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ʻO ka pāʻani me aʻu ke koi o ke keiki e hoʻonanea mau ʻia e nā mākua.
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Pono e hoʻokipa i kahi keiki 3 makahiki? Hoʻomaopopo wau he pono ʻoe e pāʻani me ia, aʻo, akā inā ʻaʻohe manawa, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomau iā ia iho. A i ʻole hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hana i nā ʻano mea ʻino a pau me ka manaʻo, hoʻoluhi ...
Nui nā mea pāʻani, nā pāʻani, akā ke pāʻani nei ʻo ia i kona wā i loko o kahi ʻano maikaʻi loa, a i ʻole i ka wā e huhū maoli ai ʻo ia iaʻu a ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻohe mea e kali ai iaʻu, pono ʻoe e hana iā ʻoe iho. Akā i kekahi manawa lōʻihi ka manawa. A me nā aʻalolo. A ʻaʻole kēia he buzz, e like me kaʻu i hoʻomaopopo ai…
ʻO ka hopena
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I kekahi manawa, liʻiliʻi ka manawa e hoʻokō ai i ka makemake o ke keiki ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo. Ma kēia kumuhana, manaʻo wau e heluhelu i ka ʻatikala Five Minute Solution.
He ʻokoʻa nā pāʻani
He mea maopopo e hiki i ke kanaka makua ke hana i na mea i ka maka. Akā ʻaʻole pono ke keiki e lawe i ka manaʻo āpau o kona makuahine iā ia iho. Ua lawa ka makuahine ma kahi kokoke, ʻoiai ʻo ia e hana nei, nānā ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kekahi manawa. I kekahi hihia, ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu o ka pāʻani ʻana i loko o ka lumi kahi o ka makuahine ma mua o ka pāʻani hoʻokahi i kahi lumi kaʻawale.
Pono ʻoe e aʻo i ke keiki i ka wā e hana ai ka makuahine, e pāʻani pū me ia hiki, akā i kekahi mau pāʻani ʻaʻole pono ka nānā nui ʻana mai ke kanaka makua. No ka laʻana, ke noho nei ʻoe ma ka papaʻaina, ke kākau ʻana i kekahi mea a i ʻole ke paʻi ʻana ma ke kamepiula. Noho kahi keiki ma kahi kokoke a huki i kekahi mea.
Inā hoʻomaka ke keiki e pāʻani pāʻani a hoʻopilikia i kona makuahine, a laila e hoʻoneʻe ʻia ʻo ia i kahi lumi ʻē aʻe a pono e pāʻani hoʻokahi.
Pono ke keiki e aʻo i ka Rula: I kekahi manawa pono wau e leʻaleʻa iaʻu iho! E nana i na Rula no ke keiki
Eia hou kekahi
I kēia mau makahiki, a me nā makahiki ʻē aʻe, he mea nui ka manaʻo o ka makuahine i ke keiki. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke noho iā ia me kahi mea a hele i kāu ʻoihana, ʻoi aku, ʻo ke keiki ponoʻī e aʻo i ka hoʻokipa iā ia iho. I kēia manawa ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia i kona makuahine. ʻAʻole hiki ke wehewehe ʻia ke keiki he pilikia nā mākua, pono ʻoe e kaulike i ka manawa i hāʻawi ʻia no ke keiki a no ka hana. I ka wā lōʻihi, e aʻo ke keiki e hoʻokipa iā ia iho, akā ʻo ke alo o kona makuahine e hoʻopilikia wale iā ia, i kēia manawa aia kāna mau mea huna, kona ola ponoʻī. He hopohopo paha ke huli i koʻu makuahine, no ka mea, paʻa mau ʻo ia, ʻaʻole naʻe ʻo ia e hāʻawi manawa iaʻu. ʻAʻole pono e aʻo ʻia ke keiki e noho kaʻawale.
He makahiki o Paul. ʻAʻole hauʻoli mau ʻo ia, e uē ana no kekahi mau hola i ka lā, ʻoiai ʻo ka hoʻokipa mau ʻana o kona makuahine iā ia me nā mea hoihoi hou i kōkua no ka manawa pōkole wale nō.
Ua ʻae koke au me koʻu mau mākua e pono e aʻo ʻo Paul i hoʻokahi kānāwai hou: "Pono wau e hoʻokipa iaʻu iho i ka manawa like i kēlā me kēia lā. Ke hana nei ʻo Māmā i kāna hana ponoʻī i kēia manawa. Pehea ʻo ia e aʻo ai? ʻAʻole ʻo ia i hoʻokahi makahiki. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe iā ia i loko o kahi lumi a ʻōlelo: "I kēia manawa e pāʻani hoʻokahi."
Ma hope o ka ʻaina kakahiaka, ma ke ʻano he kānāwai, aia ʻo ia i ke ʻano maikaʻi loa. No laila ua hoʻoholo ʻo Māmā e koho i kēia manawa e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke. Ma hope o kona kau ʻana iā Paul ma ka papahele a hāʻawi iā ia i nā kīʻaha kīhini, noho ʻo ia i lalo a nānā iā ia a ʻī maila: "I kēia manawa pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke". No nā minuke he 10 aʻe, hana ʻo ia i kāna haʻawina home. ʻO Paul, ʻoiai aia ʻo ia ma kahi kokoke, ʻaʻole ia ke kikowaena o ka nānā.
E like me ka mea i manaʻo ʻia, he mau minuke ma hope mai ua hoʻolei ʻia nā mea kīhini i ke kihi, a ʻo Paul, me ka uē ʻana, kau ʻia ma nā wāwae o kona makuahine a noi aku e paʻa. Ua maʻa ʻo ia i ka hoʻokō koke ʻia ʻana o kāna mau makemake. A laila ua hiki mai kekahi mea āna i manaʻo ʻole ai. Lawe aʻela ʻo Māmā iā ia a hoʻokomo hou iā ia ma kahi o ka papahele me nā huaʻōlelo: "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke". ʻO Paul, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua huhū ʻo ia. Hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻo ia i ka leo o ka leo a kokolo akula i nā wāwae o kona makuahine. Ua haʻi hou aku ʻo Māmā i ka mea like: lawe ʻo ia iā ia a hoʻokomo hou iā ia ma luna o ka papahele me nā huaʻōlelo: “Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lumi kuke, pēpē. Ma hope o kēlā, e pāʻani hou au me ʻoe» (ka mooolelo haki).
Ua hana hou kēia mau mea a pau.
I ka manawa aʻe, e like me ka ʻae ʻana, hele iki ʻo ia. Hoʻokomo ʻo ia iā Paulo i loko o ke kahua pāʻani, e kū ana i mua o ka ʻike. Ua hoʻomau ʻo Māmā i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana, ʻoiai ʻo kāna uē ʻana e hoʻoheheʻe iā ia. I kēlā me kēia 2-3 mau minuke huli ʻo ia iā ia a ʻōlelo mai: "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe mua i ka lumi kuke, a laila hiki iaʻu ke pāʻani hou me ʻoe." Ma hope o 10 mau minuke, pili hou kona manaʻo iā Paul. Ua hauʻoli a haʻaheo ʻo ia i kona hoʻomanawanui ʻana, ʻoiai he liʻiliʻi ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe.
Ua hana like ʻo ia i nā lā aʻe. I kēlā me kēia manawa, hoʻolālā mua ʻo ia i kāna mea e hana ai - hoʻomaʻemaʻe, heluhelu i ka nūpepa a ʻai paha i ka ʻaina kakahiaka a hiki i ka hopena, e lawe mālie i ka manawa i 30 mau minuke. I ke kolu o ka lā, ʻaʻole uē hou ʻo Paulo. Noho ʻo ia ma ke kahua pāʻani a pāʻani. A laila ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka pono o kahi pā pāʻani, ke ʻole ke kau ʻana o ke keiki ma luna o ia mea i hiki ʻole ke neʻe. Ua maʻa mālie ʻo Paul i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia manawa ʻaʻole ʻo ia ke kikowaena o ka nānā ʻana a ʻaʻohe mea e loaʻa ma ka hoʻōho ʻana. A hoʻoholo kūʻokoʻa e hoʻonui i ka pāʻani hoʻokahi, ma kahi o ka noho wale ʻana a me ka uē ʻana. No lāua ʻelua, ua maikaʻi loa kēia hoʻokō, no laila ua hoʻolauna aku au i kekahi hapalua hola o ka manawa kaʻawale noʻu iho i ka ʻauinalā.
Nui nā keiki, i ka wā e uē ai lākou, loaʻa koke i kā lākou makemake. Makemake nā mākua iā lākou wale nō. Makemake lākou e ʻoluʻolu ke keiki. ʻoluʻolu mau. ʻAʻole pono kēia ʻano hana. ʻO ka ʻokoʻa: hauʻoli mau nā keiki e like me Paul. Uwe nui lākou no ka mea ua aʻo lākou: "Loaʻa ka manaʻo o ka uē ʻana." Mai ka wā kamaliʻi, hilinaʻi lākou i ko lākou mau mākua, no laila ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomohala a ʻike i ko lākou hiki a me ko lākou mau makemake. A me ka ʻole o kēia, ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i kahi mea āu e makemake ai. ʻAʻole maopopo iā lākou he pono nā mākua. ʻO ka manawa ma waho o ka lumi hoʻokahi me ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne he hopena hiki ke hoʻopaʻi ʻia ma ʻaneʻi: ʻaʻole hoʻopaʻi ʻia ke keiki, noho kokoke i ka makua, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole loaʻa kāna mea i makemake ai.
- ʻOiai inā ʻōpiopio loa ke keiki, e hoʻohana i ka "I-messages" i ka wā o ka "Time Out": "Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe." "Makemake au e hoʻopau i kaʻu ʻaina kakahiaka." "Pono wau e kelepona." ʻAʻole hiki i ke kakahiaka nui no lākou. ʻIke ke keiki i kou mau pono a ma ka manawa like e nalowale ai ʻoe i ka manawa e ʻāhewa ai a hōʻino paha i ka pēpē.