“Ua hoʻokō au i koʻu kuleana ma ke ʻano he makua kāne! “
ʻAʻole wau i noʻonoʻo i ka manawa o ka ʻoki ʻana i ke kaula. I hele pū ʻia me kahi kahu hānai kūikawā, ua lilo kēia manawa i mea maopopo iaʻu i ka hānau ʻana o kaʻu mau kaikamahine. Manaʻo wau e hoʻokō ana au i koʻu kuleana ma ke ʻano he makua kāne, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, ka hana ʻana i ke kolu. He kiʻi kiʻiʻoniʻoni, akā ua manaʻo maoli wau pēlā. Ua ʻōlelo nō hoʻi au iaʻu iho, ʻo ka manawa kēia no kaʻu mau kaikamāhine e noho pono ai. ʻAʻole i hoʻokuke mai ka ʻaoʻao “organic” o ke kaula iaʻu. Ma ka ʻokiʻoki ʻana, ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manaʻo e hoʻomaha a "hoʻopau" i nā mea āpau! ”
ʻO Bertrand, ka makuakāne o nā kaikamahine ʻelua
"Ua makemake au i kaʻu kaikamahine ma ka ʻoki ʻana. “
Ua hānau ʻo Mathilde ma kahi kikowaena hānau ma Quebec. Noho mākou ma ka ʻāina ʻo Inuit a ma kā lākou kuʻuna, he mea nui kēia kuʻuna. ʻO ka manawa mua, ua ʻoki kahi hoaaloha Inuit iā ia. Ua lilo kaʻu keiki i "angusiaq" nona ("ke keiki āna i hana ai"). Hāʻawi ʻo Annie i nā lole he nui i ka hoʻomaka. Ma ke kūʻai aku, pono ʻo ia e hāʻawi iā ia i kāna iʻa mua i hopu ʻia. No kaʻu kaikamahine, ua hana wau. I koʻu ʻoki ʻana, ua makemake au iā ia: "E maikaʻi ʻoe i kāu hana", e like me ka ʻōlelo kuʻuna. He manawa mālie kēia, ma hope o ka hana ʻino o ka hānau ʻana, hoʻoponopono hou mākou i nā mea. ”
ʻO Fabien, ka makuakāne o kahi keikikāne a me kahi kaikamahine
“Me he mea lā he uwea kelepona nui! “
“Makemake ʻoe e ʻoki i ke kaula?” Pīhoihoi ka nīnau iaʻu. ʻAʻole wau i ʻike hiki iā mākou ke hana, manaʻo wau na nā kahu mālama i mālama. Hiki iaʻu ke ʻike iaʻu iho, me ka ʻokiʻoki, makaʻu wau i ka holomua ʻole. Na ka palekeiki i alakaʻi iaʻu a ʻo ka ʻoki ʻoki wale nō. ʻAʻole au i manaʻo e hāʻawi maʻalahi ia. Ma hope, noʻonoʻo wau i ka hōʻailona… ʻO ka lua o ka manawa, ua ʻoi aku koʻu hilinaʻi, no laila ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manawa e nānā pono ai. Ua like ke kaula me ka uwea mānoanoa, wili ʻia mai nā kelepona kahiko, he ʻakaʻaka. ”
ʻO Julien, ka makuakāne o nā kaikamāhine ʻelua
ʻO ka manaʻo o ka mea hoʻokaʻawale:
« ʻO ka ʻoki ʻana i ke kaula ua lilo ia i mea hōʻailona, e like me ka hoʻomana o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana. ʻOki ka makua kāne i ka pilina "kino" ma waena o ka pēpē a me kona makuahine. ʻO ka hōʻailona no ka mea e hiki ai i ke pēpē ke komo i ko mākou honua kaiaulu, no laila ka hālāwai me kekahi, no ka mea, ʻaʻole pili ʻo ia i kahi kanaka hoʻokahi. He mea nui e aʻo nā pāpā e hiki mai ana i kēia hana. ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, no ka laʻana, ʻaʻole mākou e hōʻeha i ka makuahine a hōʻoluʻolu paha ka pēpē. Akā e pili ana i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kēlā me kēia makuakāne i ke koho. Mai wikiwiki e hāʻawi iā ia i kēia hana ma ia wahi, ma hope o ka hānau ʻana. He hoʻoholo e lawe mua ʻia. Ma kēia mau hōʻike, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike maopopo i nā ʻano like ʻole. Ua manaʻo ʻo Bertrand i ka waiwai "psychic": ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana. ʻO Fabien, ma kāna ʻaoʻao, wehewehe maikaʻi i ka ʻaoʻao "social": ʻo ka ʻoki ʻana i ke kaula ka hoʻomaka o ka pilina me kekahi, i kēia hihia me Annie. A ʻo ka hōʻike a Julien e pili ana i ke ʻano "organic" ma ke ʻoki ʻana i ka loulou e hoʻopili ai i ka pēpē i kona makuahine… a nani hoʻi! No kēia mau makua kāne, he manawa poina ʻole ia… »
ʻO Stephan Valentin, ke kauka i ka psychology. Ka mea kākau o “La Reine, c'est moi!” i eds. Pfefferkorn
I nā hui kuʻuna he nui, hāʻawi ʻia ke kaula o ka ʻōpū i nā mākua. Ua kanu kekahi, a maloʻo kekahi *…
* Hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ke kaula umbilical ”, memoir midwife, Elodie Bodez, University of Lorraine.