ʻO ka holoi ʻana i nā iwi o ka poʻe kaulana he hana hilahila a hilahila hoʻi. Akā, hana liʻiliʻi nā mea a pau. He aha ia - he hōʻailona o kahi psyche pēpē a i ʻole kahi hōʻike o nā pono hohonu?
Ua haʻalele lāua ma muli o kāna inu ʻana a me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka lāʻau. A ʻo ia pū kekahi!
— ʻAe, ua hoʻopau ʻo ia iā ia! E ʻoki paha ʻo ia i kona umauma, a laila e hānai ʻo ia i keiki hou - e holo kekahi mai ia mau ʻano.
— ʻAe, ʻaʻohe mea, akā aia iā mākou ka Mōʻīwahine me Tarzan. A ʻo Pugacheva me Galkin. E nā kāne, e paʻa! Aia iā ʻoe ka manaʻolana a pau.
I nā lāʻekolu i hala iho nei, ua hiki iā mākou ke kūkākūkā i nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka hemoʻana o Brad Pitt a me Angelina e hiki mai ana:ʻo wai ka mea i hoʻopilikia nuiʻia,ʻo ia ka mea hewa, pehea ka hopena o nā keiki. ʻO nā pūʻulu hana holoʻokoʻa i hōʻuluʻulu ʻia i loko o nā lumi puhi a me nā ʻoihana pūnaewele i hoʻolaʻa ʻia no ka nānā ʻana i ka pilina ma waena o nā mea hana ʻelua. Ua hoʻokaʻawale ka poʻe pā i nā "pittists" a me "jolists", a ua hoʻokō kekahi mau kāne i ka hakakā i nā nines ma muli o ke kākoʻo ʻana o kekahi o nā hoa iā Pitt a ʻo kekahi i kākoʻo iā Jolie. No ke aha ka nui o nā manaʻo?
ʻO nā malihini akā ʻohana
Mai ka manaʻo noʻonoʻo, ʻo nā manaʻo a mākou i manaʻo ai e pili ana i ka poʻe a mākou i ʻike ʻole e ʻōlelo nei i kahi pilina parasocial. ʻO ka prefix «couple» ma aneʻi ʻo ia ka deviation: ʻaʻole kēia he pilina ma ke ʻano maʻamau, akā ʻo kā lākou mea pani. Ma hope o nā makahiki 1950, ua ʻike nā kānaka psychologist ʻo Donald Horton lāua ʻo Richard Wohl ʻaʻole mākou e ʻoluʻolu wale i kā mākou mau mea punahele ma ka pale-e hoʻolilo mākou iā lākou i ʻāpana o ko mākou ola. Akā ua lilo ka pilina i ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi: mālama mākou i kā mākou mau puaʻa i ke ʻano like me ka mālama ʻana o nā keiki liʻiliʻi i nā pēpē. Me ka ʻokoʻa ka mana piha o ke keiki ma luna o ka pēpē, ʻaʻole like me ka hero o ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni.
Hāʻawi nā honua Fantasy iā mākou e ʻimi i ko mākou ʻike ponoʻī, ko mākou ʻike i ka pilina
Pehea ke olakino o kēia mau pilina? Hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu loa ka poʻe e hana i nā hoaaloha noʻonoʻo a me nā mea aloha i kā lākou pilina ma ke ola maoli. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hoʻokomo pinepine ʻia nā pilina parasocial e ka poʻe i hilinaʻi ʻole iā lākou iho a paʻakikī ke kamaʻilio me nā poʻe maoli. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻoi aku ka palekana: ʻaʻole haʻalele ka hoaaloha mai ka TV iā mākou, a inā e hana ʻia kēia, loaʻa iā mākou nā moʻolelo kahiko a me kā mākou noʻonoʻo. ʻO ka lua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā hana a ka hero: ʻaʻole ʻo ia e komo i loko o kāna ʻeke no kahi huaʻōlelo, ʻaʻole ia e hana i ka hana maʻamau, a nani mau.
ʻO Angelina ka Nani a me Brad Mana Loa
ʻAʻole ʻae nā mea a pau i ka hele ʻana o nā hōʻailona o kahi pilina parasocial i loko o mākou he kumu ia e huli ai i kahi loea. ʻOiai ʻaʻole maoli maoli ka pilina, hiki ke kōkua nā manaʻo ma hope o ia. "E ʻae nā ao noʻonoʻo iā mākou e ʻimi i ko mākou ʻike ponoʻī, ko mākou ʻike i ka pilina, ko mākou waiwai, a me ke ʻano o kā mākou hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke ʻano o ke ola," wehewehe ʻo Karen Dill-Shackleford, kākāʻōlelo psychologist.
Eia ka mea kūpono e hoʻomanaʻo i ka huaʻōlelo "kiʻi" ʻōlelo mua ʻia i nā akua pegana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, no ka hapa nui o mākou, aia ka poʻe kaulana i kahi kiʻekiʻe hiki ʻole ke loaʻa iā lākou kahi kūlana akua. No laila, nui ka poʻe e mālama ikaika i kā lākou mau holoholona mai ka hoʻouka ʻana. Pono mākou i nā laʻana e hahai ai. Makemake mākou e loaʻa i mua o ko mākou mau maka ke ʻano o ka Success, Kindness, Creativity and Nobility. ʻAʻole hiki ke lilo i mau hōkū pop wale nō, akā ʻo nā poʻe kālai'āina hoʻi, nā mea hana kaiaulu a i ʻole nā kumu ʻuhane. Pono nā kānaka a pau i ka Mesia i mākaukau ai lākou e hele, i hiki iā lākou ke huli noʻonoʻo no ke kākoʻo a me ka hoʻoikaika.
No Jenny a i ʻole ʻo Angie?
ʻO ka hope, aia kekahi ʻano pilikanaka i ko mākou aloha i ka poʻe kaulana. Makemake mākou e komo i loko o kahi pūʻulu pili hoʻokahi, he "ʻohana" kahi e ʻōlelo ai kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka ʻōlelo hoʻokahi, e ʻike kekahi i kekahi ma nā hōʻailona i ʻike wale ʻia iā lākou, loaʻa kā lākou aloha huna, nā lā hoʻomaha, nā ʻakaʻaka. Ua komo mua ka hua'ōlelo Pelekania fandom (fan base) i kā mākou ʻōlelo a me ka hanana ponoʻī: ʻo ka nui o nā kaiāulu he mau miliona kānaka. Hoʻololi pinepine lākou i nā nūhou, kākau i nā moʻolelo e pili ana i kā lākou mau kiʻi, kiʻi i nā kiʻi a me nā comics, kope i ko lākou helehelena. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi "ʻoihana" hoihoi i loko o lākou, e lilo i loea i ka biography a i ʻole ke ʻano o kāu mea keaka punahele.
Makemake mākou e komo i loko o kahi hui pili hoʻokahi, he "ʻohana", kahi e ʻōlelo ai kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka ʻōlelo hoʻokahi, ʻike kekahi i kekahi ma nā hōʻailona ʻike iā lākou wale nō.
Ua like nā kaiāulu pā me nā hui pāʻani ma nā ʻano he nui: ke manao nei lakou i na lanakila a me na eo ana o ko lakou mau «champs» no lakou. Ma kēia manaʻo, hiki i ka hemo ʻana o Angelina Jolie ke lilo i mea hōʻeha maoli i kāna mau mea pā, akā i ka manawa like e hāʻawi ai i kumu no ka hauʻoli ʻana i nā mea pā o Jennifer Aniston. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo Angelina ka mea i "hōʻino" i kā lākou mea punahele, ua pepehi iā Brad Pitt mai ona aku. Hoʻomaopopo ʻo psychologist Rick Grieve e ʻike ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o ka hui a hoʻonui iā mākou i ka hauʻoli. "Ke oli nei nā mea a pau a puni ʻoe i ka mea like, hāʻawi ia i ka ikaika a me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho," wehewehe ʻo ia.
Loaʻa nā mea maikaʻi i ka pilina noʻonoʻo me nā hōkū, a me na aoao ino. Hoʻoulu ʻia mākou e ko lākou mau waiwai, ka nohona a me ka hoʻokokoke ʻana i nā pilikia ola like ʻole. He mea pono wale nō e hōʻoia i ka ulu ʻole o ka hoʻopili ʻana i ka hilinaʻi, a ʻaʻole hoʻololi nā interlocutors noʻonoʻo i nā mea maoli.
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