PSYchology

Mea kākau - Denis Chizh

I ka hopena pule, hele au e holoholo me ko'u hoa. Lawe lākou i kāna keiki me lākou e lawe iā ia i kahi haʻawina ma kahi ʻāpana i loko o kahi hale leʻaleʻa kūloko i ka wā hele. He 8 makahiki ka'u keiki a noho me kona makuahine. Aia kekahi ma ke kula o ka makuahine, hoʻomaka ke keiki e hana, e huki i ka manaʻo iā ia iho.

Hoʻopau mākou i ka Hale o Culture i hoʻokahi hola ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā papa, a ma hope o ia mea he kamaʻilio hoihoi ma waena o ka makuahine a me ke keiki. I ka manawa like, ua noho mālie ka makuahine i nā manawa a pau, ʻoiai makemake wau i kekahi manawa e hoʻopili i nā hana hoʻonaʻauao kūpono ʻole i ke keiki:

Kaikamahine: “E hele hou ana anei oe e holoholo me makou, a e lawe hou mai makou ia oe maanei? A i ʻole e kali paha ʻoe i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka papa ma ʻaneʻi, a e hele wāwae mākou me ʻoe?

Keiki ( luhi): "ʻAʻole au makemake e hele i waho."

Kaikamahine: "ʻAe, a laila e hele mākou e holoholo me Denis, a ke kali nei ʻoe i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā papa ma ʻaneʻi."

Keiki (capriciously): "ʻAʻole au makemake e noho kaʻawale, luuluu wale wau!"

Kaikamahine: "A laila e hele kāua, e hele pū me kāua."

Ke keiki (me ka huhū hoʻomaka): "Ua haʻi wau iā ʻoe, ua luhi au!"

Kaikamahine: “E hoʻoholo i kāu mea e makemake ai: e hele pū me mākou a i ʻole e noho a hoʻomaha ma ʻaneʻi. Makemake mākou e hele wāwae, no laila, ʻaʻole mākou e noho pū me ʻoe.

Ke keiki (huhū): "ʻAʻole au e hoʻokuʻu iā ʻoe e hele ma kahi āpau!"

Kaikamahine: "Ae, e kali no ka hoomaka ana o na papa maanei, a e hele kakou e holoholo."

ʻOiai ʻo ka hoʻomau mau ʻana o ka manaʻo o ke keiki, ua haʻalele mākou i ke kikowaena leʻaleʻa a hele wāwae. Ma hope o 2 mau minuke, aia mākou ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ka pā, ua loaʻa i koʻu makuahine kahi kelepona mai kāna keiki. Ua noi ʻo ia e hāʻawi iā ia i kālā no nā mīkini slot i loaʻa iā ia kahi mea e hana ai i ke kali ʻana.

Kaikamahine: “Ae, ua nee aku nei makou mai ka halealii aku, ke ku nei makou ma kela aoao o ka huinahalike, e hele mai i o makou nei a haawi aku au ia oe i ke dala.”

Holo ke keiki i waho o ka hale aliʻi, nānā a puni, loaʻa mākou a hoʻomaka e hoʻoluliluli i kona lima i kona makuahine e hele aku iā ia. I ka pane ʻana, hoʻomaka ke kaikamahine e hoʻoluliluli i kona lima i hele mai kāna keiki iā ia. I kahi i hoʻomaka ai ke keiki e lele i luna (me he mea lā, e hōʻike ana i ka huhū), a kāhea aku i kona makuahine iā ia me ka ikaika. He ʻumi paha kekona ka lōʻihi o kēia, a laila huli ke kaikamahine mai kāna keiki a ʻōlelo mai iaʻu: "E hele kāua." Ua hele mākou a ma hope o ka hapalua minuke nalo ma ke kihi. I hoʻokahi minute ma hope mai, ua kāhea mai kāna keiki:

Keiki (capriciously): "No ke aha ʻoe i hele ʻole mai ai iaʻu?"

Kaikamahine: “No ka mea makemake ʻoe i ke kālā no nā mīkini kūʻai. Ua haʻi aku au iā ʻoe pehea e loaʻa ai ia mau mea mai oʻu aku nei: e hele mai i oʻu nei e lawe. ʻAʻole ʻoe i makemake e hele i oʻu nei, ʻo kāu koho ia, nau iho i hana i ʻole ʻoe e pāʻani i nā slots.

Ua hoʻopau kēia i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a ua manaʻo wau he pono iaʻu e hoʻomaʻamaʻa pinepine i ka mālama ʻana i nā manipulations a nā keiki. A hiki i kēia manawa, ke hoʻoluliluli nei au i kēlā mau "hoʻopunipuni" kamaliʻi.

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