Nā keiki precocious: ninaninau me Anne Débarède

"ʻAʻole maikaʻi kaʻu keiki ma ka papa no ka mea ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia ma laila no ka mea naʻauao loa", pehea ʻoe e wehewehe ai i kēia manaʻo ua laha a nui loa?

I ka wā ma mua, manaʻo ka poʻe "ʻaʻole maikaʻi kaʻu keiki i ke kula, ʻaʻole lawa ʻo ia". Ua hoʻohuli ʻia ka loiloi i lilo i kēia lā i mea ʻano hana maoli. He paradoxical, akā ma luna o nā mea a pau e ʻoluʻolu i ka narcissism o kēlā me kēia! ʻO ka mea maʻamau, ʻike nā mākua i ka mana o kā lākou keiki liʻiliʻi he mea kupanaha, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka wā e pili ana i kā lākou keiki mua, ma muli o ka nele o nā mea hoʻohālikelike. No ka laʻana, hauʻoli lākou i ka hana ʻana i nā ʻenehana hou, no ka mea ʻaʻole makemake lākou no ko lākou mau makahiki. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hoʻomaopopo nā keiki i ka wikiwiki o ka hana ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole i kāohi ʻia.

Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke haʻi i ke keiki akamai?

Pono anei mākou e hoʻokaʻawale i nā keiki? ʻO kēlā me kēia hihia he kanaka hoʻokahi a ʻaʻole pono mākou e poina ʻo ka "makana" a i ʻole nā ​​​​keiki i manaʻo ʻia he precocious, i wehewehe ʻia e ka IQ (intelligence quotient) ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o 130, he 2% wale nō o ka heluna kanaka. ʻO nā mākua i mahalo i ka hiki o kā lākou keiki ke holo pinepine i kahi loea e ʻōlelo i ka loiloi IQ. Eia naʻe, he manaʻo helu helu paʻakikī wale nō kēia, kahi e hiki ai ke hoʻokumu i kahi hoʻohālikelike, i ka manawa i hāʻawi ʻia, o nā keiki i waena o lākou iho. Aia nā mea a pau i ka hui i kūkulu ʻia e hoʻokumu i ka hoʻohālikelike. Pono ka IQ no ka poʻe loea, akā manaʻo wau ʻaʻole pono e hōʻike ʻia i nā mākua me ka ʻole o nā wehewehe kikoʻī. A i ʻole, hoʻohana lākou ia mea e hōʻoia i ke kumu o nā pilikia āpau o kā lākou keiki, ʻoi aku hoʻi ma ke kula kula, me ka hoʻāʻo ʻole e hoʻomaopopo.

Ua hele pū ʻia ka naʻauao precocity me nā pilikia hoʻonaʻauao?

ʻAʻole. ʻAʻohe pilikia o kekahi mau keiki naʻauao ma ke kula. ʻO ka holomua ʻana o ke kula ma muli o kekahi mau kumu. ʻO nā keiki i hana maikaʻi ma mua o nā mea hoʻoikaika a paʻakikī. ʻAʻole ʻepekema ka wehewehe ʻana i ka hemahema o ka hoʻonaʻauao ma muli o ka nui o ka naʻauao. Ma muli o ke kumu maikaʻi ʻole o ka haʻawina a i ʻole no ka mālama ʻole ʻia ʻana o nā kumuhana i mākaukau loa ke keiki.

Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke kōkua i ke keiki ʻōpio i kāna kula?

Pono mākou e ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo. He okoa na keiki a pau. Loaʻa kekahi i nā pilikia kūikawā, ma ke kula kiʻi no ka laʻana. I kekahi manawa, ʻo kā lākou hana wale nō ia e huikau ai kā lākou kumu, no ka laʻana, ke ʻike ke keiki i ka hopena kūpono me ka hahai ʻole i kāna mau kuhikuhi. Kūʻē wau i ka hui ʻana o nā keiki ma nā pae a me nā papa kūikawā. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ke komo pololei ʻana i ka papa kiʻekiʻe, no ka laʻana ma CP inā hiki i ke keiki ke heluhelu ma ka hopena o ka ʻāpana waena o ke kula hānai, no ke aha ʻaʻole… He mea nui ka hana ʻana o nā psychologists, nā mākua a me nā kumu i loko o ka liaison no laila. kela hele.

Ke minamina nei ʻoe i ka ʻaoʻao maikaʻi ʻole i pili i ka luhi?

Ke hana ʻole ke keiki i kekahi mea, manaʻo kona mau mākua ua luhi ʻo ia a no laila hauʻoli ʻole. Ma nā pōʻai kaiaulu a pau, ua kākau inoa ʻia lākou i nā hana he nui a i ʻole i loko o kahi kikowaena ea ma ke kumu e hoʻomaha ai ka judo iā lākou, hoʻomaikaʻi ka pena kiʻi i ko lākou dexterity, ʻo ka hale keaka ko lākou hiki ke hōʻike ... loaʻa ka manawa e hanu ai. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui ka waiho ʻana iā lākou i kēia hiki no ka mea mahalo i nā manawa o ka hana ʻole e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻomohala i ko lākou noʻonoʻo.

No ke aha ʻoe i koho ai e hōʻike i ka huakaʻi o ke keiki hoʻokahi a puni ka puke?

E pili ana ia i kahi keiki hui o nā keiki he nui i loaʻa iaʻu ma ke kūkākūkā ʻana. Ma ka hōʻike ʻana pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana me kēia keiki mai kāna moʻolelo pilikino, ʻo kona mau mākua, kāna ʻōlelo, makemake wau e hoʻōla iā ia, me ka hāʻule ʻole i ka caricature. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ke koho ʻana i kahi keiki mai kahi ʻano pilikino maikaʻi no ka mea i loko o kēia ʻano ʻohana, loaʻa pinepine kahi ʻanakala kaulana a makua kāne paha e lilo i mea kuhikuhi a me ka manaʻo o ka hānau ʻana ma ka ʻaoʻao o nā mākua no kā lākou mau keiki. Akā, hiki iaʻu ke koho maʻalahi i kahi keiki mai kahi ʻano haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa, nona nā mākua i kaumaha iā lākou iho e hahai i ke ʻano o kahi ʻanakē i lilo i kumu kula kauhale.