ʻAʻole hauʻoli kahi keiki. Akā weliweli hoʻi. Nui nā kumu no ka weliweli, keu hoʻi i waena o nā wahine i lilo i makuahine.
Ua lohe nā kānaka āpau i ke kaumaha hope o ka postpartum. ʻĀ, akā ʻo ka huaʻōlelo "hopohopo mau postpartum" ʻaʻole ma ka hoʻolohe ʻana. Akā makehewa, no ka mea noho mau ʻo ia me kona makuahine i nā makahiki he nui. Hopohopo nā makuahine i nā mea āpau: makaʻu lākou i ka maʻi make koke o ka pēpē, meningitis, nā mikena, kahi kanaka ʻē i ka pā - makaʻu loa lākou, a hiki i ka makaʻu. He mea paʻakikī kēia mau makaʻu e hauʻoli i ke ola, e leʻaleʻa i nā keiki. Hoʻolei ka poʻe e hoʻokau i kēlā pilikia - ʻōlelo lākou, hopohopo nā makuahine āpau i kā lākou keiki. Akā i kekahi manawa koʻikoʻi loa nā mea āpau i hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hana me ke kōkua ʻole o ke kauka.
Ua hōʻuluʻulu ʻo Charlotte Andersen, mum o ʻekolu, i 12 mau makaʻu maʻamau i waena o nā makuahine ʻōpio. Eia kāna hana.
1. He makaʻu ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi keiki ma kahi kula kamaliʻi a kula paha
"ʻO kaʻu mea hoʻoweliweli nui loa ke waiho nei iā Riley ma ke kula. ʻO kēia mau makaʻu liʻiliʻi, no ka laʻana, o nā pilikia me ke kula a i ʻole nā hoa. Akā ʻo ka makaʻu maoli ka ʻaihue keiki. Maopopo iaʻu ʻaʻole loa kēia e hana i kaʻu keiki. Akā i kēlā me kēia manawa lawe wau iā ia i ke kula, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke oki i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana iā ia. ”- Leah, 26, Denver.
2. He aha inā e hoʻoili ʻia koʻu hopohopo i ke keiki?
"Ua noho wau me ka hopohopo a me ka maʻi pīpī-koʻikoʻi no ka hapa nui o koʻu ola, no laila ʻike wau i ka ʻeha a me ka hoʻonāwaliwali loa paha. I kekahi manawa ʻike wau i kaʻu mau keiki e hōʻike nei i nā hōʻailona like o ka hopohopo aʻu e hana nei. A makaʻu wau naʻu ia i loaʻa ai ka hopohopo ”(Cassie, 31, Sacramento).
3. Weliweli wau ke hiamoe lōʻihi nā keiki.
"Ke moe lōʻihi kaʻu mau keiki ma mua o ka maʻamau, ʻo koʻu manaʻo mua: ua make lākou! ʻO ka hapa nui o nā makuahine e hauʻoli i ka maluhia, maopopo iaʻu. Akā makaʻu mau wau e make kaʻu keiki i kāna hiamoe. Hele mau wau e nānā inā maikaʻi nā mea āpau inā hiamoe lōʻihi nā keiki i ke ao a ala paha ma hope o ka maʻamau i ke kakahiaka ”(Candice, 28, Avrada).
4. Makaʻu wau e hoʻokuʻu i ke keiki mai ka maka
"Makaʻu makaʻu wau i ka wā e pāʻani wale ai kaʻu mau keiki ma ka pā a i ʻole, ma ke ʻano nui, nalo mai kaʻu kahua o ka ʻike. Makau wau o lawe aku paha kekahi iā lākou a hōʻeha iā lākou, a ʻaʻole wau ma laila e pale aku iā lākou. Auē, 14 a me 9 lākou, ʻaʻole pēpē lākou! Ua kau inoa pū wau no nā papa pale pale. Inā hilinaʻi wau hiki iaʻu ke pale aku iā lākou a me aʻu iho, malia paha ʻaʻole wau e makaʻu loa ”(Amanda, 32, Houston).
5. makaʻu wau e heʻe ʻo ia
“Ke hopohopo mau nei wau e make paha ʻo ia. I kahi nui aʻu e ʻike nei i ka makaʻu o ka hanu i nā mea āpau. ʻOki loa wau i ka meaʻai me ka maikaʻi loa, hoʻomanaʻo mau iā ia e nau pono i ka meaʻai. Me he mea hiki iā ia ke poina a hoʻomaka e ale i nā mea āpau. Ma ke ʻano laulā, hoʻāʻo wau e hāʻawi pinepine iā ia i ka meaʻai paʻa ”(Lindsay, 32, Columbia).
6. Ke kaʻawale mākou, makaʻu wau ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike hou.
"I kēlā me kēia manawa e haʻalele ai kaʻu kāne a me kaʻu mau keiki, hopu ʻia wau me ka weliweli - me he mea lā e loaʻa iā lākou kahi pōpilikia a ʻaʻole wau e ʻike hou iā lākou. Manaʻo wau e pili ana i ka mea a mākou i ʻōlelo aku ai i kekahi i kekahi - me he mea lā ʻo kā mākou mau huaʻōlelo hope loa kēia. Hiki iaʻu ke uē me ka waimaka. Hele wale lākou i McDonald's ”(Maria, 29, Seattle).
7. Ka manaʻo hewa no kekahi mea i hana ʻole ʻia (a ʻaʻole paha)
"Ke makaʻu mau nei wau e noʻonoʻo inā inā hoʻoholo wau e hana lōʻihi a hoʻouna i kaʻu kāne a me kaʻu mau keiki e leʻaleʻa iā lākou iho, ʻo kēia ka manawa hope loa aʻu e ʻike ai iā lākou. A pono wau e ola i ke koena o koʻu ola me ka ʻike he ʻoi aku koʻu makemake i ka hana ma mua o koʻu ʻohana. A laila hoʻomaka wau e noʻonoʻo i nā ʻano kūlana like ʻole e noho ai kaʻu mau keiki ma ka wahi ʻelua. A ʻōwili nā makaʻu ma luna oʻu me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā keiki, mālama ʻole wau iā lākou ”(Emily, 30, Las Vegas).
8. ʻIke wau i nā mikena ma nā wahi āpau
"Ua hānau mua ʻia kaʻu mau māhoe, no laila ua maʻalahi lāua i nā maʻi. Pono wau e makaʻala nui e pili ana i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe - a hiki i ka sterility. Akā i kēia manawa ua nui lākou, ua pololei ko lākou pale ʻana, makaʻu mau wau. ʻO ka makaʻu i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki i kekahi ʻano maʻi weliweli ma muli o kaʻu nānā ʻana ua alakaʻi ʻia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua loaʻa wau i ka maʻi obsessive-compulsive, "- Selma, Istanbul.
9. Makaʻu makaʻu wau i ka hele wāwae i ka pāka
"He wahi maikaʻi loa ka pāka no ka hele wāwae ʻana me nā keiki. Akā makaʻu loa wau iā lākou. ʻO kēia mau hoʻohuli ʻana a pau ... I kēia manawa ʻōpio nō kaʻu mau kaikamahine. Akā e ulu aʻe lākou, makemake lākou e kowali. A laila noʻonoʻo wau ua nui kā lākou neʻe, a hiki wale iaʻu ke kū a nānā iā lākou i ka hāʻule ”- Jennifer, 32, Hartford.
10. Manaʻo mau wau i ke kūlana hihia maikaʻi loa
"Ke paio mau nei wau me ka makaʻu o paʻa wau i loko o kahi kaʻa me kaʻu mau keiki a i kahi kūlana e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻopakele i hoʻokahi wale nō. Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻoholo i kahi e koho ai? He aha inā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokuʻu iā lāua ʻelua? Hiki iaʻu ke simulate i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole. A ʻaʻole hoʻokuʻu kēlā makaʻu iaʻu e hele. ”- Courtney, 32, Nu Ioka.
11. Ka makaʻu o hāʻule
"Aloha nui mākou i ke kūlohelohe, makemake mākou i ka hele wāwae. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hauʻoli i koʻu wā hoʻomaha me ka maluhia. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, nui nā wahi a puni mai kahi e hina ai ʻoe. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe mea i ka nahele e mālama i nā hana palekana. Ke hele mākou i nā wahi e loaʻa ai nā pōhaku, nā pali, ʻaʻole au e nānā i nā keiki. A laila loaʻa wau i nā moeʻuhane no kekahi mau lā. Ua pāpā pinepine wau i koʻu mau mākua ʻaʻole e lawe i kā lākou keiki me aʻu i kekahi mau wahi kahi e ʻike ʻia ka hāʻule ʻana mai kahi kiʻekiʻe. Hewa loa kēia. No ka mea ua like kaʻu keikikāne i kēia manawa me he neototika lā e like me aʻu i kēia ʻano ”(Sheila, 38, Leighton).
12. Makaʻu wau e nānā i ka nūhou
"I kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ʻoiai ma mua o kaʻu mau keiki, ua ʻike wau i kahi moʻolelo e pili ana i kahi ʻohana e kalaiwa ana i kahi kaʻa ma kekahi alahaka - a ua lele ke kaʻa mai ke alahaka. Ua make wale nā poʻe āpau koe ka makuahine. Pakele ʻo ia, akā ua make kāna mau keiki. I koʻu hānau ʻana i kaʻu keiki mua, ʻo kēia ka moʻolelo kaʻu e noʻonoʻo ai. He moeʻuhane kaʻu. Ua kaʻa wau a puni nā alahaka. A laila he keiki kā kāua. Ua hoʻololi ʻia ʻaʻole kēia wale nō ka moʻolelo e pepehi iaʻu. ʻO kēlā me kēia nūhou, kahi i hoʻomāinoino ʻia a pepehi ʻia ai paha kahi keiki, hoʻonāukiuki iaʻu. Ua pāpā aku kaʻu kāne i nā kahawai nūhou i ko mākou home. ”- Heidi, New Orleans.