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He hana hiki ʻole ke hoʻololi ʻia kēia, he mea weliweli ka ʻelemakule. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻōki i ka hakakā me ka makahiki, e ʻae a lawe i ka mea maikaʻi loa mai ke ola. Pehea? ʻO ka mea kākau o ka puke "The Best After Fifty" ka mea kākau moʻolelo ʻo Barbara Hannah Grafferman e haʻi.
Hōʻike pinepine ka poʻe heluhelu i nā pilikia e hopohopo nui nei iā lākou. ʻO ka pilikia nui ka hopohopo e pili ana i ka ʻelemakule. Kākau ka poʻe makaʻu lākou i nā pilikia olakino, makaʻu lākou e noho kaʻawale, makaʻu lākou e poina ʻia.
ʻO kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻo e wiwo ʻole. ʻO ka makaʻu e pale iā mākou mai ka hahai ʻana i kā mākou mau moeʻuhane, koi ia iā mākou e hoʻi hope a haʻalele, a hoʻohuli iā mākou i mau pio o kā mākou wahi hōʻoluʻolu.
ʻOiai wau e kākau ana i ka The Best After XNUMX, e hōʻiliʻili i nā mea no ia mea, a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo mai koʻu ʻike ponoʻī, ua aʻo wau i kahi kumu maʻalahi.
Inā olakino ʻoe, maikaʻi kou manaʻo. Inā maikaʻi kou manaʻo, maikaʻi ʻoe. Inā nānā maikaʻi ʻoe a hoʻolālā no ka wā e hiki mai ana a ʻike i ka noho ʻana ma ia ala, manaʻo ʻoe kupaianaha. He aha ka ʻokoʻa i ka nui o kou mau makahiki?
He mea nui ka noho olakino a maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia makahiki. Inā ʻoluʻolu ʻoe i kou maikaʻi a me kou helehelena, e wehe ʻoe i nā hanana a me nā manawa hou.
Pono mākou e noho maikaʻi e pale aku i nā maʻi mai o mākou aku. Akā ma kahi o nā pilikia me ke ʻano kino a me ka maikaʻi o nā wahine ma mua o 50, pilikia nā nīnau:
Pehea e noho wiwo ʻole ma hope o 50?
Pehea e haʻalele ai i nā stereotypes i kau ʻia e ka media?
Pehea e haʻalele ai i nā manaʻo "ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōpio" a hahai i kou ala ponoʻī?
Pehea e aʻo ai e haʻalele i ka ʻoluʻolu a hele i kahi ʻike ʻole?
Pehea e makaʻu ʻole ai i ka ʻelemakule a hoʻōki i ka hakakā ʻana? Pehea e aʻo ai e ʻae iā ia?
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ʻelemakule ma nā ʻano he nui. ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia mākou e ka media. Wahi a nā haʻawina ʻepekema he pōʻeleʻele a me ka pōʻino. Akā, ʻaʻole kēia he kumu e hoʻōki ai, haʻalele a hūnā. ʻO ka manawa kēia e hōʻiliʻili ai i ka ikaika a lanakila i ka makaʻu. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo.
E hoomanao i kou hanauna
He ʻāpana mākou o ka hui demographic nui loa. Ua lawa mākou i ko mākou leo e lohe ʻia. Ka ikaika ma ka helu. Loaʻa iā mākou kahi hapa nui o kēia ikaika ma ke ʻano o ka ʻoihana.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o nā wahine i nā ʻano paʻakikī o ka ʻelemakule ma mua o nā kāne. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o mākou e hoʻokumu a mālama i nā pilina, mālama i ka pilina. Kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hele i nā manawa paʻakikī.
Kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo, ʻoi aku ka weliweli loa, me nā poʻe e ʻike nei i ka mea like. He ala maikaʻi kēia e hoʻomaha ai a emi iho ka hopohopo. E ʻike i nā hui no nā wahine ma luna o 50. E ʻimi i nā kaiāulu media. ʻO ka launa pū ʻana he ʻāpana o ke ola olakino.
Hele i waho o kou wahi hōʻoluʻolu
ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kāu mea hiki ke hana inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo. He maʻalahi ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kumu e hana ʻole ai i kekahi mea. E noʻonoʻo i ke kumu e pono ai ʻoe e hana. E hoʻololi i ka paradigm o ka noʻonoʻo. ʻO Daniel Pink, ka mea kākau o Drive. He aha ka mea e hoʻoikaika nui ai iā mākou", hoʻokomo i ka manaʻo o ka "hōʻoluʻolu huahana". Pono kēia moku'āina no kēlā me kēia o kākou. Ua kākau ʻo ia: "Inā maikaʻi ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e huahua. Pēlā nō, ʻaʻole ʻoe e huahua inā ʻoluʻolu loa ʻoe.
E hōʻuluʻulu i nā hui kākoʻo
He mea weliweli ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi ʻoihana. Puka mai ka makau a me ke kanalua. Na wai e kūʻai? Ma hea e loaʻa ai ke kālā? E lilo anei kaʻu mau waihona a pau? He mea weliweli ke oki mare a mare paha ma hope o 50. A he mea weliweli ke manao e hoomaha.
Ke hana nei au i kahi manaʻo ʻoihana, no laila ua hoʻoholo wau e hana i kaʻu papa alakaʻi ponoʻī. Ua kapa aku au iā ia ʻo ka «Kitchen Advisors Club». ʻEhā wahine i loko o koʻu ʻaha kūkā, akā e hana kekahi helu o nā mea komo. I kēlā me kēia Pōʻalua, ʻākoakoa mākou i loko o ka cafe hoʻokahi. Loaʻa iā mākou he 15 mau minuke e ʻōlelo i nā mea e pono ai mākou e ʻōlelo.
ʻO ka maʻamau e pili ana nā kūkākūkā i ka ʻoihana a i ʻole ke ʻimi ʻana i kahi hana hou. Akā ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia i nā manawa a pau. I kekahi manawa, kamaʻilio mākou no nā haʻuki, no nā kāne, no nā keiki. Kūkākūkā mākou i ka mea e hoʻopilikia ai. Akā ʻo ka pahuhopu nui o ka hui ʻo ia ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā manaʻo a hoʻomalu kekahi i kekahi. He paʻakikī ke hana hoʻokahi. Ma hope o kēlā me kēia hālāwai, haʻalele mākou me ka papa inoa o nā hana e hoʻopau ai no ka hālāwai aʻe.
e ae i kou mau makahiki
E lilo kēia i kāu mantra pilikino: “Mai hoʻāʻo e lanakila i ka makahiki. E ae mai. ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kāu ʻōpio e ʻae a aloha i kou ʻano makua he hana kūpono. E mālama iā ʻoe iho me ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka mahalo. E mālama i kou kino, ʻuhane, noʻonoʻo. E mālama iā ʻoe iho e like me kāu mau keiki, nā ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha. ʻO ka manawa kēia e ola ai iā ʻoe iho.