«… A noho hauʻoli lākou ma hope aku - no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike hou kekahi i kekahi.» I kekahi manawa, ʻo ka mea e hauʻoli ai ka moʻolelo moʻolelo, ʻaʻole ia ʻo ka twist twist a mākou e manaʻo ai. Ma hope o ke ʻano "maʻamau" - male, ʻohana, nā keiki - hiki ke uku nui iā mākou.
ʻAʻole lākou i hele mai e ʻōhumu no kā lāua male ʻana. ʻO ka mea e hopohopo nei iā lākou he psychosomatics ʻokoʻa, nā kumu i ʻike ʻole ʻia e nā kauka. "He maʻi poʻo koʻu i kēlā me kēia ahiahi", "ʻeha koʻu kua", "Ala wau i ke kakahiaka ma ka ikaika, ua like nā mea āpau me ka noe", "cystitis ʻelua i ka mahina" - a he mau wahine ʻōpio loa kēia, ma hea kēia mau mea āpau. mai? A laila hoʻololi ʻia: he pilina ko lākou, akā palaualelo, ʻoluʻolu, ʻaʻohe ahi, ʻaʻohe hoihoi. A laila manaʻo wau: i kēia manawa ua maopopo nā mea a pau.
I ka manawa hea e male ai? E pane paha ʻoe: ke ʻike nā kānaka ʻelua ʻaʻole hiki iā lāua ke ola me ka ʻole o kekahi. ʻO ka mea kupanaha, ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia i nā manawa a pau. A laila no ke aha lākou i hui pū ai? ʻO nā pane maʻamau: "Ua hui mākou no hoʻokahi makahiki a me ka hapa, pono mākou e hoʻoholo i kekahi mea", "ʻaʻohe koho ʻē aʻe, akā ua like mākou me ke ʻano maʻamau", "wahi a ka makuahine: ʻoiai hiki iā ʻoe ke mare mua. He kaikamahine maikaʻi ʻo ia", " luhi i ka noho ʻana me nā mākua, ʻaʻole lawa ke kālā no kahi hale hoʻolimalima, akā hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa." Akā, no ke aha e pana ʻole ai me kahi hoaaloha? "A inā me kahi hoaaloha, ʻaʻole kūpono ke lawe ʻana i kahi kāne. A no laila ʻelua hares… "
Hoʻopau pinepine ka male ʻana i ka pau ʻana o ka ikaika o ka pilina a kokoke paha e pau. ʻAʻohe mau manaʻo hou aʻe, akā hiki mai nā ʻano "noʻonoʻo" like ʻole: e ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi, ʻo ia ka manawa, kūpono mākou i kekahi i kekahi, a - ʻo ka mea kaumaha loa - "ʻaʻole paha e makemake kekahi iaʻu."
I ka nohona hou, ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai ka hoʻokele waiwai e mare, akā ikaika loa ka manaʻo Soviet. ʻOiai ma nā kūlanakauhale nui, ʻaʻole ʻae nā mākua i ka ʻano "noa" o kā lākou mau kaikamahine, manaʻo lākou ua ʻae ʻia lākou e noho kaʻawale me kā lākou kāne.
"E liʻiliʻi mau ʻoe iaʻu!" — pehea ka pinepine o keia olelo me ka haaheo, aka, he manawa keia e noonoo ai!
A ʻo ka poʻe ʻōpio ma lalo o ka hale mālama makua - a pili kēia i nā kāne ʻelua - noho i kahi kūlana haʻahaʻa: pono lākou e hahai i nā lula i hoʻonohonoho ʻole ʻia e lākou, ʻāhewa ʻia inā hoʻi lākou i ka home ma hope o ka hola i koho ʻia, a pēlā aku. Me he mea lā ʻaʻole hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau hanauna ma mua o kēia hoʻololi.
A i kēia manawa ke hana nei mākou i ka infantilism hope i nā keiki a me nā mākua: ʻaʻole ʻike ka mea hope e ola ke keiki i kona ola ponoʻī a ua lōʻihi kona wā makua. "E liʻiliʻi mau ʻoe iaʻu!" — pehea ka pinepine o keia olelo me ka haaheo, aka, he manawa keia e noonoo ai! ʻO ka male ma kēia kūlana ke ala wale nō i ke kūlana o ke kanaka makua. Akā i kekahi manawa pono ʻoe e uku i ke kumukūʻai kiʻekiʻe no kēia.
I kekahi manawa ua hele mai kekahi wahine 30 makahiki iaʻu me ka migraines koʻikoʻi, kahi mea i kōkua ʻole e hoʻopau. No nā makahiki ʻekolu, noho ʻo ia i kahi male kīwila me kahi hoa hana. He mea weliweli ka haʻalele: a laila pono e hoʻololi i nā hana, a "aloha ʻo ia iaʻu, pehea lā wau e hana ai iā ia", a "ʻaʻole e loaʻa iaʻu kekahi, no ka mea ʻaʻole wau he kaikamahine ...". I ka hopena, ua haʻihaʻi lāua, ua mareʻo ia i kekahi mea'ē aʻe, a nalo koke ka migraine me ke kumuʻole e like me ka mea iʻikeʻia.
ʻO kā mākou maʻi ka ʻōlelo a ke kino, kāna ʻano kūʻē. He aha kāna kū'ē? Kūʻē i ka nele o ka hauʻoli. Inā ʻaʻole ia i loko o kahi pilina, a laila ʻaʻole pono lākou, ʻaʻohe mea kūpono a kūpono paha mākou i kekahi i kekahi a i ʻole, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka poʻe a puni mākou.