La makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana, kapa ʻia ʻo “abandonite”, he a maʻi i ikeia e ekolu mau ano: a kaʻawaleʻaʻole ʻoe koʻikoʻi aggressiveness, ka suractivité.
Nā kumu lehulehu
ʻO ka makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana hiki ke hopena mai nā kūlana like ʻole i ʻike ʻia i ka wā kamaliʻi : ka nalo ʻana o kahi mea aloha (makua, kupuna, kaikunāne a kaikuahine ...), nā mākua mālama ʻole, a i ʻole nā mākua hoʻohui ʻia e waiho ana i kā lāua kāne ma mua o nā mea āpau, kahi ʻōpū maikaʻi ʻole ...
Ke ulu nei, ʻo ke keiki e makaʻu nei i ka haʻalele ʻana, manaʻo ʻino ʻo ia iā ia iho a ʻaʻole mālama i ka ulu ʻana i ke kaiāulu.
E aʻo iā ia e hoʻokaʻawale
Hiki iā mākou ke hana kūʻē i ka makaʻu o ka haʻalele ʻana mai ka wā kamaliʻi. Pehea? 'A'ole' He aha ? ʻO ka mea mua, ma ka pale ʻana i ka makuahine a makua kāne paha me kāna keiki, ʻoiai ʻaʻole maʻalahi. Pono ia e hoao hoʻokahi wale nō, ʻoiai ma laila e nānā i ka hihia ...
ʻOiai he mea nui ka hoʻoulu ʻana i kāu keiki e hoʻāla iā ia, he mea nui nō hoʻi ia e luuluu i kekahi manawa, no laila e hele ʻo ia i kāna ʻike ponoʻī, e hoʻomohala ʻo ia i kāna ʻano hana me ke kōkua ʻole o kekahi.