Hiki ke hoʻohiehie ka hiamoe o kahi keiki e nā moemoeā pō. Pono ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hoʻokaʻawale ai iā lākou mai nā mea weliweli o ka pō a ʻike i ko lākou kumu i mea e hana ai i kahi ala kūpono a kūpono.

Le no ʻo ia ka hōʻike paroxysmal o ka hopohopo. Kū ʻia ia i ka wā hiamoe paradoxical - pinepine pinepine i ka hopena o ka pō - i ka manawa o ka lolo i ka hana piha. Ala aʻe ke keiki, uē, walaʻau, a nānā panikī. He mea nui e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia, e cuddle iā ia a e noho pū me ia a hiki i kona wā hoʻomaha loa. Kōkua iā ia e hoʻi hou aku me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e kōkua iā ia e hiamoe. Ma hope i ke ao, pono ʻoe e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e haʻi iā ia e pili ana i kāu moeʻuhane. ʻAe kēia i ke keiki e hoʻopuka i waho o kona makaʻu, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ke ʻike ʻo ia i ka maopopo. No laila pono nā mākua e kōkua iā ia e pāʻani i lalo me ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ʻole iā ia a me ka hōʻino ʻana iā ia no ia mea.

ʻAʻole hōʻike nā moemoeā i kekahi mea e hopohopo ai ke kū ʻia i kekahi manawa. ʻO lākou ka hōʻike maʻamau o ke aʻo ʻana. I kēlā me kēia lā e aʻo ai ke keiki, ʻike i nā naʻau ikaika loa, a me nā moeʻuhane hiamoe ka hōʻike o ka ʻike i ka manaʻo o ka weliweli. I loko o kāna mau heluhelu ʻana, nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni e kiaʻi ai ʻo ia ma ke kīwī, kāna mau pāʻani, kū ke keiki me nā huapalapala ʻaʻole makemake nui ʻia. A laila aʻo ʻo ia i ka hewa, nāukiuki, a i ʻole ka makaʻu, kaumaha, ʻehaʻeha. ʻO kēia mau manaʻo āpau i hōʻike ʻia e ka moemoeā. ʻO kēia ke kumu e ʻoi aku ai ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēlā me kēia o kāu mau moemoeā pīhoihoi i ka lā aʻe.

Ke hele pinepine nā moeʻuhane, pono lākou e makaʻala i nā mākua. ʻO kēia ka hihia me ka moeʻuhane post-traumatic, ʻo ia hoʻi, e kū ana ma hope o kahi hanana traumatic nui loa. Pono e mālama ʻia ke keiki me ka hoʻokaʻulua ʻole e ka loea.

no ka mea, o ka nā moeʻuhane i nā keiki mai hoʻonui ʻole, pono e mālama pono nā mākua i nā kānana i nā kiʻi a lākou e ʻike ai, keu hoʻi ma ke kīwī, ma nā kamepiula a i ʻole nā ​​papa. Pēlā nō, pono e hoʻopili i nā puke i loaʻa i nā keiki i ko lākou makahiki a / a i ʻole hiki i lākou ke ʻike. Pono e wehewehe i kekahi kūlana kaumaha i ke keiki, ka hopena o ka hōʻoia ʻana iā ia ke hiki ke hoʻomaopopo i kāna mea i ʻike ai a i kāna lohe paha.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, i ka wā hiamoe, pono e hōʻalo ʻia nā manaʻo ikaika loa a hana paha i ka makaʻu. I kekahi mau keiki, hiki i ka makaʻu i ka pouli ke hana i nā moeʻuhane. ʻO kahi kukui uila liʻiliʻi e lawa pinepine ia e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia a ʻae iā ia e ʻike i kahi hiamoe me ka ʻole o nā hiamoe hiamoe.

ʻO ke kumu o nā moemoeā, ʻaʻole ia he makemake no ke keiki e hoʻopau i kona pō ma ka moena o kona mau mākua. Ma ka ʻokoʻa, pono ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu iā ia e hiamoe i loko o kona lumi ponoʻī. E hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia i ka nui o ka palekana e like me ka moena o nā mākua. He aʻo aʻoi aku paha i ka lōʻihi o ke aʻo ʻana, akā he mea nui ia no ke kūkulu ʻana i ke keiki.

Huikau pinepine nā moeʻuhane a me nā mea weliweli i ka pō ke ʻano ʻokoʻa loa lākou. ʻOi aku ma mua o nā moemoeā, weliweli o ka pō - e pili pinepine i nā keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine - kū i ka wā o ka hiamoe nui.

Me he ala ala paha ke keiki akā ʻaʻole ia i ʻike i kāna puni, a me ke alo o kona mau mākua i hele mai e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia. Ua kaʻawale loa ʻo ia mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Kupaianaha kēia mau hiʻohiʻona i kekahi manawa. Makemake paha nā mākua e ʻapo i kā lāua keiki e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia. Eia nō naʻe, ke ala ʻana i kahi keiki i kahi hanana o ka weliweli o ka pō hiki ke alakaʻi i ka huikau o ka noʻonoʻo.

ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e noho kokoke iā ia me ka hōʻike ʻole a kali a hoʻi ʻo ia i ka hiamoe. Hoʻopau kūlohelohe nā pō weliweli ke hele a makua ke ʻano o ka ʻōnaehana neurophysiological o kahi keiki.

ʻO nā moemoeā kamaliʻi kahi hanana maʻamau a maʻamau. No ka maluhia a me ke ola o nā keiki a me nā mākua, he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou a hana i nā mea āpau e hōʻemi iā lākou i ka hiki. ʻO kahi manaʻo olakino i kekahi mau hihia i kekahi manawa hiki ke lilo i mea maikaʻi loa!