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ʻO ka moekolohe o nā keikikāne - psychologist, Larisa Surkova
ʻO ka moekolohe kamaliʻi kahi kumuhana pahee. ʻAʻole hilahila nā mākua i ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia me kā lākou poʻe keiki, a hōʻalo lākou i ke kāhea ʻana i nā mea i nā inoa kūpono. ʻAe, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i nā ʻōlelo makaʻu "penis" a me "vagina".
I ka manawa i ʻike mua ai kaʻu keiki i kāna ʻano hiʻona ʻokoʻa, ua heluhelu au i nā palapala like ʻole e pili ana i ke kumuhana a ua pane mālie wau i kāna hoihoi noiʻi. I ka makahiki ʻekolu, ua hoʻomaka ke kūlana i ka wela: ʻaʻole i hoʻokuʻu ke keiki i kona mau lima mai kona ʻeke. ʻO nā wehewehe a pau ʻaʻole pono e hana i kēia ma ka lehulehu, ua haki ʻia e like me ka pī i ka pā. He mea ʻole nō hoʻi ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kona mau lima i waho o nā hale paʻa - ua hoʻihoʻi ke keiki i kona mau lima i hope.
"Āhea kēia e pau ai? Ua nīnau wau i ka noʻonoʻo. - A he aha e hana ai me ia? "
"E nānā pehea e nānā ai i kona mau lima! ʻ, a i kēia manawa ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e hopu iā ia iho i ka wāwae, ”- hoʻoneʻe ʻia nā mākua a me nā mea i koe.
Ma kahi kokoke i ka makahiki, ʻike nā keiki i nā hiʻohiʻona hoihoi o ko lākou mau kino. A ʻekolu a hoʻomaka lākou e nānā pono iā lākou. ʻO kēia kahi e luhi ai nā mākua. ʻAe, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i nā genital.
I kēia manawa ma 7-9 mau mahina, me ka ʻole o kahi diaper, hoʻopā ka pēpē i kona kino, ʻike i kekahi o nā meaola, a he maʻamau maʻamau kēia, ʻaʻohe hopohopo nā mākua noʻonoʻo.
E like me ka wehewehe a ka psychologist iā mākou, ma hope o hoʻokahi makahiki, hana nā makuahine a me nā makuakāne he nui i kahi ala ʻokoʻa loa, inā, e ʻōlelo, he keikikāne, hoʻopā i kāna penis. He mea maʻamau maʻaneʻi e hana i nā hewa: e uwa, e hōʻino, e hoʻoweliweli: "Kāohi, a i ʻole e haehae iā ia," a hana i nā mea āpau e hoʻoikaika ai i kēia makemake. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ke kali mau nei nā keiki i kahi hopena i kā lākou hana, a he aha ka mea nui ʻole.
Pono ke ʻano o ka mālie. E kamaʻilio me kāu keiki, wehewehe, ʻoiai inā ʻoe e maopopo ʻole iā ia i kekahi mea. "ʻAe, he keiki kāne ʻoe, he peni nā keikikāne āpau." Inā hōʻeha kēia huaʻōlelo i kou psyche (ʻoiai wau e manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻohe mea hewa me nā inoa o nā genital), hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kāu wehewehe ponoʻī. Akā naʻe, ke noi aku nei au iā ʻoe e hoʻokomo i ka manaʻo maʻamau i ko lākou mau inoa: ʻaʻole pili ka faucet, ka wai hoʻoinu a me ka moa me ka mea i nīnau ʻia.
ʻOiai, pili pili loa ka makuahine a me ka pēpē ma mua o ka makuakāne. He physiology kēia, ʻaʻohe mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e pili ana ia. Akā i ka manawa ke hoʻomaka ke keikikāne e hōʻike pono i kāna kāne, he mea nui ia e hui pū ka makuakāne me ka makuahine a me ke keiki. ʻO ka makuakāne ka mea e pono e wehewehe a hōʻike i ke keiki i ke ʻano o ke kāne.
“Hauʻoli wau i kou keikikāne, a hauʻoli nui wau hauʻoli pū me ia. Akā i ka nohona ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia e hōʻike i ko lākou kāne ma kēia ʻano. Loaʻa ke aloha a me ka mahalo i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa, me nā hana maikaʻi, me nā hana kūpono, "- nā kamaʻilio ʻana i kēia neʻe e kōkua i ka lanakila ʻana i ka pilikia.
Kūkākūkā nā psychologists e hoʻopili i ke keikikāne i nā hana a nā kāne, me he mea lā e lawe ana i ke koʻikoʻi mai ka pae anatomical i ka hōʻailona: lawaiʻa, no ka laʻana, pāʻani ʻana i nā haʻuki.
Inā ʻaʻohe makuakāne o ka ʻohana, e hoʻokuʻu i kahi lunamakaʻāinana kāne ʻē aʻe - kaikuaʻana, ʻanakala, makua kāne - e kamaʻilio me ka pēpē. Pono ke keiki e aʻo ua aloha ʻia ʻo ia i kona ʻano, akā hoʻokau kāna kāne kāne i kekahi mau kuleana iā ia.
ʻIke koke nā keikikāne iā lākou iho e leʻaleʻa nei i ka hoʻoikaika mechanical o ka peni. ʻOiai ke kakahiaka nui e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka masturbation e like me ia, hoʻomaka nā mākua i ka weliweli.
Aia kekahi manawa i kahi keikikāne e hopu i kāna peni i nā manawa o ka hopohopo. ʻO kahi laʻana, ke ʻaʻa ʻia a pāpā ʻia paha kekahi mea. Inā kū ʻōnaehana kēia, pono ia e noʻonoʻo, no ka mea e ʻimi a loaʻa ke keiki i ka hōʻoluʻolu, kahi ʻano hōʻoluʻolu. Maikaʻi ke hāʻawi iā ia i kahi ala ʻē aʻe e kū ai i kāna mau hopohopo - e hana i kekahi ʻano haʻuki, yoga, a ma ka liʻiliʻi e milo i kahi wili.
A ʻo ka mea nui, hāʻawi i kāu keiki i kā lākou wahi iho. ʻO kāna kihi ponoʻī, kahi e hele ʻole ai kekahi, kahi e waiho ai ke keiki kāne iā ia iho. E hoʻopaʻa mau ʻo ia i kona kino a ʻae iā ia e hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi me ka ʻole o ka manaʻo luku loa e hiki i ka makua ke hana i ke keiki - ka hilahila.
ʻAʻole weliweli nā pāʻani Girly
Ke ulu nei, nui nā keikikāne e hoʻāʻo i ka hana a nā kaikamahine: ʻaʻahu lākou i nā pālule, nā pale poʻo, a me nā mea hoʻonaninani. A eia hou, ʻaʻohe mea hewa i kēlā.
"Ke holo nei ka ʻike kāne a ke kāne, pono i kekahi mau keiki e pāʻani holoʻokoʻa i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i mea e hōʻole ai," wahi a ka psychotherapist Katerina Suratova. "Ke pāʻani keikikāne me nā pēpē a me nā kaikamahine e pāʻani me nā kaʻa, he maʻamau kēia. He kuhi hewa ka hana ʻana i ke koʻikoʻi maikaʻi ʻole i kēia, hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke keikikāne. ʻOi aku inā hana ka makuakāne. A laila no ke keiki ke ʻano o ka makua kāne nui a ikaika paha ma mua o kona mau mana, a he hiki paha iā ia ke mālama i ke kuleana o ka makuahine palupalu a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi. “
A i kekahi lā e hoʻomaopopo ke keiki kāne he keiki kāne ʻo ia. A laila e alohaʻo ia: me ke kumu, me ka hoalauna, ka hoaaloha o ka makuahine. A maikaʻi kēlā.