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Hele mai ʻo Lola, 6, me kona makuahine i ke keʻena o Anne-Laure Benattar. ʻO ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi me he mea lā he mālie a akahai. Nānā ʻo ia i ka lumi a me nā kihi. Ua wehewehe kona makuahine iaʻu i kēlā no kekahi mau makahiki i kēia manawa, ua makaʻu ʻo nā spider iā ia, a noi ʻo ia e nānā ʻia kona wahi moe i kēlā me kēia pō ma mua o ka hele ʻana e hiamoe. Noʻonoʻo ʻo ia iā ia kokoke i nā manawa a pau mai ko lākou neʻe ʻana i kēia hale hou a ua "kūpono" mau.
Hiki i nā mākua a me nā keiki ke pili i ka phobias. Ma waena o kēia mau mea, he mea maʻamau ka makaʻu nui i nā spiders. Hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia, no ka mea, hoʻopuka ʻo ia i nā hopena e pale ai i ke ola maʻamau.
ʻO ka hui me Lola, i alakaʻi ʻia e Anne-Benattar, psycho-body therapist
ʻO Anne-Laure Benattar: E haʻi mai iaʻu i ka mea e hana nei me ʻoe e pili ana i…
Lola : Mai ʻōlelo i kekahi mea! Mai ʻōlelo i kekahi mea! E wehewehe au iā ʻoe… Makaʻu ka huaʻōlelo iaʻu! Nānā wau i nā wahi a pau aʻu e hele ai ma nā kihi a ma koʻu wahi moe ma mua o ka hiamoe ʻana…
A.-LB: A pehea inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi?
Lola : Uā wau! Haʻalele au i ka lumi, ke ʻoki nei au! Makaʻu wau i ka make a kāhea wau i koʻu mau mākua!
A.-LB: ʻAe! He ikaika loa! Mai ka neʻe ʻana mai?
Lola : ʻAe, aia kekahi ma koʻu wahi moe i ka pō mua a makaʻu loa wau, a ua nalowale koʻu mau hoaaloha a pau, ke kula aʻu i makemake ai a me koʻu lumi ...
A.-LB: ʻAe, ʻeha ka neʻe ʻana i kekahi manawa, a loaʻa pū kekahi ma kahi moe! Makemake ʻoe e pāʻani i kahi pāʻani?
Lola :ʻAe!!!
A.-LB: E noʻonoʻo mua ʻoe i kahi manawa e noho mālie a hilinaʻi.
Lola : Ke hulahula a kaha kiʻi au, maikaʻi loa, ikaika a hilinaʻi!
A.-LB: He hemolele, e noʻonoʻo hou i kēlā mau manawa ikaika loa, a kau wau i kuʻu lima ma kou lima i mālama ʻoe i kēia manaʻo me ʻoe.
Lola : ʻĀ, maikaʻi kēlā!
A.-LB: I kēia manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke pani i kou mau maka a noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho i kahi noho kiʻiʻoniʻoni. A laila e noʻonoʻo ʻoe i kahi pale kahi āu e ʻike ai i kahi kiʻi ʻeleʻele a keʻokeʻo ma mua o ka neʻe ʻana, i loko o kou lumi. Hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni no kekahi manawa, a hiki i ka hoʻoholo ʻana o ka "pilikia" a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou manaʻo. Lawe ʻoe i ka manaʻo o ka maluhia a me ka hilinaʻi me ʻoe i kēia kiʻiʻoniʻoni a noho ʻoluʻolu ʻoe ma kou noho. Hāele pū ?
Lola : ʻAe, e hele ana au. Makaʻu iki au… akā, ua maikaʻi… ʻO ia, ua hoʻopau wau i ke kiʻiʻoniʻoni. ʻOkoʻa, ʻokoʻa, me he mea lā ua mamao wau ma koʻu noho a ʻo kekahi aʻu e noho ana i ka moʻolelo. Akā naʻe, makaʻu iki au i nā ʻāwīwī, ʻoiai ʻaʻole pilikia hou ka ʻōlelo iaʻu.
A.-LB: ʻAe he mea maʻamau, ʻo wau hoʻi he liʻiliʻi!
Lola : Aia kekahi ma ke kihi ma laila, ʻaʻole ia e makaʻu iaʻu!
KEʻOKEʻO: Inā pono ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu iki, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomau i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa me ʻelua mau ʻanuʻu ʻē aʻe. Akā he mea nui loa kēia ʻanuʻu.
He aha ka phobia? ʻO ka decryption o Anne-Laure Benattar
ʻO ka phobia ka hui ʻana o ka makaʻu me kekahi mea (nā nalo, holoholona, ʻeleʻele, etc.). ʻO ka pinepine, hiki i ka makaʻu ke kuhikuhi i ka pōʻaiapili o ka wā i kū mua ai ka pilikia. Eia kekahi laʻana, eia ke kaumaha o ka neʻe ʻana a me ka spider i loko o kahi moe i pili i ka lolo o Lola.
ʻO nā mea hana e kōkua ai iā Lola e lanakila i kāna phobia o nā spiders
PNL Dissociation ma'alahi
ʻO ka pahuhopu ke "hoʻokaʻawale" i ke kaumaha mai ka mea o ka makaʻu, a ʻo ia ka mea e hiki ai i kēia hana, ma kāna ʻano maʻalahi, i hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia ma ka home.
Inā ʻaʻole lawa kēlā, pono mākou e kūkākūkā he mea lapaʻau kūikawā i ka NLP. Pono e hoʻokahi a ʻoi aku paha mau kau ma muli o nā pilikia ʻē aʻe i hūnā ʻia e ka phobia. Ma ke keʻena, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa (double dissociation) me ka hoʻokuʻu piha ʻana.
Nā pua Bach
Hiki i nā pua Bach ke hāʻawi i ka hōʻoluʻolu no ka makaʻu loa: e like me Rock Rose a i ʻole Rescue, kahi lāʻau hōʻoluʻolu mai Dr Bach, e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i nā hopohopo nui a no laila nā hopena phobic.
Hoʻopili
ʻO kahi "hanchoring" ma kahi ʻāpana o ke kino, ma ka lima no ka laʻana, o kahi manaʻo ʻoluʻolu, e like me ka ʻoluʻolu a i ʻole ka hilinaʻi, hiki ke ola maikaʻi i kahi manawa ma ka hoʻopili ʻana i ka punawai.
maalea : Hiki ke hana i ka heleuma e ke keiki ponoi a ho'āla mau i ka hilinaʻi i kekahi mau kūlana. He mea hoʻopaʻa ponoʻī.