ʻo ia, ʻaʻole he manipulator ʻino.

"ʻO ka mea hoʻohana i ka manipulation he manipulator." Huikau a me ka lapuwale. ʻO ka manipulator kekahi mea hoʻopunipuni, ʻaʻole ka mea hoʻohana i ka manipulation. No ka laʻana, hoʻohana mau ʻia nā manipulations maikaʻi i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waena o nā mea aloha, nā ʻohana a me nā poʻe aloha. ʻO ka manipulation maikaʻi he ʻāpana kūlohelohe o kā lākou mau pilina pili nani, kahi ʻaʻohe mea a manaʻo e like me kahi mea ʻē a i ʻole mechanical. ʻO nā manipulation maikaʻi he hōʻike ia o ka hopohopo no ka mea i kuhikuhi ʻia iā lākou, ʻaʻole hiki ke lilo i kumu no ka hōʻike maikaʻi ʻole o kā lākou mea kākau. Nānā →