Nā keiki: pehea e hoʻomākaukau ai i ka ʻelemakule no ka hiki ʻana mai o ka ʻōpio?

Ma mua o ka hānau ʻana o ke keiki ʻelua

I ka manawa hea e haʻi aku ai iā ia?

ʻAʻole i kakahiaka nui, no ka mea, he okoa loa ka pili ana i ka manawa o ke keiki mai ko ka makua, a he manawa loihi ka eiwa mahina; ʻaʻole lohi, no ka mea, manaʻo paha ʻo ia ke hana nei kekahi mea āna i ʻike ʻole ai! Ma mua o 18 mahina, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka kali ʻana i ka wā hiki loa, ʻo ia hoʻi ma kahi o ka mahina 6, i ʻike maoli ke keiki i ka ʻōpū poepoe o kona makuahine e hoʻomaopopo maʻalahi i ke kūlana.

Ma waena o 2 a me 4 makahiki, hiki ke hoʻolaha ʻia a puni ka mahina ʻehā, ma hope o ka trimester mua a maikaʻi ka pēpē. No Stephan Valentin, ke kauka no ka hoʻonaʻauao, "mai ka makahiki 5, ʻo ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi pēpē e hoʻopilikia liʻiliʻi i ke keiki no ka mea he ola pilikino kona, ʻaʻole ia e hilinaʻi i nā mākua. ʻOi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kēia hoʻololi i ka ʻeha i ka ʻike ". Akā inā maʻi nui ʻoe i ka wā o ka trimester mua, pono ʻoe e wehewehe i ke kumu iā ia no ka mea hiki iā ia ke ʻike i nā loli āpau. Pēlā nō, inā ʻike nā kānaka a puni ʻoe, pono ʻoe e haʻi iā lākou!

Pehea e haʻi aku ai i ka hiki ʻana mai o kahi pēpē i ke keiki mua?

E koho i kahi manawa mālie ke hui pū ʻolua. "ʻO ka mea nui ʻaʻole e kali i ka hopena o ke keiki," wahi a Stephan Valentin. No laila e maʻalahi, e hāʻawi manawa iā ia, mai hoʻoikaika iā ia e hauʻoli! Inā hōʻike ʻo ia i ka huhū a i ʻole ka ʻoluʻolu, e mahalo i kona mau manaʻo. Hāʻawi ka psychologist e kōkua iā ʻoe me kahi puke liʻiliʻi e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻimi i nā huaʻōlelo kūpono.

ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana iā ia i nā kiʻi o kona makuahine i hāpai iā ia, e haʻi ana i ka moʻolelo o kona hānau ʻana, nā moʻolelo mai kona wā kamaliʻi, hiki ke kōkua iā ia e hoʻomaopopo i ka hiki ʻana mai o ke pēpē. kulina mai kamaʻilio pū me ia i nā manawa a pau a e hele mai ke keiki iā ʻoe me kāna mau nīnau. I kekahi manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokomo iā ia i ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i ka lumi o ke pēpē: e koho iā ia i ke kala o kahi ʻāpana a i ʻole kahi mea pāʻani, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka "mākou", e hoʻokomo liʻiliʻi iā ia i ka papahana. A ma luna o nā mea a pau, pono ʻoe e haʻi iā ia e aloha mākou iā ia. "He mea nui e haʻi hou aku nā mākua iā ia!" » Ke koi nei ʻo Sandra-Elise Amado, ke kauka noʻonoʻo ma ka crèche a me Relais Assistante Maternelles. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana i ke kiʻi o ka puʻuwai e ulu pū ana me ka ʻohana a me ke aloha no kēlā me kēia keiki. »He hana kuʻuna maikaʻi loa!

A puni ka hānau ʻana o ke pēpē

E haʻi aku iā ia no kou hele ʻole ʻana i ka lā D

E pilikia paha ke keiki hiapo i ka manaʻo o ka ʻimi ʻana iā ia iho, haʻalele. Pono ʻo ia e ʻike i ka mea e hele ana i laila i ka wā e kaʻawale ai kona mau mākua: "E hoʻi ana ʻo ʻAnakē e mālama iā ʻoe a i ʻole e noho ʻoe i kekahi mau lā me Grandma a me Grandpa", a pēlā aku.

ʻO ia, ua hānau ʻia ʻo ia… pehea e hōʻike aku ai kekahi i kekahi?

Ma ka hale hānai a ma ka home paha, e pili ana i kona mau makahiki a me nā kūlana o ka hānau ʻana. Ma na hihia a pau, e hōʻoia i ka mea nui i ka hiki ʻana o ke pēpē i kou hale. A i ʻole, manaʻo paha ʻo ia ua pani kēia mea hou i kona wahi. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ka lawe mua ʻana i ka manawa e hui hou ai me kou makuahine, me ka ʻole o ka pēpē. A laila, wehewehe ka makuahine aia ke pēpē i laila, a hiki iā ia ke hālāwai me ia. E hoʻolauna iā ia i kona kaikaina (kaikuahine), e hoʻokokoke mai, e noho kokoke. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau iā ia i kona manaʻo no ia mea. Akā, e like me ka hoʻolaha, hāʻawi iā ia i manawa e maʻa ai ! No ka hele pū me ka hanana, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi iā ia i ke ʻano o kona hānau ʻana, hōʻike iā ia i nā kiʻi. Inā hānau ʻoe ma ka hale maʻi hānai hoʻokahi, e hōʻike iā ia i ke keʻena ʻo ia i hānau ʻia ai. pēpē", wahi a Stephan Valentin.

Hoʻi mai i ka home me ka pēpē

Mahalo i kāu mea nui

He mea nui e haʻi iā ia he lōʻihi a hiki iā ia ke hana i nā mea he nui. A no ka laʻana, mai ka makahiki 3, manaʻo ʻo Sandra-Elise Amado e kono iā ia e hōʻike i ke pēpē a puni ka hale: “Makemake ʻoe e hōʻike i ka pēpē i ko mākou hale? “. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokomo i ka ʻelemakule, ke makemake ʻo ia, e mālama i ke keiki hānau hou: no ka laʻana, ma ka hoʻokomo ʻana iā ia i ka ʻauʻau ma ke kau mālie ʻana i ka wai ma kona ʻōpū, kōkua i ka hoʻololi ʻana ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka pulupulu a i ʻole ka papa. Hiki iā ia ke haʻi iā ia i kahi moʻolelo liʻiliʻi, hīmeni iā ​​ia i kahi mele i ka wā e moe ai ...

E hōʻoluʻolu iā ia

ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole e pani ana kēia mea hou i kona wahi! I ka makahiki 1 a i ʻole 2, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pili ʻana i nā keiki ʻelua no ka mea ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e poina he pēpē kekahi. Eia kekahi laʻana, i ka wā e hānai ai ka pēpē a i hānai ʻia paha i ka ʻōmole, hiki i ka makua ʻē aʻe ke manaʻo e noho ka makua ma hope ona me ka puke a i ʻole ka mea pāʻani, a i ʻole e moe ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka pēpē. He mea nui hoʻi e hana kekahi o ʻoukou i nā mea me ka mea nui. : huinaha, loko ʻauʻau, paikikala, pāʻani, huakaʻi, kipa ... A inā, e like me ka manawa pinepine, e hoʻihoʻi hou kāu keiki hiapo a "hoʻohālike he pēpē" ma ka pulu hou ʻana i ka moena, a i ʻole no ka makemake ʻole e ʻai iā ia iho, e hoʻāʻo e e pāʻani i lalo, mai hōʻino aku iā ia.

Pehea e hoʻokele ai i kou aggressiveness?

E ʻomi ʻo ia i kona kaikuahine liʻiliʻi (ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi) ʻoi aku ka ikaika, ke kuʻi a nahu paha iā ia? Ma laila ʻoe e kūpaʻa ai. Pono kou kaikuaʻana e ʻike i kēlā Na kona mau mākua e hoʻomalu iā ia inā hoʻāʻo kekahi e hana ʻino iā ia, e like me kona kaikaina a me kona kaikaina. Hōʻike kēia neʻe ʻana o ka hana ʻino i ka makaʻu o kēia hoa hoʻokūkū, ʻo ka nalowale ʻana o ke aloha o kona mau mākua. ʻO ka pane: "He kuleana kou e huhū, akā ke pāpā aku nei au iā ʻoe e hana ʻino iā ia. "No laila ka hoihoi i ka ʻae ʻana iā ia e hōʻike i kona mau manaʻo: hiki iā ia no ka laʻana" huki i kona huhū ", a i ʻole e hoʻololi iā ia i kahi pēpē hiki iā ia ke hoʻopaʻa, ʻāhewa, hōʻoluʻolu ... No kahi kamaliʻi, kono ʻo Stephan Valentin iā lākou i nā mākua e hele pū me kēia huhū. : "Maopopo iaʻu, paʻakikī iā ʻoe". ʻAʻole maʻalahi ke kaʻana like, ʻoiaʻiʻo!

Mea kākau: Laure Salomon