Contents
- 1. Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā palena a ʻike ʻoe pehea e pale aku ai iā lākou.
- 2. Ua ʻike ʻoe pehea e hōʻike ai i kou makemake a me kou makemake
- 3. He kanaka makua ʻoe i ka naʻau a manaʻo like ʻoe mai kāu mea aloha.
- 4. He manaʻo kou e pili ana i ka pilina olakino
- 5. ʻIke ʻoe i kāu hoa pili e like me lākou, me ka hoʻonani ʻole.
- 6. He ʻoiaʻiʻo kāu mau manaʻo
- 7. He lokomaikaʻi ʻoe
- 8. Laki ʻoe
Manaʻo paha ʻoe ua laki kāu hoa pili iā ʻoe? Malia paha, ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i ka nīnau, kunou koke ʻoe i kou poʻo me ka ikaika. A laila, hoʻomanaʻo aʻela lākou i ko lāua hoʻohuhū ʻana i kāna kāne i ka wā e hoʻomākaukau ana i ka ʻaina kakahiaka nou, ua hoʻohaumia ʻo ia i ka lumi kuke holoʻokoʻa. A i ʻole e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole lākou i hōʻuluʻulu i ka pahu, ʻoiai ua nīnau mua ka wahine iā ʻoe e pili ana iā ia i hoʻokahi haneli. ʻAe,ʻaʻohe mea kūpono, aʻaʻole pono kēia: ma ka pilina,ʻoi aku ka nui o kekahi mea'ē aʻe.
1. Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā palena a ʻike ʻoe pehea e pale aku ai iā lākou.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e "ulu" me kahi hoa a ʻaʻole ola i kona ola; ʻike i kahi o kāu hui e "hope" a hoʻomaka ka lua. ʻAʻole ʻoe he ʻīlio hae wale, akā kūʻokoʻa ʻoe. Hoʻopili piha ʻoe i ka pilina, akā ʻaʻole ia e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i mea hilinaʻi.
Makemake ʻoe e hauʻoli kāu hoa, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaumaha i kou mau pono ponoʻī e hōʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu paha iā ia. ʻIke maopopo ʻoe i kāu mea e makemake ai e hana a ʻo wai o kāu mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana e ʻike ai, a ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e hōʻole iā ia - ʻaʻole koi kāu hoa i kēia.
2. Ua ʻike ʻoe pehea e hōʻike ai i kou makemake a me kou makemake
E kamaʻilio pololei ʻoe i ka mea i kūpono iā ʻoe i kāu pilina a me ka mea ʻaʻole. Hana ʻoe ma ke ākea a ʻike ʻoe pehea e koi ai iā ʻoe iho, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe passive-agressive. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻi hope e pale wale i ka hakakā. Eia kekahi, maikaʻi ʻoe i ka hoʻolohe ʻana a hiki ke nānā i kekahi kūlana ma o nā maka o kahi hoa.
3. He kanaka makua ʻoe i ka naʻau a manaʻo like ʻoe mai kāu mea aloha.
ʻO ʻoe a ʻo ʻoe wale nō ke kuleana no kou ʻano, manaʻo a me kou ʻano. Hana ʻoe e like me ke kanaka makua - ma ka liʻiliʻi loa o ka manawa - a mai waiho i kou mau pilikia āpau i kāu hoa.
Ke paʻakikī ka mea aloha, ua mākaukau ʻoe e hoʻolohe a kākoʻo iā ia, akā i ka manawa like e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe he kanaka kūʻokoʻa ʻo ia, kuleana no kāna mau koho a me kāna mau hoʻoholo. Manaʻo ʻoe i ke kākoʻo like ʻana, me ka ʻole o ka hana ʻana ma ke ʻano he "mākua" kekahi i kekahi.
4. He manaʻo kou e pili ana i ka pilina olakino
He nui ka poʻe i maopopo he pōʻino lākou i ke aloha, no ka mea i ka wā kamaliʻi ua hoʻonele ʻia lākou i kahi hiʻohiʻona maʻamau o ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine. 'Oia'i'o, he mea nui i ka wā e noho ali'i ai ka lokahi, ka ho'omaopopo like a me ke aloha i loko o ka 'ohana makua, akā hiki i kēlā me kēia o kākou ke hana i kā mākou iho kumu ho'ohālike o ka pilina olakino, e hilina'i ana i nā 'ano o ka "kumu" — palapala (me ka psychology), nā la'ana o nā kāne kamaʻāina.
5. ʻIke ʻoe i kāu hoa pili e like me lākou, me ka hoʻonani ʻole.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e kali no ka wehe maoli ʻana o ke kanaka āu i aloha ai a ʻike i ko lākou hiki. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe mai loko mai ona: inā paha e hoʻololi ke kanaka i waho, e mau nō ʻo ia i loko. A ua mākaukau ʻoe e ʻae a kala aku.
6. He ʻoiaʻiʻo kāu mau manaʻo
Pono ʻoe e manaʻo e mālama kāu hoa i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo e hoʻoponopono ʻo ia i kou mau pilikia āpau a hoʻopakele iā ʻoe mai ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha. A inā ʻoe, no ka laʻana, loaʻa iā ʻoe kāu mau kūlana ponoʻī o ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i ka hale, ʻaʻole ʻoe e huhū me kāu mea aloha i ka wā e ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke mālama iā lākou.
7. He lokomaikaʻi ʻoe
He lokomaikaʻi maoli ʻoe a hana i nā mea no kāu hoa me ka ʻole e noi ʻia a hoʻomanaʻo ʻia. Hāʻawi ʻoe i kāu mea maikaʻi a pau, akā i kahi palena kūpono, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka hāʻule hope loa. Hāʻawi lokomaikaʻi ʻoe i kāu hoa i kou manawa, ikaika, kākoʻo a aloha.
8. Laki ʻoe
I loko o ke aloha, aia kekahi mea o ka laki: hiki iā mākou ke lilo i kanaka maikaʻi loa ma ka honua, akā ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo e aloha ka hoa iā mākou e like me kā mākou pono. No laila, inā pili kou mau manaʻo a me kou ʻano i kekahi, e mahalo no ia.