Ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki mai 0 a 2 mau makahiki

Hoʻohana kona makuahine i kahi manawa: me nā huaʻōlelo "He ʻeha loa!" kau ʻo ia ma luna o ka moena pāʻani. A huli ʻo ia no hoʻokahi mau minuke a ʻelua paha, me ka nānā ʻole ʻana iā Christophe uē. I ka pau ʻana o kēia manawa, lawe ʻo ia a ʻōlelo: "E ho'āʻo hou mākou, akā e akahele me kou mau niho!" I kēia manawa inu pono ʻo Christophe.

Inā nahu hou ʻo ia, e kau hou ʻo Māmā iā ia ma luna o ka moena a waiho iā ia me ka mālama ʻole ʻia, a kali i 1-2 mau minuke e hoʻopili hou i ka umauma.

Eia kekahi laʻana:

• ʻO ka moʻolelo a Paul, 8 mahina, ua ʻike mua ʻoe mai ka mokuna mua. Hauʻoli loa ʻo ia, e uē ana no kekahi mau hola i ka lā, ʻoiai ʻo ka hoʻokipa mau ʻana o kona makuahine iā ia me nā mea hoihoi hou i kōkua wale no ka manawa pōkole.

Ua ʻae koke au me koʻu mau mākua e pono e aʻo ʻo Paul i hoʻokahi kānāwai hou: "Pono wau e hoʻokipa iaʻu iho i ka manawa like i kēlā me kēia lā. Ke hana nei ʻo Māmā i kāna hana ponoʻī i kēia manawa. Pehea ʻo ia e aʻo ai? ʻAʻole ʻo ia i hoʻokahi makahiki. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe iā ia i loko o kahi lumi a ʻōlelo: "I kēia manawa e pāʻani hoʻokahi."

Ma hope o ka ʻaina kakahiaka, ma ke ʻano he kānāwai, aia ʻo ia i ke ʻano maikaʻi loa. No laila ua hoʻoholo ʻo Māmā e koho i kēia manawa e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke. Ma hope o kona kau ʻana iā Paul ma ka papahele a hāʻawi iā ia i nā kīʻaha kīhini, noho ʻo ia i lalo a nānā iā ia a ʻī maila: "I kēia manawa pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke". No nā minuke he 10 aʻe, hana ʻo ia i kāna haʻawina home. ʻO Paul, ʻoiai aia ʻo ia ma kahi kokoke, ʻaʻole ia ke kikowaena o ka nānā.

E like me ka mea i manaʻo ʻia, he mau minuke ma hope mai ua hoʻolei ʻia nā mea kīhini i ke kihi, a ʻo Paul, me ka uē ʻana, kau ʻia ma nā wāwae o kona makuahine a noi aku e paʻa. Ua maʻa ʻo ia i ka hoʻokō koke ʻia ʻana o kāna mau makemake. A laila ua hiki mai kekahi mea āna i manaʻo ʻole ai. Lawe aʻela ʻo Māmā iā ia a hoʻokomo hou iā ia ma kahi o ka papahele me nā huaʻōlelo: "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke". ʻO Paul, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua huhū ʻo ia. Hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻo ia i ka leo o ka leo a kokolo akula i nā wāwae o kona makuahine. Ua haʻi hou aku ʻo Māmā i ka mea like: lawe ʻo ia iā ia a hoʻokomo hou iā ia ma luna o ka papahele me nā huaʻōlelo: “Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke, pēpē. Ma hope o kēlā, e pāʻani hou au me ʻoe» (ka mooolelo haki).

Ua hana hou kēia mau mea a pau.

I ka manawa aʻe, e like me ka ʻae ʻana, hele iki ʻo ia. Hoʻokomo ʻo ia iā Paulo i loko o ke kahua pāʻani, e kū ana i mua o ka ʻike. Ua hoʻomau ʻo Māmā i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana, ʻoiai ʻo kāna uē ʻana e hoʻoheheʻe iā ia. I kēlā me kēia 2-3 mau minuke huli ʻo ia iā ia a ʻōlelo mai: "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe mua i ka lumi kuke, a laila hiki iaʻu ke pāʻani hou me ʻoe." Ma hope o 10 mau minuke, pili hou kona manaʻo iā Paul. Ua hauʻoli a haʻaheo ʻo ia i kona hoʻomanawanui ʻana, ʻoiai he liʻiliʻi ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe.

Ua hana like ʻo ia i nā lā aʻe. I kēlā me kēia manawa, hoʻolālā mua ʻo ia i kāna mea e hana ai - hoʻomaʻemaʻe, heluhelu i ka nūpepa a ʻai paha i ka ʻaina kakahiaka a hiki i ka hopena, e lawe mālie i ka manawa i 30 mau minuke. I ke kolu o ka lā, ʻaʻole uē hou ʻo Paulo. Noho ʻo ia ma ke kahua pāʻani a pāʻani. A laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka pono o kahi pā pāʻani, ke ʻole ke kau ʻana o ke keiki ma luna o ia mea i hiki ʻole ke neʻe. Ua maʻa mālie ʻo Paul i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia manawa ʻaʻole ʻo ia ke kikowaena o ka nānā ʻana a ʻaʻohe mea e loaʻa ma ka hoʻōho ʻana. A hoʻoholo kūʻokoʻa e hoʻonui i ka pāʻani hoʻokahi, ma kahi o ka noho wale ʻana a me ka uē ʻana. No lāua ʻelua, ua maikaʻi loa kēia hoʻokō, no laila ua hoʻolauna aku au i kekahi hapalua hola o ka manawa kaʻawale noʻu iho i ka ʻauinalā.

Hoʻokahi a ʻelua mau makahiki paha

Nui nā keiki, i ka wā e uē ai lākou, loaʻa koke i kā lākou makemake. Makemake nā mākua iā lākou wale nō. Makemake lākou e ʻoluʻolu ke keiki. ʻoluʻolu mau. ʻAʻole pono kēia ʻano hana. ʻO ka ʻokoʻa: hauʻoli mau nā keiki e like me Paul. Uwe nui lākou no ka mea ua aʻo lākou: "Loaʻa ka manaʻo o ka uē ʻana." Mai ka wā kamaliʻi, hilinaʻi lākou i ko lākou mau mākua, no laila ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomohala a ʻike i ko lākou hiki a me ko lākou mau makemake. A me ka ʻole o kēia, ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i kahi mea āu e makemake ai. ʻAʻole maopopo iā lākou he pono nā mākua. ʻO ka manawa ma waho o ka lumi hoʻokahi me ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne he hopena hiki ke hoʻopaʻi ʻia ma ʻaneʻi: ʻaʻole hoʻopaʻi ʻia ke keiki, noho kokoke i ka makua, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole loaʻa kāna mea i makemake ai.

• ʻOiai inā ʻōpiopio loa ke keiki, e hoʻohana i ka "I-messages" i ka wā o ka "Time Out": "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe." "Makemake au e hoʻopau i kaʻu ʻaina kakahiaka." "Pono wau e kelepona." ʻAʻole hiki i ke kakahiaka nui no lākou. ʻIke ke keiki i kou mau pono a ma ka manawa like e nalowale ai ʻoe i ka manawa e ʻāhewa ai a hōʻino paha i ka pēpē.

Laʻana hope loa:

• E hoʻomanaʻo iā Patrick, "ka weliweli o ka hui holoʻokoʻa"? Nahu nā keiki ʻelua makahiki, hakakā, huki i nā mea pāʻani a kiola iā lākou. I kēlā me kēia manawa, piʻi mai ʻo mama a ʻāhewa iā ia. ʻaneʻane i nā manawa a pau āna e hoʻohiki ai: "Inā ʻoe e hana hou i hoʻokahi manawa, e hoʻi mākou i ka home." Akā ʻaʻole loa.

Pehea ʻoe e hana ai ma ʻaneʻi? Inā ua hōʻeha ʻo Patrick i kahi keiki ʻē aʻe, hiki ke hana i kahi "'ōlelo" pōkole. E kukuli i lalo (noho i lalo), nānā pololei iā ia a paʻa i kona mau lima i kou, e ʻōlelo: “E hooki! E hooki i keia manawa!" Hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe iā ia i kahi kihi ʻē aʻe o ke keʻena, a me ka nānā ʻole ʻana iā Paulo, e hōʻoluʻolu i ka «pōʻino». Inā nahu a hahau hou ʻo Patrick i kekahi, pono ʻoe e hana koke. No ka mea he liʻiliʻi ʻo ia a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokuʻu wale iā ia i waho o ka lumi, pono e haʻalele kona makuahine i ka hui me ia. I ka wā hoʻomaha, ʻoiai aia ʻo ia ma kahi kokoke, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e nānā nui iā ia. Inā uē ʻo ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi: "Inā ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu, hiki iā mākou ke komo hou." No laila, hoʻoikaika ʻo ia i ka maikaʻi. Inā ʻaʻole pau ka uē ʻana, hoʻi lāua i ka home.

Aia kekahi manawa i waho: Ua lawe ʻia ʻo Patrick mai nā keiki a me nā puʻu o nā mea pāʻani hoihoi.

Ke pāʻani mālie ke keiki no kekahi manawa, noho ka makuahine i ona lā, hoʻomaikaʻi a hāʻawi i ka nānā. No laila ke nānā aku nei i ka maikaʻi.