ʻO ke aloha ponoʻī ke kumu o ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka mahalo. Inā lawa ʻole kēia mau manaʻo, lilo ka pilina i mea mana a i kūkulu ʻia paha e like me ke ʻano o ka "victim-persecutor". Ina aole au e aloha ia'u iho, alaila, aole e hiki ia'u ke aloha aku ia hai, no ka mea, hookahi wale no mea a'u e hooikaika ai — e aloha ia ia'u iho.
Pono wau e noi i nā «hoʻopiha hou» a i ʻole e haʻalele i ka manaʻo o kekahi no ka mea ʻaʻole i lawa iaʻu. I kekahi hihia, he mea paʻakikī iaʻu ke hāʻawi i kekahi mea: me ke aloha ʻole iaʻu iho, manaʻo wau ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi i kekahi mea kūpono a hoihoi i kekahi.
ʻO ka mea aloha ʻole iā ia iho, hoʻohana mua, a laila hoʻopau i ka hilinaʻi o ka hoa. Hoʻohilahila ka "mea hoʻolako i ke aloha", hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kānalua a ma hope e luhi i ka hōʻoia ʻana i kona mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kahi mea hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi iā ia iho wale nō - aloha iā ia iho.
ʻO ka mea aloha ʻole iā ia iho e nīnau pinepine me ka ʻike ʻole i nā manaʻo o kekahi: "No ke aha ʻo ia e makemake ai i kahi mea ʻole e like me aʻu? No laila ua ʻoi aku kona ʻino ma mua o aʻu!" ʻO ka nele i ke aloha ponoʻī hiki ke lawe i ke ʻano o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa kokoke manic, ka nānā ʻana i ke aloha. Akā ʻo ia ʻano obsession e uhi i kahi pono ʻole e aloha ʻia.
No laila, ua haʻi mai kekahi wahine iaʻu i kona ʻeha ʻana i ... nā ʻōlelo aloha a kāna kāne! Aia kekahi hana hoʻomāinoino huna i loko o lākou i hoʻopau i nā mea āpau i hiki ke maikaʻi i kā lākou pilina. Ma hope o ka haʻalele ʻana me kāna kāne, ua nalowale ʻo ia i 20 kilokani, i loaʻa iā ia ma mua, me ka ʻike ʻole e hoʻāʻo e pale iā ia iho mai kāna mau ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli.
Pono wau e mahalo, no laila pono wau i ke aloha
ʻAʻole hiki i ke aloha o kekahi ke hoʻopau i ko mākou aloha ʻole iā mākou iho. Me he mea lā ma lalo o ka uhi o ke aloha o kekahi e hūnā i kou hopohopo a me kou hopohopo! Ke aloha ʻole ke kanaka iā ia iho, makemake ʻo ia i ke aloha kūpaʻa ʻole a koi aku i kāna hoa e hōʻike iā ia me nā hōʻike hou aʻe o kona mau manaʻo.
Ua haʻi mai kekahi kanaka iaʻu e pili ana i kāna hoaaloha, nāna i hōʻeha maoli iā ia me nā manaʻo, e hoʻāʻo ana i ka pilina no ka ikaika. Me he mea lā e nīnau mau ana kēia wahine iā ia, "E aloha mau anei ʻoe iaʻu inā hana ʻino wau iā ʻoe inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi iaʻu?" ʻO ke aloha ʻaʻole i komo i kahi ʻano hanohano, ʻaʻole ia e hoʻokumu i ke kanaka a ʻaʻole hoʻomāʻona i kona mau pono.
ʻO wau iho he keiki punahele, ka waiwai o koʻu makuahine. Akā, ua kūkulu ʻo ia i kahi pilina me aʻu ma o nā kauoha, ka blackmail a me ka hoʻoweliweli ʻaʻole i ʻae iaʻu e aʻo i ka hilinaʻi, ka lokomaikaʻi a me ke aloha iā ia iho. ʻOiai ke aloha o koʻu makuahine, ʻaʻole wau i aloha iaʻu iho. I ka makahiki ʻeiwa, ua maʻi au a pono e mālama ʻia i loko o kahi sanatorium. Ma laila wau i hālāwai ai me kahi kahu hānai (no ka manawa mua o koʻu ola!) hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kahi manaʻo kupaianaha: He waiwai wau - e like me koʻu ʻano. Pono wau i ka mahalo, ʻo ia hoʻi, pono wau i ke aloha.
I ka wā o ka lāʻau lapaʻau, ʻaʻole ʻo ke aloha o ka mea lapaʻau e kōkua i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka manaʻo o kekahi, akā ʻo ka maikaʻi o ka pilina āna e hāʻawi ai. He pilina pili i ka manaʻo maikaʻi a me ka hiki ke hoʻolohe.
ʻO ia ke kumu ʻaʻole au e luhi i ka haʻi hou ʻana: ʻo ka makana maikaʻi loa e hiki iā mākou ke hāʻawi aku i ke keiki ʻaʻole nui ke aloha iā ia ma ke aʻo ʻana iā ia e aloha iā ia iho.