He mea leʻaleʻa pinepine iā mākou ke ʻike i nā ʻano like o nā ʻīlio a me nā mea nona lākou - no ka laʻana, he lōʻihi nā wāwae ʻelua, a ʻo ka ʻaʻahu o ka ʻīlio e like me ka lauoho kanaka.
Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi hou e like paha nā ʻīlio i kā lākou mau mea nona ma ke ʻano ʻokoʻa loa: ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻano like ko lākou ʻano.
ʻO William J. Chopik, he kanaka kālaiʻike kaiapuni ʻo Michigan State University a me ka mea kākau alakaʻi o ka noiʻi, e aʻo i ka loli ʻana o ka pilina kanaka i ka manawa. No ka hoihoi ʻana i nā paʻa e ulu ana ma waena o ke kanaka a me ko lākou mau hoa huluhulu, ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻimi i kēia mau pilina a me kā lākou mau hana.
Ma kāna aʻo ʻana, 1 nā mea nona nā ʻīlio i loiloi i ko lākou ʻano a me kā lākou mau holoholona me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā nīnau nīnau maʻamau. Ua ʻike ʻo Chopik i nā ʻīlio a me nā mea nona nā ʻano like ʻole. ʻO ka mea ʻoluʻolu loa, ʻoi aku ka pālua o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻīlio ikaika a ikaika, a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka huhū ma mua o ke kanaka huhū ʻino. Ua ʻike pū ʻia ka haʻawina e wehewehe ana ka poʻe nona ka naʻau i kā lākou ʻīlio i ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi, aʻo ka poʻe hopohopo e wehewehe i kā lākou ʻīlio he ʻoi aku ka makaʻu.
Hōʻike ʻo Chopik i kahi snag maopopo i kēia haʻawina: hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i nā poʻe e pili ana iā lākou, akā no nā ʻīlio, pono ʻoe e hilinaʻi wale i ka nānā ʻana o nā mea nona ka ʻano o kā lākou mau holoholona. Akā, me he mea lā e wehewehe pono nā mea nona i kā lākou mau puaʻa, no ka mea, e like me ka hōʻike ʻana o nā haʻawina like, wehewehe ka poʻe o waho i ke ʻano o nā ʻīlio ma ke ʻano like me nā mea nona.
No ke aha i like ai nā ʻano o nā kānaka a me kā lākou mau holoholona? ʻAʻole pili ka haʻawina i nā kumu, akā he kuhiakau ko Chopik. "Ua koho kekahi hapa o ʻoukou i kēia ʻīlio, a loaʻa kekahi ʻīlio i kekahi mau ʻano ma muli o ʻoe," wahi āna.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Chopik, ke hāpai ka poʻe i ka ʻīlio, koho lākou i ka mea kūpono i ko lākou ʻano nohona. "Makemake anei ʻoe i kahi ʻīlio ikaika e pono ai ke kamaʻilio kanaka mau, a i ʻole kahi ʻoi aku ka mālie e kūpono i kahi noho maʻamau? Makemake mākou e koho i nā ʻīlio e like me mākou.
A laila, ma o ke aʻo ʻana a i ʻole ka launa pū ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā, hana mākou i ke ʻano o kā mākou mau holoholona - a ke hoʻololi mākou, hoʻololi lākou me mākou.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Behaviorist Zazie Todd he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i nā ʻano nui ʻelima i hoʻohana mau ʻia e loiloi i ke ʻano o ke kanaka (extroversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and open-mindedness) ʻaʻole like me nā ʻano pilikino ʻelima e pili ana i ka wehewehe ʻana i nā ʻano ʻīlio ( makaʻu, huhū i nā kānaka, huhū i nā holoholona, hana / hauʻoli a me ka hiki ke aʻo). Akā, e like me Todd, aia kekahi pilina hoihoi ma waena o ke kanaka a me nā ʻīlio, a ua pili nā ʻano ʻano.
No ka laʻana, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻo "extraversion" kahi ʻano e hōʻike pono ana i ke ʻano o ka holoholona, ʻoi aku ka ʻoi aku o ka poʻe extroverted i ka hele a me ka ikaika, no laila ʻoi aku ka ikaika a me ka hauʻoli o kā lākou holoholona.
Hiki i nā noiʻi e hiki mai ana ke hoʻomālamalama hou aku i ka pili o ka mua a me ka lua o kēia mea. No ka laʻana, he aloha, aloha ka poʻe i makemake mua e koho i kahi ʻīlio hilahila e like me kā lākou hoa? A i ʻole ua hāʻawi ʻia ko lākou nohona i kā lākou holoholona i ka manawa? "ʻOi aku ka nui o ka poʻe ʻeleu e lawe i kā lākou ʻīlio me lākou i nā wahi a lākou e hele ai, e hiki ai i kā lākou pipi ke launa pū a maʻa i nā mea like ʻole," wahi a Todd. "Malia paha ua hoʻohālikelike ka poʻe i ke ʻano o kā lākou ʻīlio - akā he manaʻo hoihoi ia a mākou e hōʻoia nei."