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Pehea e hoʻokō maikaʻi ai i kou ola i kēlā me kēia lā me nā keiki māhoe: kā mākou ʻōlelo aʻo!
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka lilo ʻana i mau mākua no nā māhoe. He haunaele nui ma ka ohana. Pehea e hoʻokele ai i kāna mau keiki ʻelua i kēlā me kēia lā i hoʻokahi a hui pū? ʻO kekahi mau pane me ʻEmilie, ka makuahine o Inès lāua ʻo Elsa, nā māhoe ʻeono makahiki i kēia lā, a ʻo Clotilde Avezou, ke kauka psychologist a me ka loea i ka māhoe.
ʻIke nā mākua o nā māhoe hiki ke paʻakikī ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā me kahi duo o nā keiki e mālama pono i ka manawa like. Pehea e hoʻonohonoho maikaʻi ai i ka lā i ʻole e poina i kekahi mea? He aha nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka holo maikaʻi ʻana o nā mea a pau? Ke haʻi aku nei mākou iā ʻoe i nā mea a pau…
Loaʻa i kahi hui "quasi-military".
“Ka helu helu 1 inā he makuahine ʻoe o nā māhoe: loaʻa kahi hui quasi-military foolproofe! ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke waiho i kahi lumi no nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia. Eia kekahi, hoʻomaopopo koke mākou! », wahi a ʻEmilie, ka makuahine o Inès lāua ʻo Elsa. "ʻO nā mākua o nā māhoe i hele mai no ke kūkākūkā pinepine ʻana he mau keiki 2-3 makahiki. ʻO kēia ka makahiki o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka autonomy, a ʻaʻole maʻalahi ia, "wahi a Clotilde Avezou, psychologist, loea i ka māhoe. No ia, he mea maopopo e pono e hoʻoponopono nā mea a pau i kēlā me kēia lā e ka makua. Ma hope, ma muli o ke ʻano o ka hāpai ʻana o nā māhoe, hiki i nā makuahine ke ʻae a ʻaʻole paha e noi i kā lākou hoa no ke kōkua. ” Inā hānau maoli nā māhoe, hiki i ko lākou mau makuahine ke hōʻike i ko lākou luhi a nīnau i kā lākou wahine, a i ʻole nā kūpuna, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka lawe ʻana. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻo nā makuahine i loaʻa i kā lākou mau māhoe e IVF ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻae iā lākou iho e ʻōlelo ua hopohopo lākou, "wahi a ka loea.
E hoʻomākaukau i nā mea a pau i ka pō ma mua
"Inā pono ʻoe e hoʻokele" pālua "i ka lā ma mua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana i ka pō ma mua. Hoʻomākaukau mākou i nā ʻeke, nā lole no ka lā aʻe, i mea e hoʻopau ai i ka manawa liʻiliʻi i ke kakahiaka ", e wehewehe ana i ka makuahine o nā māhoe. ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi: “Ua waiho wau i nā papa kuhikuhi kula āpau. Hoʻololi wau i kekahi mau pule a lawe au i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana mai kēia mau menus i hoʻonohonoho ʻia e hoʻolālā i nā meaʻai no ka pule, ma mua, mai ka hopena pule ke hele au i ke kūʻai. Hoʻopakele iaʻu i ka manawa nui. I ka mālama ʻia ʻana o kaʻu mau kaikamahine e kahi kahu hānai, ua hana au i kahi puke kākau kahi aʻu i kākau ai i nā mea āpau e pili ana iā lākou. ʻO kaʻu mea i hoʻomākaukau ai no ka ʻaina ahiahi, nā lāʻau lapaʻau e lawe ai… I ka pōkole, ʻo nā mea a pau e pono ai ka nanny e ʻike i kēlā me kēia lā, "wahi āna.
ʻO ka hopena pule, he ola maʻalahi
"Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole like me ka pule i hoʻolālā ʻia nā mea āpau ma mua, He ʻokoʻa loa ka nohona ʻohana hopena pule. Ua ho'āʻo wau e hoʻolauna hou aku i ka maʻalahi e pili ana i ka pule, ma muli o ke ʻano o ke kula o nā kaikamahine a me kaʻu mau hola hana, "wahi a ka makuahine o nā māhoe. Mai ia manawa, ua ulu kāna mau kaikamahine, i kēia manawa e hiki ai i ka makuahine ke kūkākūkā me lākou ma mua i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai no ka ʻai ʻana a i ʻole ke kuke pū ʻana, no ka laʻana i ka Pōʻaono.
E hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā binocular
"No kā lākou mau hana extracurricular, i ka hoʻomaka ʻana, makemake nui wau e kākau inoa ʻia kaʻu mau kaikamahine i ka papa haʻuki like. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ma hope o kekahi manawa Ua ʻike au ʻaʻole lākou makemake i nā hana moʻomeheu like ʻole a i ʻole nā papa hana », Details ka makuahine. E like me ke kula! Mai ke kula kindergarten, makemake ʻo ʻEmilie i kāna mau kaikamahine i kahi papa ʻokoʻa. “He mea nui e mālama i ke ʻano o nā māhoe like. Hoʻomanaʻo wau ua ʻaʻahu ʻokoʻa wau iā lākou a ʻo kēia mai ko lākou hānau ʻana. E like me nā lauoho, ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻohālikelike like! Hoʻohui ʻo ia. Pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe i kēlā me kēia o lākou, e ʻae i nā ʻokoʻa, a ma luna o nā mea āpau mai hoʻohālikelike i kekahi i kekahi! "Ua ʻōlelo mau wau iaʻu iho ʻelua mau pēpē i hānau ʻia i ka lā hoʻokahi, akā ʻo ia wale nō, ʻaʻole i like lāua i nā mea āpau", hōʻike pū ʻo ia.
E pale i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa
“Aia kekahi hoʻokūkū ikaika ma waena o nā māhoe. A no ka mea ʻuʻuku lākou, hoʻāʻo wau e "haʻi" i kēia duo, a ʻoi aku ka nui o kā lākou ʻōlelo kikoʻī.. Ma hope o kekahi manawa, ua hoʻomohala nā māhoe i kahi ala e kamaʻilio kūʻokoʻa ai iā lākou, kahi i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā mākua. ʻO kaʻu kuleana ʻo ka hoʻokau ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hiki iā lākou ke ʻōlelo ma ke ʻano e hiki ai i nā mea āpau ke hoʻomaopopo, "hōʻike ka makuahine o Inès lāua ʻo Elsa. He ala ia e hoʻokaʻawale ai i ka ʻelua ma ke kau ʻana i ka ʻōlelo a ka makua, no ka emi. "I mea e pale aku ai i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma waena o kaʻu mau kaikamahine, hoʻopaʻa pinepine wau i nā hālāwai ʻohana, kahi e kūkākūkā pū ai mākou i ka mea e hele nei a ʻaʻole paha", wehewehe ʻo ia. "Piki nā māhoe e like me nā kaikunāne, akā pinepine lākou i kahi pilina aniani kahi e hoʻokūkū ai kekahi i kekahi e hoʻoikaika iā lākou iho a ulu. Mai hoʻokaʻulua i ka waiho ʻana i kahi papa hana maʻalahi a pololei. Hiki i kēia ke hana me kahi kiʻi nui, nā kala kala e loli e like me ke ʻano o nā keiki, "wahi a ka psychologist.