Nui nā wahine, i ʻike i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana o kahi hoa, hoʻohiki iā lākou iho ʻaʻole lākou e hui hou me kēlā kāne no kekahi mea o ka honua ... a ma hope o kekahi manawa ʻike lākou ua hāʻule hou lākou i loko o ka pahele like. Pehea e hoʻomaopopo mua ai he mea hoʻomāinoino kāu i mua ou?
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe wahine e makemake e lilo i mea hoʻomāinoino. A i hoʻokahi manawa i loko o kahi pilina ʻawaʻawa, ʻaʻole i hoʻoholo koke ʻia e ʻae iā ia iho. Wahi a nā helu ʻAmelika, no ka laʻana, ʻo nā wahine wale nō ma hope o 5-7 mau hihia o ka hana ʻino e hoʻoholo e haʻalele i kā lākou hoa, a ʻaʻole ʻaʻa kekahi. A he nui ka poʻe, ma hope o kekahi manawa, hāʻule hou i loko o ka pahele hoʻokahi. Akā ua hiki ke pale ʻia.
Eia nā hōʻailona pōʻino maopopo e makaʻala koke iā mākou, e like me ka memo o ka American Women's Center.
1. I ka hoʻomakaʻana o ka pilina, hoʻoikaikaʻo ia i nā mea. ʻAʻole ʻoe i loaʻa ka manawa e nānā i hope, a ua hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia: "ʻAʻohe mea i aloha iaʻu e like me ʻoe!" a hoʻoikaika maoli iā ʻoe e noho pū.
2. He lili mau ʻo ia. He mea weliweli ʻo ia, kāhea iā ʻoe me ka pau ʻole a i ʻole hiki ʻole ke hele mai iā ʻoe me ka ʻole o ka ʻōlelo ʻana.
3. Makemakeʻo ia e hoʻomalu i nā mea a pau. Ke nīnau mau nei ka hoa pili i kāu mea i kamaʻilio ai me kāu mau hoaaloha, ma hea ʻoe, e nānā i ka mile mile o kāu kaʻa, mālama i ke kālā maʻamau, koi i nā māka no nā kūʻai, makemake e noi ʻia e hele i kahi a i ʻole e hana i kekahi mea.
4. Loaʻa iā ia nā manaʻolana kūpono ʻole iā ʻoe. Manaʻo ʻo ia e hemolele ʻoe i nā mea āpau a e hoʻomāʻona i kāna mau makemake āpau.
5. Aia mākou i kahi kaʻawale. Makemake ʻo ia e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe mai nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana, ʻaʻole ʻae iā ʻoe e hoʻohana i kāu kelepona a i ʻole kaʻa, ʻaʻole ʻae iā ʻoe e ʻimi i ka hana.
6. Hoʻohewaʻo ia i nā mea'ē aʻe no kāna mau hewa pono'ī. ʻO kāna haku, ʻohana, hoa pili - ʻo ia wale nō ka hewa inā hewa kekahi mea.
7. ʻO nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ke kuleana no kona mau manaʻo. 'Ōleloʻo ia "Ua hoʻonāukiukiʻoe iaʻu" ma mua o ka'ōleloʻana "Ua huhū au". “ʻAʻole au e huhū nui inā ʻaʻole ʻoe…”
8. ʻOi aku kona maʻalahi. Ua hōʻeha ʻia ʻo ia no kekahi kumu a hoʻonohonoho i nā hiʻohiʻona ma muli o nā hewa liʻiliʻi i piha ai ke ola.
9. He lokoino ʻo ia i nā holoholona a me nā keiki. Hoʻopaʻi ʻo ia me ke aloha ʻole a pepehi i nā holoholona. Mai nā kamaliʻi, hiki iā ia ke koi aku iā lākou ma mua o ko lākou ikaika, a i ʻole e hoʻohenehene, e uē ana iā lākou.
10. Leʻaleʻa ʻo ia i ka pāʻani ʻino ma kahi moe. No ka laʻana, e hoʻolei i ka hoa i hope a i ʻole e hoʻopaʻa iā ia i kahi me ka ikaika e kūʻē i kona makemake. Ua hoʻāla ʻia ʻo ia e nā manaʻo hoʻokamakama. Hoʻoikaika ʻo ia iā ʻoe - ma ka ikaika a i ʻole ka hoʻopunipuni - e hana i kahi mea āu i mākaukau ʻole ai.
11. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo ʻino. Hoʻohewa mau ʻo ia iā ʻoe a ʻōlelo paha i kahi mea leʻaleʻa: hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe, ʻāhewa iā ʻoe, kāhea iā ʻoe i nā inoa, hoʻomanaʻo i nā manawa ʻeha mai kou wā i hala a i kēia manawa, ʻoiai e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana ʻo ʻoe iho ka hewa no nā mea āpau.
12. He mea kākoʻo ʻo ia i nā kuleana kāne paʻa i ka pilina. Pono ʻoe e lawelawe iā ia, e hoʻolohe iā ia a e noho ma ka home.
13. Ua loli nui kona ʻano. I kēia manawa ua aloha ʻo ia a aloha - a hāʻule koke ʻo ia i ka huhū.
14. Ua hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka hana ʻino kino. Ua ʻae ʻo ia i ka wā ma mua ua hāpai ʻo ia i kona lima i kahi wahine, akā wehewehe ʻo ia i kēia ma nā kūlana a i ʻole e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia ka mea i lawe mai iā ia.
15. Hoʻoweliweli ʻo ia me ka hana ʻino. Eia kekahi laʻana, hiki iā ia ke'ōlelo: "E uhaʻi au i kou'ā'ī!", Akā, e hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻo iaʻaʻoleʻo ia i'ōlelo koʻikoʻi.
Ma ka liʻiliʻi loa, hōʻike kēia mau hōʻailona e pili ana kāu hoa i ka hana hoʻomāinoino. Akā, me kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe, ma hope a ma hope paha e ulu aʻe i ke kino.