9 mau mea aʻu i hana ʻole ai i koʻu lilo ʻana i makuahine

He mea maʻalahi ka lilo ʻana i mau mākua maikaʻi—a hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu mau keiki ponoʻī. A hiki i koʻu loaʻa ʻana ʻekolu, hāʻawi wau i nā ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi loa.

Ua ʻike maopopo wau i ke ʻano o koʻu makuahine, kaʻu e hana ai i kēlā me kēia hihia a me ka mea e hana ʻole ai. A laila hānau ʻia lākou, a ʻike ʻia ʻo ka makuahine ka hana paʻakikī loa ma ka honua. ʻO ia kaʻu mea e hana ʻole ai i koʻu lilo ʻana i makuahine, ʻaʻole loa.

1. Hāʻawi i nā keiki i ka meaʻai wikiwiki a me nā meaʻai ʻōpala

E kuke ana wau na lākou iho - 100% meaʻai maoli. A ho'āʻo maoli au. Holoi au i ka puree a hoʻomohu i nā mea kanu.

A hiki i kekahi lā, ʻike wau iaʻu iho i kahi laina lōʻihi ma ka hale kūʻai, me ʻekolu mau keiki uē a ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke kahua Snickers. A ʻo 50% o ka manawa aʻu i haʻalele ai. ʻAʻole oʻu haʻaheo no ia mea — akā, ke ʻoiaʻiʻo nei au.

2. E kiʻi i ke keiki mai ke kula kindergarten i hala

Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au i koʻu wā kamaliʻi: ʻo wau ka mea hope loa i kiʻi ʻia mai nā kula kindergarten a me nā hui haʻuki. He mea weliweli loa. Manaʻo mau au ua poina koʻu mau mākua iaʻu. ʻAʻohe oʻu manaʻo ua paʻa lākou i ka hana a e kiʻi koke mai lākou iaʻu ke kaʻawale. Ua ʻike au aia lākou ma ka hana, akā ʻaʻole ia he mea. Ua hopohopo mau au.

A eia wau i ka hapalua o koʻu home mai ke kula kindergarten, me kaʻu kaikamahine e noho ana ma kahi noho keiki, a ʻo kaʻu kāne i kāhea koke mai: ua poina iā mākou ʻelua ke kiʻi i kā mākou keikikāne mai ke kula. ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua ʻulaʻula wau no ka hilahila ʻaʻole ia he ʻōlelo ʻole.

Ua ʻae mākou, hui pū kekahi mea, poina.

Akā, maopopo iā ʻoe ka mea i hana ma hope? Ua ola ʻo ia. A ʻo wau hoʻi.

3. Hāʻawi i kahi pēpē uē

Ma mua o ka hānau ʻana o nā keiki, ua manaʻoʻiʻo wau ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā lākou e uē. Akā maʻalahi ka ʻōlelo ʻana ma mua o ka hana.

Ma hope o ka waiho ʻana i ke keiki i loko o ka moena, pani au i ka puka, a laila noho au ma lalo o kēia puka a uē aʻe, e lohe ana i kona uē ʻana. A laila, hoʻi mai kaʻu kāne mai ka hana, komo i loko o ka hale a holo e ʻike i ka mea e hana nei.

ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi me nā keiki ʻelua ʻē aʻe - akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo maopopo: ua emi iho ko lākou uē ʻana, a i ʻole ua nui aʻe koʻu hopohopo.

4. E moe na keiki ma ko'u wahi moe

ʻAʻole au e kaʻana like i koʻu wahi me kaʻu kāne me lākou, no ka mea, he ʻino kēia no ka pilina ʻohana. E paʻi au i ke poʻo o ka malihini pō liʻiliʻi, hāʻawi iā ia i ka waiū mahana e inu a lawe iā ia i kona wahi moe palupalu e hiamoe ai ... ʻAʻole naʻe ma ke ola maoli.

I ka ʻelua o ke kakahiaka, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hāpai i koʻu lima, ka wāwae, a i ʻole kekahi ʻāpana o koʻu kino mai kahi moe. No laila, ʻo kēlā a me kēia, ua ʻike ʻia nā malihini liʻiliʻi i loko o ko mākou lumi moe, no ka mea, he moeʻuhane weliweli ko lākou, a noho ma hope o mākou.

A laila ulu aʻela lāua, a pau kēia moʻolelo.

5. E hānai i nā ʻaina awakea o ke kula

Ua inaina mau au i ka ʻaina awakea ma ka hale ʻaina kula. I koʻu wā i ke kula haʻahaʻa, ʻai au iā lākou i kēlā me kēia lā, a i koʻu wā i ulu liʻiliʻi ai, hoʻomaka wau e hoʻomākaukau i kaʻu ʻaina awakea i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka - ʻaʻole wale e ʻai i kahi ʻokiʻoki kula ...

Makemake wau e lilo i makuahine nāna e hoʻouna i nā keiki i ke kula i ke kakahiaka, honi iā ​​lākou a hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia mea i kahi pahu ʻaina awakea me kahi kāwele nani a me kahi leka e ʻōlelo ana "Aloha wau iā ʻoe!".

I kēia lā, hauʻoli wau inā hele nā ​​mea ʻekolu i ke kula me ka ʻaina kakahiaka ʻelua a ʻekolu mau lā ma waho o nā lā ʻelima i ʻōlelo ʻia, a i kekahi manawa aia he napkin i loko o lākou, a i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole. ʻAʻohe mea i kākau ʻia ma luna.

6. Kipe i na keiki me ka olelo hoopomaikai no ka hana maikai

Me he mea lā iaʻu ua mamao loa kēia mai ka aerobatics i ka wā makua. A, malia paha, e puhi au i Gehena, no ka mea, i kēia manawa, hana wau i kēia kokoke i kēlā me kēia lā. “Ua hoʻomaʻemaʻe nā kānaka a pau i ko lākou lumi? ʻAʻohe mea ʻai no ka poʻe e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻole iā lākou iho - a no ka mea ʻai, ma ke ala, i kēia lā mākou i ice cream.

I kekahi manawa, luhi au i ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi puke ma ka papa e pili ana i ke ʻano o kēia hihia a heluhelu.

7. E hoʻokiʻekiʻe i kou leo ​​i nā keiki

Ua ulu au i loko o ka hale kahi i uē ai nā kānaka a pau. A no nā mea a pau. No ka mea, ʻaʻole wau makemake i ka uē. A hoʻokahi manawa i ka lā hoʻokiʻekiʻe au i koʻu leo ​​- ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻekolu aʻu mau keiki - a ke manaʻo nei au ʻaʻole ia e hoʻopilikia nui iā lākou a pono wau e hele pū me lākou i kahi psychoanalyst ma hope. ʻOiai, inā pono, ʻike wau e uku wau no kēia mau kipa ʻana.

8. E hoʻonāukiuki i nā mea liʻiliʻi

E hele ana au e ʻike i ka mea holoʻokoʻa, e nānā i kahi mamao a naʻauao. E nānā wale i ka mea nui.

He mea kupanaha ka emi ʻana o nā paia ke lilo ʻoe i makua a waiho wale ʻia me ʻekolu keiki liʻiliʻi.

ʻO nā hanana liʻiliʻi o ka lā, nā mea ʻakaʻaka i ʻike ʻole ʻia e lilo i mauna e kau ana ma luna ou. No ka laʻana, he hana maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana i ka hale maʻemaʻe. Akā, hūnā ʻo ia i ka honua holoʻokoʻa.

Hoʻolālā wau pehea e hoʻomaʻemaʻe pono ai i ka hale i hiki iaʻu ke hoʻopau i loko o ʻelua hola, a ma hope o ʻelua hola o ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana, hoʻi wau i kahi aʻu i hoʻomaka ai, i ka lumi hoʻokipa, e ʻike ai ma laila ma ka papahele ... kahi mea hiki ʻole ke ʻike mua ʻia. a hiki i kekahi manawa.

9. ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻae ma hope o ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole.

Makemake au e ʻike nā keiki i ka waiwai o ka hana nui. Ua ʻike lākou he manawa ia no ka ʻoihana, a he hola no ka leʻaleʻa. A eia wau e kū nei i loko o kahi hale kūʻai kūʻai me kahi kaʻa a ʻōlelo wau i kēia mau kākā walaʻau ʻekolu: "ʻAe, e hoʻokomo i kēia i loko o ke kaʻa a, no ke Akua, e pani."

Ma keʻano laulā, hana wau i hoʻokahi haneli mau mea aʻu i hoʻohiki ai. ʻAʻole wau e hana i koʻu wā i lilo ai i makuahine. Hana wau iā lākou e ola. No ke ola kino.

Mai hōʻeha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho no nā koho āu e hana ai i kekahi manawa e hoʻomau i kou ʻohana e neʻe i mua. Ua lana ko kakou waapa, e noho malie e na hoa.

No ka mea kākau: He makuahine hana ʻo Meredith Masoni o ʻekolu a me nā blog e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka makuahine me ka ʻole o ka hoʻonani ʻana.