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Mai 0 a 2 makahiki: ʻaʻole haʻahaʻa nā pēpē
Mai ka hānau ʻana a hiki i 2 mau makahiki, ke hele nei ke keiki i kahi wā waiwai i ka loli. Inā i ka wā mua, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia iho mai kona makuahine, i nā mahina, e hana ʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo i kou kino ma o na hana i hanaia maluna ona. Hāpai ʻia, hoʻopaʻa ʻia, hoʻopaʻa ʻia e nā lima e hoʻopuni ana, ulu ka pēpē a hoʻololi kona pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe: lilo ʻo ia i mea liʻiliʻi e pili ana i ka honua a puni iā ia.
Mai ka hānau ʻana, makemake ʻo ia e ʻōlohelohe. I ka wā ʻauʻau a me ka wā hoʻololi, me ka ʻole o kāna diaper, ua noa ʻo ia e neʻe a hoʻoluliluli i kona mau wāwae liʻiliʻi hauʻoli loa! ʻAʻole pilikia ka ʻōlohelohe iā ia, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i ka haʻahaʻa! A laila hiki mai ka manawa o nā wāwae ʻehā, a ʻaʻole paʻakikī kona hele ʻana i ka ʻāʻī i ka lewa i loko o ka hale a i ʻole, i kona wā e hele ai, holo olohelohe ia i ke kauwela ma ka māla. ʻAʻohe mea ʻē iā ia a no nā mākua, ʻaʻohe mea hoʻopilikia, ʻoiaʻiʻo! Eia naʻe, mai nā mahina mua he mea nui e mahalo i kāu pilikino no ka mea ʻAʻole maoli ka haʻahaʻa (ʻoiai inā ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa o kekahi mau keiki ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe), a ʻo ia ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai ʻoe e aʻo. Onno ka laʻana, pale i ka hoʻololi ʻana ma luna o kahi noho lehulehu… “ʻAʻole kēia manawa mua o ka haʻahaʻa ponoʻī, wehewehe i kā mākou loea, akā naʻe, ʻo kēlā me kēia pae kaʻawale (i ka manawa o ka weaning, ka nursery…) pono e hui pū ʻia me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka mamao, o ka pilina. , hoʻonaʻauao o ka poʻe i pāpā ʻia. “
Nā keiki mai 2 a 6 makahiki: kākoʻo mākou i kā lākou aʻo ʻana i ka haʻahaʻa
No nā haumāna ma luna o 2 makahiki, hoomaka na keiki e e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamāhine. "Ke alakaʻi maoli nei kēia manawa i nā mākua e hoʻokahe i kā lākou mau hana. No laila, no ka laʻana, haʻi wale paha ka makuakāne i kāna kaikamahine ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻauʻau hou me ia no ka mea e ulu ana ʻo ia. Akā ʻaʻole ia e pale iā lākou mai ka leʻaleʻa pū i ke kauwela i ka wai ma ka wai ʻauʻau a i ke kai paha, "wahi a Philippe Scialom.
Ma kahi o 4 mau makahiki, komo ke keiki i ka manawa oedipal ʻaʻole wale ka haʻi ʻana o ke aloha i kona makua o ka wahine ʻē, akā hele pū ʻia me ka ambivalence, reconciliations, rejection a me ka hui pū ʻana me kēlā me kēia o nā mākua ʻelua. He mea nui kāu kuleana i kēia manawa no ka mea ʻo ia ka manawa e hoʻopau ai i ka pāpā ʻana i ka moekolohe.
Inā ma kona ʻano, ʻike maopopo ʻia ka makemake e pani i kahi o ka makua ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka maopopo a me ka hoʻoponopono hou i ke kūlana me nā ʻōlelo kūpono : ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole mākou hana pēlā me ko mākou makuahine a me ko mākou makuakāne, like me ko mākou ʻanakala, ʻanakē ...
ʻO ka manawa pinepine i kēia mau makahiki ke hōʻike nei nā keiki i ka makemake e ʻaʻahu hoʻokahi. E paipai iā ia! E haʻaheo ʻo ia loaʻa ka mana kūʻokoʻa, a e mahalo i ka hōʻike ʻole ʻana i kona kino i mua ou.
Ko e fakamoʻoni ʻa Cyril: “ʻOku hoko ʻa hoku ʻofefine ke maʻuʻa anga-ngāngá. ”
I kona wā liʻiliʻi, hele ʻo Josephine a puni me ka hopohopo ʻole no ka ʻōlohelohe a ʻaʻole paha. Mai kona mau makahiki 5, ua manaʻo mākou ua loli kēia: pani ʻo ia i ka puka i ka wā i loko o ka lumi ʻauʻau a hilahila ke hele wāwae ʻole me ke kapa ʻole. ʻO ka mea hoʻohālikelike, hoʻopau ʻo ia i kekahi manawa i ka hapalua lā i ka hale me ka ʻike ʻia o kona puʻupuʻu, e ʻaʻahu ana i kahi pālule maʻalahi. He pohihihi loa. ” ʻO Cyril, ka makuakāne o Joséphine, 5 mau makahiki, ʻo Alba, 3 mau makahiki, a me Thibault, 1 makahiki.
6 makahiki: ua maʻalahi nā keiki
Mai ka makahiki 6, ʻO ke keiki i hala i kēia mau pae, nalowale ka hoihoi i kēia mau nīnau a alakaʻi i kona manaʻo i ke aʻo ʻana. Hoʻomaka ʻo ia e lilo i haʻahaʻa. ʻOiai ma mua, hele ʻo ia a puni ke keʻena me ka pilikia ʻole, lilo ʻo ia i kahi mamao a i kekahi manawa ke noi aku nei iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e kōkua iā ia i loko o kona halepaku. "He hōʻailona maikaʻi loa ia inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia iā ʻoe i loko o ka lumi ʻauʻau i ka wā e ʻauʻau ai a ʻaʻahu paha," wahi a ka loea. Hōʻike kēia ʻano ua hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia nona kona kino. Ma ka mahalo i kona makemake, ʻike ʻoe iā ia he kanaka ma kona pono iho. »He hana nui i ke kūʻokoʻa.
ʻO ka haʻahaʻa: pono nā mākua e hoʻokō i nā pāpā me kā lākou keiki
Pono nā mākua e hoʻololi i ka ulu ʻana o kā lākou keiki
e ulu ana. Hiki i ka makuahine ke hōʻike i kāna kaikamahine liʻiliʻi pehea e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ai iā ia iho, a hiki i ka makuakāne ke aʻo i kāna keikikāne i ka holoi ʻana. "Na nā mākua hoʻi e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o kahi keiki maʻi e pono ai ke kokoke iā lākou, ʻokoʻa hoʻi i hoʻokahi pō, a me ka mea e moe ana i loko o ko lākou wahi moe i kēlā me kēia ahiahi, a i ʻole kekahi e wehe i nā puka o ka papa. ʻauʻau a i ʻole ka halepaku, ʻoiai ua noi ʻia ʻo ia e kali, "wahi a ka psychologist. ʻOi aku ma mua o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana, e pili ana hoʻi ke aʻo ʻana i ka haʻahaʻa hoʻonohonoho pono i nā kuleana, nā pāpā a me nā palena pili i ke kino a me kona pili. Poina mākou i ka ipuhao a me ka wee i waenakonu o ka lumi hoʻokipa ma ka wehewehe ʻana iā ia no ia mea, aia kahi lua a i ʻole ka hale ʻauʻau. Noi ikaika ia uhi i kona kino i ka lehulehua puni e na mea aloha. No ke aʻo ʻana i ka haʻahaʻa ka hoʻonaʻauao e pili ana iā ia iho a me ke kino. "ʻO ka mea i pāpā ʻia iā ʻoe, ua pāpā ʻia hoʻi ia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻohe kuleana e hōʻeha iā ʻoe, e hoʻopā iā ʻoe." Hoʻohui maoli ke keiki e mahalo mākou iā ia. E aʻo ʻo ia e pale iā ia iho, e pale iā ia iho a e ʻike i nā kūlana maʻamau a ʻano ʻole.
Mea kākau: Elisabeth de La Morandière