Nā pūnaewele o ka hakakā: he aha kā mākou e manaʻo ai mai nā psychologists ma ka Pūnaewele?

Ke ho'āʻo nei e koho i ka loea kūpono, hoʻolohe pinepine mākou i ke ʻano o kona hoʻonoho ʻana iā ia iho i nā ʻoihana pūnaewele. Ua hoihoi kekahi i nā psychologists e kamaʻilio pololei a hauʻoli e pili ana i ko lākou ola. A ʻo kekahi, ʻokoʻa, makaʻala i kēlā poʻe, makemake e hana me kahi mea lapaʻau i mālama ʻole i Instagram a i ʻole Facebook.

Ma nā pūʻulu o nā mea kūʻai aku i loaʻa i ka poʻe ʻoihana hewa ʻole, hoʻopaʻapaʻa pinepine lākou e pili ana i ka psychologist (ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻo ia ke kanaka like me nā mea ʻē aʻe o mākou) ke kuleana e kaʻana like i nā kiʻi ʻohana, kahi meaʻai no kahi pai punahele, a i ʻole he mele hou mai kahi mea pena punahele ma nā pūnaewele kaiapili. Ua hoʻoholo mākou e ʻike i ka manaʻo o kā mākou poʻe loea e pili ana i kēia - psychologist Anastasia Dolganova a me ka loea i ka hoʻonā-oriented short-term therapy, psychologist Anna Reznikova.

Māmā ma ka puka makani

No ke aha mākou e nānā pinepine ai i ka psychologist ma ke ʻano he lani? He ʻāpana wale nō paha kēia o ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ka ʻepekema: i kekahi mau keneturi i hala aku nei, ua manaʻo ʻia ke kauka hiki ke hoʻopā i nā iwi a huki i waho i kahi niho. A makaʻu iki. I kēia lā, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻole mākou e kahaha i nā hana mana o ka lāʻau lapaʻau, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hilinaʻi nui mākou iā mākou iho i nā loea, me ka manaʻo he kuleana lākou no ko mākou pono.

"Mai ka ʻike ʻana o ka psychotherapist ma ke ʻano he kilokilo ʻino a maikaʻi paha, ua hiki mai mākou i ka manaʻo o ka psychotherapist he colossus, kahi kūpono e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi i kou ola palupalu," wehewehe ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. - ʻO ka pono o ka mea kūʻai aku e like me ka hiki ʻole o nā psychologists a me nā psychotherapists e hoʻokō i kēia mau makemake ...

Ma waho o ka ʻoihana, aia kahi moʻolelo moʻolelo holoʻokoʻa e pili ana i ka mea e pono ai a ʻaʻole pono ka psychotherapist, ma ke ʻano he loea a me ke kanaka. Eia kekahi laʻana: hiki iāʻoe ke haʻi iā ia i nā mea a pau, a eʻaeʻo ia i nā mea a pau, no ka mea, he mea lapaʻauʻo ia. ʻAʻole paha ʻo ia e huhū mai iaʻu, ʻaʻole pono e ʻinoʻino, ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia e luuluu iaʻu. ʻAʻole pono ʻo ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ia iho, ʻaʻole pono e momona, mai maʻi a hemo paha. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hele i ka hoʻomaha inā maʻi au. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke kūʻē i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e lawe wau i kahi kūkākūkā me kahi loea ʻē aʻe. Pono ʻo ia e makemake i kaʻu mau manaʻo a me nā hoʻoholo - a pēlā aku.

I kekahi manawa, hoka mākou i ka psychologist e nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia - a mamao loa mai lākou a pau e pili ana, ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka hana. No ka laʻana, hōʻole ka mea kūʻai aku e hana pū me ka lāʻau lapaʻau no ka mea he "like ʻole ʻo ia", a ke hoʻopau ka mea kūʻai aku i nā hālāwai ma hope o ʻekolu mau kau no ka mea ʻaʻole pololei ke keʻena o ka loea. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī e pili ana i ka nani, akā ʻaʻole hiki i kahi loea ke wānana mau i ka mea e lilo i mea hoʻokūkū no ka mea kūʻai aku. A hiki i nā mea ʻelua ke hōʻeha i kēia kūlana, a koʻikoʻi loa.

Akā, pono e mālama ʻia ka nani me ka akahele loa. Hiki i nā mea hoʻohana o ka ʻoihana pūnaewele ke hoihoi loa i nā kiʻi o kahi psychologist ma ka heihei kaʻa, i ka hui o ko lākou kupuna wahine aloha a i ʻole nā ​​pōpoki, makemake lākou e kiʻi iā ia a iā ia wale nō. He aha ka hōʻailona o kēia ala o ka mea kūʻai aku i ka psychologist?

"Inā koho ka mea kūʻai aku i kahi mea lapaʻau e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e kākau mau ana ʻo ia e pili ana i kona ola pilikino, maikaʻi ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia ma ke kau. ʻO ka maʻamau, hūnā kēia ala i ka nui o nā moemoeā a me nā ʻeha o ka mea kūʻai aku, hiki ke kūkākūkā ʻia, "wahi a Anna Reznikova.

Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei ʻo Anastasia Dolganova: "Malia paha kekahi o nā manaʻo i ʻike ʻole ʻia, e ka poʻe psychologist ponoʻī a me kā lākou mea kūʻai aku, ʻo ia ka psychotherapy, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ka hana nui. ʻAʻole kēia he ola kūpono a ʻaʻole nā ​​kānaka kūpono. He hana paʻakikī kēia, a ke hoʻopilikia wale nei ka halo aloha a i ʻole ka daimonio.

No ka ʻike a ʻike ʻole paha - ʻo ia ka nīnau!

ʻO kekahi poʻe mea kūʻai aku e loiloi i kahi loea e pili ana i kona ʻano pololei ma ka Pūnaewele. He aha ke ʻano o nā manaʻo i ʻike ʻia e kekahi mea ʻaʻole makemake e ʻike i kekahi mea e pili ana i kahi loea ma ke ʻano he kanaka a koho i kahi psychologist e like me ke kumu "inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ma Facebook, ʻo ia ka mea he ʻoihana maikaʻi ʻoe"?

"ʻAʻole au makemake e ʻike i kekahi mea e pili ana iā ʻoe" ʻo ia hoʻi, "Makemake au e lilo ʻoe i mea kūpono," wehewehe ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. - ʻOiai nā psychoanalysts, no ka mea ʻo ka nele o ka hōʻike ʻana iā lākou iho he ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o ka ʻenehana ʻoihana, ʻaʻole i mālama i kēia kumukānāwai. Hiki i ke kanaka olakino noʻonoʻo a noʻonoʻo ke ʻae i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e pili ana iā ia me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana iā ia - a ʻo ia kahi ʻāpana o ka ulu a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana, nā hana a nā psychotherapy hohonu e hahai ai.

ʻO ka hana kahi ʻāpana wale nō o ke kanaka. Aia ma hope o kekahi loea nā lanakila a me nā ʻike, nā hewa a me nā lanakila, ʻeha a me ka hauʻoli. Hiki iā ia ke aloha i nā comedies wacky, felting a me ka lawaiʻa hau. A kākau e pili ana iā ia - pū kekahi. No laila pono ʻoe e kākau inoa i nā mea hou a kāu kauka? ʻO ka hoʻoholo, e like me ka mea maʻamau, na mākou.

"ʻAʻole makemake paha kahi kanaka e loaʻa ka ʻike pili e pili ana i kā lākou mea lapaʻau, e like me ka makemake ʻole e loaʻa ia ʻike e pili ana i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe a hiki i ka hoʻāpono ʻia e ka pilina," wehewehe ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. "No laila, ʻaʻole kēia he kānāwai kūʻokoʻa no ka mea lapaʻau a me ka mea kūʻai aku, akā ʻo ke aloha kanaka a me ka mahalo i kekahi."

Pehea e hana ai nā psychologists i kēia pilikia? A no ke aha lākou e hana ai i kekahi mau koho?

"ʻAʻole au e kau inoa i kaʻu mea lapaʻau ma nā pūnaewele kaiapili, no ka mea, noʻu e pili ana i nā palena - ʻo wau a me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe," wahi a Anna Reznikova. "A i ʻole, loaʻa iaʻu kekahi mau moemoeā e hoʻopilikia i kā mākou hana. ʻAʻole kēia he makaʻu a hoʻohaʻahaʻa paha: loaʻa iā mākou kahi pilina hana. Maikaʻi loa - akā ke hana nei. A ma kēia mau mea, ʻaʻole wau makemake e ʻike i kekahi mea e pili ana i kaʻu loea, e like me kaʻu makemake ʻole e ʻike ʻo ia i kekahi mea pilikino e pili ana iaʻu. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole paha wau i mākaukau e haʻi iā ia i nā mea āpau… "

Nā pilikia a me nā hopena

Hiki ke hoʻohauʻoli i ka ʻōlelo pololei loa. A ma ka laulā, ʻo nā ʻoihana pūnaewele wale nō e hōʻike iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole wale ma ke ʻano he loea, akā he kanaka ola hoʻi. A i ʻole, no ke aha lākou e pono ai, ʻeā? Aʻole naʻe.

"Ua hālāwai au i nā manaʻo ma ka Pūnaewele e like me:" E ka poʻe, ʻaʻole wau i aʻo i ka psychology a hele i ka lāʻau pilikino e kaupalena iaʻu iho i kēia manawa!" Hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i kēia, akā no kēlā ʻano pololei, ma waho aʻe o ka bravado a me ke kūʻē, pono mākou i ka liʻiliʻi o kahi ʻōnaehana paʻa o ke kākoʻo o waho a me ke kākoʻo pilikino, "ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. "A me ka ʻike, koʻikoʻi i kāu mea e kākau ai, a me ka hiki ke wānana i ka pane."

He aha ka pilikia o ka psychotherapist e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hanana a me nā hiʻohiʻona o kona ola pilikino ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele? ʻO ka mea mua, pili pono a maopopo me ka mea kūʻai.

"Ua kākau ʻo Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams: "Ua ʻike ka poʻe maʻi i nā hōʻike a kahi psychotherapist he hoʻololi weliweli, me he mea lā e haʻi aku ka mea lapaʻau i ka mea maʻi me ka manaʻolana e hoʻomaha ʻo ia iā ia," wahi a Anna Reznikova. - ʻO ia hoʻi, ke neʻe nei ka manaʻo o ka nānā ʻana mai ka mea kūʻai aku i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, a ma kēia ala e hoʻololi ai lākou i nā wahi. A pili ka psychotherapy i kahi mahele o nā kuleana: he mea kūʻai aku a he loea. A ua hāʻawi kēia ʻike i kahi wahi palekana no nā mea kūʻai aku e ʻimi i ko lākou mau manaʻo. "

Eia kekahi, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoholo i ka mākaukau o kahi loea ma mua, ʻaʻole ʻike mau i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ia he ʻoihana a he kanaka maʻalahi.

"Inā ʻike ka mea kūʻai aku i nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ola pilikino o ka mea lapaʻau: no ka laʻana, ʻaʻohe āna keiki a hemo paha, a laila ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e kūkākūkā i nā pilikia like me kahi loea," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Anna Reznikova. - ʻO ka loina e like me kēia: "ʻAe, he aha ka mea hiki iā ia ke ʻike inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hānau / hemo / loli?"

Akā aia kekahi mau pilikia palekana. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻike ʻia nā moʻolelo e like me ka pōʻino o ka protagonist o ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni "The Sixth Sense" ʻaʻole ma ka pale wale nō.

"ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka mea i loko o ka manaʻo o kāu mea kūʻai aku a i ʻole kona ʻohana. Ma kekahi o nā hui, ua haʻi nā hoa hana i kahi moʻolelo: ua hele kahi kaikamahine i kahi psychologist no ka manawa lōʻihi, a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua loli nā loli i loko ona. A ʻaʻole makemake kāna kāne. ʻO ka hopena, ua manaʻo ʻo ia i kahi loea a hoʻomaka e hoʻoweliweli i kona mau mākua, "wahi a Anna Reznikova.

Ma keʻano laulā, hiki i kekahi mea ke hana, a ma kekahi hihia, pono e mālama i kahi nānā koʻikoʻi -ʻaʻole wale i ka poʻe a puniʻoe, akā iāʻoe iho. A no ka loea, ʻoi aku paha kēia mea nui ma mua o ka mea kūʻai aku. Aia kekahi mau mea pono ʻole e hoʻouka ʻia e kahi loea i kā lākou ʻoihana pūnaewele? He aha a pehea e kākau ʻole ai nā psychologists iā lākou iho ma kā lākou ʻaoʻao?

"ʻO nā mea a pau maʻaneʻi he kanaka hoʻokahi a hilinaʻi i ke ala e pili ai ka mea lapaʻau, a me nā kūlana kūpono e pili kokoke iā ia," wahi a Anna Reznikova. — ʻAʻole au e kau i nā kiʻi o kaʻu poʻe i aloha ai, i kaʻu mau kiʻi ponoʻī mai nā pāʻina a i nā lole kūpono ʻole, ʻaʻole wau e hoʻohana i ka huli ʻōlelo "colloquial" i nā ʻōlelo. Kākau wau i nā moʻolelo mai ke ola, akā he mea hana hou kēia. ʻO ka manaʻo o kaʻu mau pou, ʻaʻole ia e haʻi e pili ana iaʻu iho, akā e hōʻike i ka mea heluhelu i nā manaʻo nui iaʻu.

"ʻAʻole au e kau i kekahi ʻike aʻu i manaʻo ai he pili ma ka Pūnaewele," wahi a Anastasia Dolganova. "ʻAʻole wau e hana ia no nā kumu o nā palena a me ka palekana. ʻO ka nui o kāu hōʻike e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, ʻoi aku ka nāwaliwali o ʻoe. A ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo i ke ʻano o "akā e hana nō wau, no ka mea makemake wau" he naive. Hoʻomaka pinepine nā mea lapaʻau hoʻomaka i nā moʻolelo pololei e pili ana iā lākou iho. ʻO nā mea lapaʻau ʻike a ʻimi ʻia e mālama ʻia. Hōʻike wale lākou i nā mea e pili ana iā lākou iho e hiki ai iā lākou ke mālama me ka hoʻohewa ʻana inā loaʻa nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. "

He kanaka a hana paha?

Hele mākou i kahi psychotherapist ma ke ʻano he ʻoihana, akā ʻo kēlā me kēia ʻoihana ka mea mua a me ka mea nui. Hoʻomaopopo a ʻaʻole paha, makemake mākou a ʻaʻole paha, me kahi ʻano like ʻole a ʻaʻole loa - akā hiki ke psychotherapy me ka ʻole e hōʻike i kona ʻaoʻao "kanaka" i ka mea kūʻai aku?

"E pili ana ka pane i ke ʻano a me ka lōʻihi o ka lāʻau lapaʻau," wehewehe ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. - ʻAʻole pono nā hana a ka mea kūʻai i hoʻonohonoho no ke kauka e kūkulu i nā pilina maikaʻi i loko o kēia kaʻina hana. ʻO kekahi o nā hana he ʻenehana. Akā ʻo nā noi e pili ana i nā hoʻololi pilikino hohonu a i ʻole ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi kamaʻilio a i ʻole ka pilina pili pono e noiʻi i nā ʻano manaʻo a me nā ʻano hana e kū mai ana ma waena o ka mea lapaʻau a me ka mea kūʻai aku i kā lākou hana hui. I loko o ia kūlana, lilo ka hōʻike ʻana o ka mea lapaʻau iā ia iho a me nā pane o ka mea kūʻai aku iā ia i kekahi o nā mea nui o ka hoʻomohala ʻana.

ʻO nā mea hoʻohana o nā ʻaha kūkā a me nā ʻaoʻao ākea i hoʻolaʻa ʻia i ka hana a nā psychologists i kekahi manawa e kākau: "ʻO ka loea noʻu ʻaʻole ia he kanaka, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ia iho a pono e nānā wale iaʻu a me koʻu mau pilikia." Akā, ʻaʻole anei mākou, ma ia mau hihia, e hōʻemi i ke ʻano o ka mea a mākou e hāʻawi wale ai iā mākou iho i kahi hana? A hiki anei iā mākou ke ʻōlelo he hewa a maikaʻi paha kēia?

"ʻAʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole ka mālama ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke ʻano he hana," wahi a Anastasia Dolganova. - I kekahi mau hihia, mālama kēia manaʻo i ka manawa a me ka ikaika no ka mea kūʻai aku a me ka psychologist. ʻO ka mea lapaʻau, ka mea i hala i ka pae "Makemake wau e lilo i hoaaloha maikaʻi loa a me ka makuahine maikaʻi i nā mea a pau" i kāna hoʻomohala ʻana, mālama i kēlā mau hihia, ʻoiai paha me ka hoʻomaha. Noʻonoʻo iā ia iho i kekahi mea e like me: "ʻAe, he hana maʻalahi kēia, hoʻomaopopo a ʻenehana no kekahi mau mahina. ʻIke wau i ka mea e hana ai, he hana maikaʻi ia.

ʻOiai inā hana maikaʻi ʻole kahi ʻoihana, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻae i ka ʻike ʻana o ka mea kūʻai aku i nā koho i loko ona. Ke huhū nei nā poʻe loea ke ʻike lākou he "simulator" wale nō? E nīnau kākou iā lākou!

"Hiki i ka mea lapaʻau akamai ke ʻike e ʻike ʻia ʻo ia ma ke ʻano he hana," ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. - Inā pilikia ia i ka hana, ʻike ʻo ia i kāna mea e hana ai. Inā hoʻopau kēia i kona ola pilikino, loaʻa iā ia kahi luna nāna e kōkua i ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēia mau manaʻo. Manaʻo wau ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma ke ʻano he hypersensitive ʻo ia ka mea ʻē aʻe o ka hōʻike ʻana iā ia he hana wale nō.

"Inā huhū ka psychologist no ka mālama ʻana o ka mea kūʻai iā ia ma kekahi ʻano a i ʻole, he kumu hou kēia e hele ai no ka nānā ʻana a me ka lāʻau pilikino," ʻae ʻo Anna Reznikova. ʻAʻole ʻoe e lokomaikaʻi i nā mea a pau. Akā inā ua hele mai ka mea kūʻai aku iā ʻoe, ʻo ia ke hilinaʻi iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he loea. A ʻoi aku ka nui o kēia hilinaʻi ma mua o kāna hana ʻana iā ʻoe. Inā he hilinaʻi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana hui.

E hāʻawi mai iaʻu i puke hoʻopiʻi!

Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopiʻi e pili ana i kēia a i kēlā lāʻau lapaʻau, e kālele ana i ke code etika o ka hui a i ʻole hui pū me ia. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻohe palapala maʻamau i ʻae ʻia no nā psychologists āpau e wehewehe i ke ʻano maʻamau o ka pilina ma waena o ka mea lapaʻau a me ka mea kūʻai aku ma ko mākou ʻāina.

"I kēia manawa, nui ka poʻe i nele i ke kōkua e hoʻopau me nā loea maikaʻi ʻole. Ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou, hōʻeha paha nā mea kūʻai aku i ka lāʻau lapaʻau a i ʻole ke ola hou ʻana no ka manawa lōʻihi, wahi a Anna Reznikova. - A no laila, he code of ethics, e wehewehe kikoʻī i nā mea hiki ke hana a me nā mea hiki ʻole ke hana, pono wale nō. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mea a pau ke alakaʻi ʻia e ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau: ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manawa e hiki ai iā mākou ke hālāwai me "nā loea" ʻaʻole i loaʻa kahi hoʻonaʻauao kumu, nā hola kūpono o ka lāʻau pilikino, ka nānā ʻana.

A no ka mea, ʻaʻohe "kānāwai" hoʻokahi e paʻa ana i kēlā me kēia kanaka, hoʻohana mākou, nā mea kūʻai aku i ka lever o ka mana i hiki ke loaʻa iā mākou inā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa ka hoʻopono no kahi loea kūpono ʻole: waiho mākou i kā mākou loiloi ma nā pūnaewele like ʻole ma ka Pūnaewele. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, hoʻonui nui ka Pūnaewele i nā palena o ke kūʻokoʻa o ka ʻōlelo. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hāʻawi ia i ka lumi no ka manipulation: ma nā kaiāulu kahi i maʻamau ka waiho ʻana i nā loiloi e pili ana i nā psychologists, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻolohe pinepine i hoʻokahi ʻaoʻao wale nō - ka mea nona ke kuleana e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea i hana ʻia. A i kēia mau lā ʻaʻole wale nā ​​gurus me ka ʻole o nā diploma i "ma lalo o ka hāʻawi ʻana" ...

"I nā makahiki ʻekolu i hala iho nei, ua loli nui ka pōʻaiapili o ka hana o nā komisina etika," wehewehe ʻo Anastasia Dolganova. "ʻOiai ma mua i hana nui lākou me nā hihia koʻikoʻi o ka hoʻohana ʻana a me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i nā mea kūʻai aku e ka poʻe ʻoihana ʻole, i kēia manawa ua hana ka moʻomeheu o nā hoʻopiʻi lehulehu i kahi kūlana e pono ai nā lālā o ia mau komisina e hoʻolilo i ka hapa nui o ko lākou manawa e aʻo ai i nā koi kūpono ʻole a kūpono ʻole. nā mea lapaʻau, e pili ana i ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻike, ka wahaheʻe a me ka ʻōlelo hōʻino. Ua lilo nō hoʻi ka ʻūhā nui i hōʻailona o nā manawa: kākau ʻia nā hoʻopiʻi ma nā helu like ʻole ma mua.

"Inā i loko o ka ʻoihana i hoʻokumu ʻia nā ʻano hana no ka pale ʻana i ka mea kūʻai aku: ʻo ke code ethical like, nā komisina etika, nā papahana hoʻonaʻauao, ka nānā ʻana, a laila ʻaʻohe mea hana no ka pale ʻana i ka mea lapaʻau. Eia kekahi: ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā lima o ka ethical therapist i ka mea o kona pale ponoʻī! - wahi a Anastasia Dolganova. - No ka laʻana, hiki i kēlā me kēia mea kūʻai o Masha psychologist, ma kēlā me kēia pūnaewele a no kekahi kumu, e kākau "ʻAʻole ʻo Masha he lāʻau lapaʻau, akā ʻo ka palaka hope loa!" Akā kākau ʻo Masha "He wahaheʻe ʻo Kolya!" ʻAʻole hiki, no ka mea ma kēia ala e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai ʻo ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kā lākou hana a hōʻole i ke kūlana huna, ʻo ia ke kī no ka psychotherapy. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa ia no ke kahua ākea. I kēia manawa ʻaʻohe mea hana no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kēia kūlana, akā aia nā kamaʻilio a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kēia kumuhana. ʻO ka mea nui, e hānau ʻia kahi mea hou mai iā lākou i ka wā. ”

He mea pono anei ke hoʻokaʻawale i nā loina e kōkua ai i ka poʻe psychologists e hoʻokele i ka honua o ka Pūnaewele, ma ke ʻano hoʻokahi a i ʻole kekahi e hōʻike ana i ka pololei? Pono paha lākou i ka palekana mai nā loli o kēia ao ma mua o nā mea kūʻai aku.

"Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au he pono nā mea hou i nā code ethics ʻoihana e hiki ai i ka mea lapaʻau ke loaʻa ke alakaʻi i ka lehulehu ākea hou a mālama i ka palekana o kā lākou mea kūʻai aku a me kā lākou ponoʻī. E like me kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻike wau, no ka laʻana, kahi wehewehe maopopo o ka pilina a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pili ana i ka mea a ka mea lapaʻau e pono ai a ʻaʻole pono e hana i ka hihia o nā loiloi maikaʻi ʻole o ka lehulehu i kāna hana a i ʻole kona ʻano, "wahi a Anastasia Dolganova.