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He aha nā manaʻo intrusive a pehea e hoʻokele ai iā lākou?
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ʻAʻole kuhi kēia ʻano manaʻo a loaʻa pinepine i kahi ʻano maikaʻi ʻole.
Inā haʻi mai kekahi iā mākou "ma ke ao maʻamau mākou", hiki nō paha ke kuhikuhi nei lākou i kahi mea leʻaleʻa a hewa ʻole hoʻi, ʻoiai mākou e hoʻopili nei i kēia ʻōlelo me "nalo" ma waena o nā manaʻo bucolic a me nā moeʻuhane ala. Akā, ʻo ka mea a mākou e "hele i ke poʻo" ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi mau, a ʻaʻole ia ma lalo o kā mākou mana. ʻLelo mākou i ia manawa no ka mea i kapa ʻia "Nā manaʻo komo manaʻo": kēlā mau kiʻi, nā huaʻōlelo a i ʻole nā sensation e hoʻāla i nā manaʻo e hoʻohoka iā mākou mai kēia wā.
Ua wehewehe ʻo ka psychologist ʻo Sheila Estévez hiki i kēia mau manaʻo ke lilo, i ka manawa mua, he kuʻikuʻi ʻole, akā me ke kaʻina o ka manawa, inā lākou e hana hou ʻia, «he mau manaʻo maʻamau ia e hoʻouka iā mākou, kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻoulu i ke koʻikoʻi a me ka hopohopo, ka hopena o ka makaʻu. huhū,
hewa, hilahila a i ʻole kekahi o kēia mau manaʻo i ka manawa like, a he aha ka discomfort hoʻokahi ». Eia kekahi, e noʻonoʻo he mau manaʻo lākou, inā e mālama ikaika ʻia, “Hoʻoikaika i ka rumination”, ka mea a mākou e kapa ai ʻo "looping." "Inā hoʻomau kēia discomfort, lilo lākou i mau manaʻo ʻawaʻawa mai ka wā e hōʻino ai i ko mākou manaʻo pilikino, palekana a hilinaʻi hoʻi," wehewehe ʻo Estévez.
Loaʻa iā mākou a pau nā manaʻo hoʻokomo?
ʻO nā manaʻo intrusive ka mea maʻamau a loaʻa ka hapanui o ka poʻe iā lākou i kekahi manawa o ko lākou ola. Ua wehewehe ʻo Kauka Ángeles Esteban, mai Alcea Psicología y Psicoterapia, eia nō naʻe, "aia kekahi poʻe i loko o kēia mau manaʻo i pinepine a i ʻole pīhoihoi paha kā lākou ʻike, i hana i nā pilikia koʻikoʻi i ke ola a me ka leʻaleʻa». Eia kekahi, ke kamaʻilio nei ke kauka e pili ana i ka paʻakikī o ke koho ʻana i kahi manaʻo intrusive e like me ka maikaʻi, no ka mea inā makemake mākou i ka manaʻo e like me, keu loa. No kāna ʻāpana, kamaʻilio ʻo Sheila Estévez e pili ana pehea, inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻohuli iki iā mākou, hiki i nā manaʻo hikiwawe ke hoʻoulu i ka maikaʻi: «ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona maopopo ke hui mākou me kekahi mea a mākou e makemake ai a hiki i ka noʻonoʻo i kēlā me kēia ʻelua ʻekolu; he manaʻo komo manaʻo e hōʻoluʻolu iā mākou.
Hiki i kēia ʻano o ka noʻonoʻo ke uhi i nā kumuhana like ʻole: kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana iā lākou inā he mea mai ka wā i hala "e hoʻomāinoino iā mākou", hiki i ka manaʻo o ka puhipaka a ʻai ʻana paha i kahi mea pono ʻole iā mākou, a hopohopo paha. no ka wā e hiki mai ana. «Ma ka laulā, manaʻo pinepine lākou hoʻopili ʻia i nā manaʻo e hōʻike iā mākou ʻaʻole mākou e hana e like me kā mākou e makemake ai, a i ʻole "manaʻoʻiʻo mākou" i manaʻo nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana ", e wehewehe ana iā Sheila Estévez.
Inā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻoponopono i kēia pilikia, alakaʻi kēia i kekahi. Wehewehe ka psychologist hiki iā mākou ke paʻa i ka manaʻo o ka neʻe ʻole i mua a me ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole, «o mau manaʻo e hele a komo i loko o ka wā komo i loko o ka ruminant a mai ka lilo ʻana i ruminants i mea ʻino ”, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mea i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i kēia manawa e hōʻiliʻili i nā hanana e hoʻohui i ko lākou pilikia.
Pehea e kaohi ai i nā manaʻo intrusive
Inā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke kaohi i kēia mau manaʻo, loaʻa iā Kauka Esteban kahi kulekele alakaʻi: «No ka mālama ʻana i nā manaʻo obsessive a mākou e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka mea nui maoli i loaʻa iā lākou, kālele ana i kēia manawa, ka mea ma aneʻi a hana me ka pono e kaohi i nā hanana i hiki ʻole iā mākou ke kaohi ».
Inā makemake mākou e hele i kahi kikoʻī, ʻōlelo a Sheila Estévez e hoʻohana i nā hana e like me noonoo ana. "ʻO ka noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo kahi mākau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hiki ke puka i waho o nā manaʻo intrusive a i ʻole ka hala ʻana ma mua o kā lākou crystallize, i mea e" loaʻa ka mana "ma luna o lākou a hoʻoholo i ka manawa e hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi i kēia manawa i ʻole lākou e hoʻokahuli iā mākou", Wehewehe. a hoʻomau: "Pili ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka pili ʻana i ka aneʻi a i kēia manawaa, i ka mea e hana ʻia nei me nā manaʻo āpau i hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o ia: ʻoki ʻana i nā mea kanu mai ka meaʻai a me ka nānā ʻana i nā kala a me nā pilau, e ʻauʻau ana a me ka hoʻopā ʻana o ka huahuakai, i nā hana hana e ukali i nā pahuhopu i hoʻonohonoho ʻia no ka lā me ka nānā āpau ma luna o ia… ».
I kēia ala, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokō i ka pahuhopu e ʻae iā mākou e hemo i kēia mau manaʻo hōʻoluʻolu ʻole. "Ma kēia ala hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa ka kaohi iā mākou iho me ka pale ʻana i nā hewa i hiki i kēia manawa e ka maoli i loko o ia mea," hoʻopau ʻo Estévez.