Contents
- 1. Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka naʻau a ʻaʻole e hūnā i loko o kahi lua
- 2. Hoʻomaopopo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
- 3. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻano manaʻo nui.
- 4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i ke kūlana ma nā maka o kekahi
- 5. ʻAʻole hoʻopau ka hakakā iā ʻoe a me kou pilina.
- 6. Ke kūpaʻa nei ʻoe i kāu mau hana.
- 7. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei ʻoe he kanaka maikaʻi ʻoe a he hoa pili.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka lilo ʻana i hoa kūpono. Akā ʻaʻole koi ʻia kēia! ʻAʻole maikaʻi mākou a pau, a ʻo ka hana ka mea e ulu a "pumi" i kou naʻau naʻau: ka hiki ke kamaʻilio, kūkulu i nā pilina a hoʻoholo i nā paio e kū mai ana. Eia kekahi mau hōʻike no kou maikaʻi ma ia mea.
He nui nā kāne e kamaʻilio me nā kāne ma ke keʻena o kā lākou kauka lapaʻau e pili ana i ko lākou luhi i nā paio pau ʻole, ka hopohopo e haʻalele ʻole iā lākou, a me ke anuanu e ʻike ʻia mai ka hakahaka e ulu ana ma waena o lākou. Hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo Karen Nimmo psychologist ʻo ia ka mea maʻamau i nā ʻohana kahi i loaʻa ʻole ai kekahi hoa me ka naʻauao kiʻekiʻe.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole pololei loa ka "endowed". ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea koʻikoʻi ke ʻano o ka ʻohana a me ka ʻike o ka noho ʻana i ka ʻohana makua, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hāpai i nā ʻano pono i loko ou, wahi a Karen Nimmo. Akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka mea e nānā aku ai? A pehea e hoʻoholo ai he hoa makua ʻoe?
1. Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka naʻau a ʻaʻole e hūnā i loko o kahi lua
ʻAʻohe kānalua - ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou i kekahi manawa pono e noho kaʻawale i mea e ola hou ai, hoʻōla, hōʻiliʻili i ko mākou mau manaʻo. A ma ia mau hihia, he mea maʻamau ka neʻe ʻana mai kāu hoa pili no kekahi manawa. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e holo, peʻe, a waiho i kāu hoa e noʻonoʻo nei i ka mea i hana ʻia. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ke kamaʻilio ākea nei ʻoe e pili ana i kou pono no ka mehameha. A ʻo ke koena o ka manawa, ke loaʻa kahi kumuwaiwai, wehe ʻoe, mākaukau e kamaʻilio a kōkua i kāu hoa inā makemake ʻo ia i ke kākoʻo.
2. Hoʻomaopopo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
ʻOiai inā ua hoʻokau ʻia ʻoe e nā manaʻo a pane ʻoe i ke kūlana ma kekahi ʻano a i ʻole, hoʻomau ʻoe e ʻike i ka mea e hana nei. ʻIke ʻoe i kāu mau mea hoʻomaka, nā nāwaliwali, nā nāwaliwali. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻohe «puaʻa i ka poke» i loko ou. ʻIke ʻoe ʻo wai ʻoe a ʻae ʻoe iā ʻoe iho.
3. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻano manaʻo nui.
ʻO nā kūlana a me nā hanana like ʻole e hoʻāla iā ʻoe i nā manaʻo kūpono a me nā hopena āu e makaʻu ʻole ai a mai kānalua i ka haʻi ʻana, ʻoiai inā he kaumaha, huhū a makaʻu paha. ʻIke ʻoe i ka hauʻoli a hauʻoli i ke ola.
4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i ke kūlana ma nā maka o kekahi
Pehea ʻoe e hana ai? Hoʻolohe maikaʻi ʻoe, e ʻimi ana i ke ʻano o ka mea āu e lohe ai a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻopilikia ʻia e nā mea ʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole ʻoe e wikiwiki i ka hoʻoholo ʻana - ʻoi aku ka mea nui iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka interlocutor a me kona mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka mea i hana. Hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe he ʻokoʻa mākou a pau, a ʻae ʻoe i kāu hoa e like me ia, me kāna mau ʻano a me kāna mau manaʻo, ʻoiai inā he ʻokoʻa lākou mai kāu.
5. ʻAʻole hoʻopau ka hakakā iā ʻoe a me kou pilina.
ʻO ka mea mua, no ka mea, "hakakā" ʻoe me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻaʻole loaʻa pilikino. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻolei i nā hoʻopiʻi a lawe pono i ka hoʻohewa ʻana, me ka ʻole e lilo koke i mea pale a hōʻole i nā mea āpau. A inā ʻike ʻoe ua hewa ʻoe, e kala mai me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, a e hana koke. ʻAʻole ʻo ka hakakā no ʻoe ke kumu e noʻonoʻo ai ua pau nā mea āpau, pono ʻoe e hoʻopuehu a ma hope ou ʻaʻole ke kanaka kūpono. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio a ʻimi i nā ala olakino e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kūlana.
6. Ke kūpaʻa nei ʻoe i kāu mau hana.
ʻAʻole koi ʻia kāu hoa e koho i kēlā me kēia ahiahi āna e ʻike ai ma ka puka i kēia lā, a hoʻololi iā ʻoe a me kou ʻano. Inā huhū a huhū paha ʻoe, aia nō ke kumu maikaʻi no ia mea, akā ʻaʻole makaʻu kāu mea aloha i kou mau manaʻo - no ka laʻana, huhū.
7. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei ʻoe he kanaka maikaʻi ʻoe a he hoa pili.
Ua ʻike maoli ʻoe ʻo ʻoe a pono ʻoe e mālama maikaʻi ʻia. Malia paha, me kaʻole o kēia, hikiʻole ke hana i kahi pilina olakino.