He kanaka makua ma ke kulana makua.
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ʻO ke kūlana makua he hiʻohiʻona a me kahi kūlana e hiki ai i ke kanaka ke hoʻāla iā ia iho, hana a mālama. He kūlana kēia o ke kuleana pilikino. "ʻO wau ke kuleana no kaʻu mea e kuleana ai, pono ʻoe ke kuleana no kāu."
Pehea ka ʻokoʻa o ka makua i loko mai ke kūlana makua?
Inā hiki wale mai ka makua i loko o kākou, inā ma ia iho, ke kamaʻilio nei kākou no ke kanaka makua i loko o kākou. Inā mākou i hoʻolilo iā mākou iho i poʻe mākua, inā mākou i ke kūlana ʻeleu, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou no ke kūlana o ke kanaka makua. Ua koho mākou i ke kūlana o ka makua, kū mākou i ke kūlana makua. Ke ʻimi nei lākou i ka makua Kuloko i loko o lākou iho, hana lākou i ke kūlana o ka makua.
ʻO nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka Inner Adult ke alakaʻi pinepine ʻia e nā psychotherapist e hana pū ana me nā mea kūʻai aku i loaʻa ʻole ka maʻamau o kahi kūlana hana a kuleana. Ma ka syntone approach, ua hoʻopuka ʻia ka nīnau no ke kūlana o ke kanaka makua ma ke ʻano he koi: “He makua ʻoe? Pehea ke ʻano o ke kanaka makua i kēia kūlana?
ʻO ke kūlana o ke kanaka makua, ʻo ia ke kūlana o kahi kanaka ʻoihana, mālie, ʻoi aku ka nui ma ke kolu o ke kūlana o ka ʻike.
Hoʻokomo kumu: Hana wau i ka mea kūpono mai ka manaʻo o ka hihia, me ka ʻole o nā manaʻo a me nā kamaʻilio pono ʻole. Pono wau - e hana wau. Pono ʻoe - hana ʻoe.
Palette manaʻo: noho mālie, aloha pumehana, nele o nā manaʻo ʻālohilohi.
Ka leo a me ke ano o ka haiolelo: ʻoihana a pau - e kūkākūkā a hoʻonohonoho i nā makemake, kahi noi kūpono i hōʻike ʻole ʻia, kahi noi ʻoihana ikaika, ʻike e pili ana i ka makemake a me kahi kauoha kikoʻī.
Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia:
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kūlana (makua-keiki-keiki) nā hōʻike like ʻole - maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻO nā hōʻike maikaʻi o ke kūlana o kahi kanaka makua - he alakaʻi hilinaʻi, ʻike i kāna makemake a hoʻokō mālie. Hiki i nā hōʻike maikaʻi ʻole - he mea hōʻino ʻino, kahi kaʻawale - anu a aloof, koi wale i nā hana, "me ka ʻole o ka lisping." Poition Beacons Individual: E waiho wale ia'u. Na'u iho e hana. ʻOi aku ka pipiʻi o ka nīnau ʻana iā ʻoe. E iho kāua i ka ʻoihana, ʻaʻohe mea ʻino. ʻAʻole ʻoe i nīnau ʻia. A ʻo wai i nīnau iā ʻoe? Inā makemake ʻoe e hana maikaʻi, e hana ʻoe iā ʻoe iho.