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ʻAʻohe hopohopo, ʻo kā lākou hoʻopaʻapaʻa hiki ʻole a me kā lākou hoʻokūkū olakino e hana i ka emulation a he hale hana maoli lākou no ke kūkulu ʻana a me ke aʻo ʻana e noho i loko o ke kaiāulu ...
Mai hoole i ko lakou lili
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma waena o nā kaikunāne, He mea maʻamau ka lili, no laila, mai hoʻāʻo e hoʻokau i kahi kuʻikahi fictitious ! I ka noʻonoʻo o nā kamaliʻi, ʻo ke aloha o nā mākua he keke nui i māhele ʻia i ʻāpana. Ke emi nei keia mau mahele me ka heluna o na keiki a ke kaumaha nei lakou… Pono kakou e hoomaopopo ia lakou ua ulu a mahuahua ke aloha a me na naau o na makua me ka heluna o na keiki a hiki i ka makua ke aloha i na keiki elua, ekolu a eha paha. manawa a me ka ikaika like.
E hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou e like me ka hiki
Mai hoʻohālikelike iā lākou me kekahi, akā, e kahakaha i nā ikaika, nā ʻono, ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia. ʻOi loa inā he mau kaikamāhine a he mau keikikāne wale nō. E ʻōlelo aku i ka hiapo: “Maikaʻi ʻoe i ka huki ʻana… Ua lanakila kou kaikunāne i ka pôpeku. ʻO kekahi hewa, ʻo ka "ahi hui". ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana "E hele mai nā keiki, nā mākua, nā kamaliʻi, nā kaikamāhine, nā keikikāne" e hoʻokomo i nā mea a pau i ka hīnaʻi hoʻokahi! Hāʻawi i ka hānai ʻana iā lākou i ka hoʻopunipuni o nā mea like. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka helu like o nā pālaʻi, ke kūʻai ʻana i nā pālule like… Mai hāʻawi i kahi makana liʻiliʻi i ke keiki hānau mua inā ʻo ia ka lā hānau o ke kaikaina. Hoʻolauleʻa mākou i ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki ʻaʻole nā kaikunāne! Hiki iā ʻoe ke paipai iā ia e hāʻawi makana i kona kaikunāne, he mea hauʻoli. A hoʻopaʻa puke hoʻokahi no kēlā me kēia. ʻO kēia mau manawa o ka pilina pili e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia kanaka, e like me kāu aloha.
Mai ho'ōki i ka hakakā
He kuleana ko nā paio ma waena o ke kaikunāne a me ke kaikuahine: e lawe i ko lākou wahi, e hōʻailona i ko lākou ʻāina a e mahalo kekahi i kekahi. Inā he hoʻololi ma waena o nā hakakā a me nā manawa o ka hui pū ʻana a me nā pāʻani, ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau, aia ka pilina fraternal i ke kaʻina o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana iā ia iho. ʻAʻohe kumu e hopohopo ai a manaʻo paha e hoʻokūkū ʻia i kona kuleana ma ke ʻano he mau mākua maikaʻi inā hakakā nā keiki.
Mai censor iā lākou, e hoʻolohe i kā lākou hoʻopiʻi a hoʻoponopono hou : “Ua ike au ua huhu oe. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e aloha i kou mau kaikunāne. Akā, pono ʻoe e mahalo iā lākou, e like me kā mākou e mahalo ai i kekahi. ” E noho mālie inā loaʻa nā hitches liʻiliʻi. Hoʻopau pinepine nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa e like me ka hoʻomaka ʻana. Inā noho lōʻihi nā mākua a ʻaʻole ʻimi e ʻike iā lākou iho i waenakonu o ka pilina. He mea ʻole ke komo ʻana i kēlā me kēia manawa a ma luna o nā mea āpau ʻaʻole e haʻi i ka nīnau hoʻopunipuni: "Na wai i hoʻomaka?" No ka mea hiki ole ke hooiaioia. Hāʻawi iā lākou i manawa e hoʻoponopono ai i ka paio ma o lākou iho.
E hoʻopaʻa i nā keiki i ka pā
Pono e hoʻokaʻawale kino ʻia ka poʻe hakakā inā loaʻa kekahi o lākou i ka pōʻino a i ʻole ʻo ia ka mea ma ke kūlana hoʻouna. A laila e lawe i ka mea hoʻouka ma ka lima, e nānā pololei iā ia i ka maka a hoʻomanaʻo i nā lula: “Ua papa ʻia ka hahau ʻana a i ʻole ka hōʻino ʻana i kekahi i kekahi i loko o ko mākou ʻohana. “ ʻO ka hoʻomāinoino waha e like me ka hoʻomāinoino kino e pale ʻia.
E hoʻopaʻi me ka pololei
ʻAʻohe mea i ʻoi aku ka ʻino o ka mea liʻiliʻi ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻi hewa ʻana. a no ka paʻakikī o ka ʻike pono ʻana i ka mea i ʻoi aku ka ʻino, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke koho ʻana i ka ʻae māmā no kēlā me kēia keiki. E like me ka laʻana, hoʻokaʻawale i loko o ka lumi moe no kekahi mau minuke a laila ka hoʻokō ʻana i kahi kiʻi i manaʻo ʻia no kona kaikunāne a i ʻole ke kaikuahine ma ke ʻano he ʻōlelo hoʻohiki no ka hoʻolauleʻa a me ka maluhia.. No ka mea, inā ʻoe e hoʻopaʻi paʻakikī, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kahi kuʻikahi i hala i loko o ka huhū paʻakikī.
E kahakaha i nā manawa o ka ʻike aloha
Hoʻomaopopo pinepine mākou i nā manawa pilikia ma mua o nā manawa lokahi. A he hewa. Ke noho aliʻi ka hamau i loko o ka hale, e hōʻike i kou ʻoluʻolu : "He aha kāu pāʻani maikaʻi, hauʻoli nui wau i ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe hauʻoli nui!" »E hāʻawi iā lākou i nā pāʻani e kaʻana like. ʻOi aku ka hakakā inā ʻoluʻolu mākou! E hoʻāʻo e hoʻopaʻa i ko lākou lā me nā hana haʻuki, nā huakaʻi hele, nā kiʻi pena, nā pāʻani papa, ka kuke ʻana ...
He punahele anei na makua a pau?
Wahi a kekahi koho balota Pelekane i hala iho nei, ʻO 62% o nā mākua i noiʻi ʻia e ʻōlelo lākou makemake lākou i kekahi o kā lākou mau keiki ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Wahi a lākou, ʻo ka makemake ka unuhi ʻana i ka nānā ʻana a me ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka manawa me kekahi o nā keiki. Ma 25% o nā hihia, ʻo ia ka mea punahele punahele no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke kaʻana like i nā hana a me nā kūkākūkā hoihoi me ia. He mea kāhāhā kēia noiʻi ʻana no ka mea he mea kapu ka noho ʻana o kahi darling i loko o nā ʻohana! Hoʻopiʻi ka darling i ka moʻolelo e aloha like nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki āpau! He moʻolelo kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻano like nā mea i nā kaikunāne, he kanaka kūʻokoʻa nā keiki a no laila he mea maʻamau ke nānā ʻokoʻa iā lākou.
Inā lili loa nā kaikunāne i nā pono o ka mea i koho ʻia e nā mākua a i ʻole ka mea a lākou i manaʻo ai pēlā, ʻo ia anei ka wahi maikaʻi loa? Aole loa ! ʻO ka hao wale i ke keiki a hāʻawi i nā mea āpau iā ia, ʻaʻole ia he aloha maoli iā ia. No ka lilo ʻana i kanaka makua i hoʻokō ʻia, pono ke keiki i ka hoʻolālā a me nā palena. Inā lawe ʻo ia iā ia iho i mōʻī o ka honua ma waena o kona mau kaikunāne a me kona mau kaikuahine, hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea hilahila ma waho o ka ʻohana, no ka mea, e hana nā keiki ʻē aʻe, nā kumu, nā mākua ma ke ʻano like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Overprotected, over-valued, nānā ʻole i ke ahonui, ka manaʻo o ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, ka hoʻomanawanui no ka huhū, ʻike pinepine ka mea aloha iā ia iho ʻaʻole kūpono i ke kula ma mua, a laila i ka hana a me ke ola kaiaulu. I ka pōkole, ʻo ka lilo ʻana i mea punahele ʻaʻole ia he panacea, ma ke ʻano!