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He aha e hana ai inā makaʻu nui kāu keiki
ʻO ka huhū wela, hoʻonāukiuki, "haunaele ma ka moku" he mau hiʻohiʻona pinepine o ka ulu ʻana, nā pilikia o ka makahiki. Akā aia kekahi mau kumu ʻē aʻe no ka hopohopo o nā mākua. Aia ia i kahi neuropathologist e noʻonoʻo ai i ke kumu e hopohopo nui ai ke keiki, a kahi o ka laina ma waena o ka hoʻomau ʻole a me ka haki. ʻAʻohe mea weliweli ke hele i ke kauka. ʻAʻole māʻona i ka polyclinic mokuʻāina, kahi a lākou i ʻike ai kekahi i kekahi e ka ʻike? E hoʻopakele kahi ʻoihana pilikino e hoʻopakele. A i kekahi manawa hele aku kēlā mau "maʻi ʻino" iā lākou iho.
ʻAʻole ia he mea kūpono ʻole ka hopohopo nui o ke keiki - e nānā i ke kumu.
No ke aha i hopohopo nui ai ke keiki?
Ua makaʻu loa nā pēpē i kēlā me kēia makahiki, mai 2 a 3 mau makahiki (pilikia o "kūʻokoʻa"), ma 7 a ʻoi. Ua lohe nui nā mākua e pili ana i ka ʻōpio, a hoʻomanaʻo lākou iā lākou iho. ʻO nā kumu i hopohopo nui ai ke keiki e pili ana i ka pilia, pili i ke ʻano a me ka noʻonoʻo.
- Makemake i ke kūʻokoʻa, e hoʻokaʻawale mai nā mākua, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki i ka pēpē iā ia iho ke noʻonoʻo ʻole me ka ʻole o lākou.
- Mehana. ʻO ka poʻe Choleric e hoʻokō mau i kā lākou makemake (walaʻau, hysterics).
- Ka luhi. ʻAʻole makemake nā pēpē e hoʻonui. ʻAʻole holo pono kā lākou pihi "pihi", no laila pale ʻia nā pēpē a me nā keiki ma lalo o 3 mau makahiki mai nā hanana walaʻau lōʻihi, e nānā ana i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni a me nā lā hihiu me nā ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha āpau.
- Hōʻino i ka papa kuhikuhi o ka lā.
- Kaʻaihue. Mākaukau nā mākua i kekahi manawa e hāʻawi i nā keiki i nā mea pāʻani a pau, inā ʻaʻole lākou e koi i ka nānā, mālama, manawa.
- Ka nele o ka nānā pono a me ka lokahi o nā mākua. Hāʻawi ʻo Pāpā i ka ʻeli e pāʻani ai, lawe ʻo Māmā. A i ʻole ʻōlelo ʻo Māmā "ʻaʻole" i kēia lā a ʻapōpō, a "ʻae" i ka lā ʻapōpō.
- Nā pilikia o ke kino. ʻAʻole kahaha nā Neuroses i kēia lā i kekahi. Hiki ke hopohopo nui kahi keiki ma muli o ka maʻi (ihu ihu, niho), nā hoʻololi hormonal (ʻōpio), nā pilikia hoʻomohala.
ʻAʻole pono e walaʻau i kāu keiki kāne a kaikamahine paha (ʻoiai ʻaʻole hao nā mākua, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i ka hopena). Pono ʻoe e kulu iā ʻoe iho i kahi lāʻau hōʻoluʻolu a nānā pono i ke kūlana.
Makaʻu loa ke keiki: he aha ka mea e hana ai
Inā kū mau nā haʻihaʻi, pono ʻoe e hele i ke keʻena lāʻau o nā keiki. Hiki i ke kauka lapaʻau ke ʻike i nā pilikia a ka makuahine a me nā makuakāne e ʻike ʻole ai. I kekahi manawa kōkua kahi neurologist.
Inā hilahila nā mākua, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ke keiki - hopohopo nā keiki me ka epilepsy, autism. Pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo e pili ana i kāu kuleana i nā keiki.
Akā ke waiho nei nā kumu i kahi ʻē aʻe, kahi e hilinaʻi ai ka hopena o ka pilikia.
- Kamaʻilio lākou me ka puʻuwai i ka puʻuwai, e hōʻike ana aloha lākou i kā lākou keikikāne a me kā lākou kaikamahine. ʻLelo ʻia nā keiki e pili ana i ka wā ʻōpio, aloha mua ma mua.
- Pono mākou e kōkua iā lākou e ʻike a hoʻomohala iā lākou iho. ʻO nā ʻāpana hoihoi a me nā hana hoʻoikaika kino e hoʻōla i ka huhū nui.
- E nānā i ka pēpē. Hoʻomaka ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā "hōʻikeʻike" weliweli i ka waena o ka square a i ka pukaaniani o ka hale kūʻai? ʻApo lākou i ka pēpē a ʻōlelo e kūʻai ʻia ma hope. ʻAʻole kēlā? Waiho wale ke keiki, akā ʻaʻole mamao loa. ʻAʻole nō ʻo ia e lohe i kēia manawa - a ʻaʻole kūamuamu, a me nā ʻōlelo hoʻohali hou.
- Pono e kokoke i nā keiki a kamaʻilio mau me ka naʻau i ka puʻuwai.
A i kekahi manawa, ke pīhoihoi nui ke keiki, he aha ka ʻike a me ke kupunawahine aloha ʻole a makua ʻole e hana ai, pono ʻoe e nānā iā ʻoe iho. Ua loli nā huaʻōlelo a me nā hana a nā makuahine a me nā makuakāne, nele anei ka ʻohana i ka mahalo o nā mākua i kekahi i kekahi a i ʻole i kā lākou “I”? A laila pono ʻoe e wehe i ka lepe me ʻoe iho ...