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1-Mai huikau i ka pono a me ka lawelawe ana
Hoʻohana ke keiki i ke ʻano o hoʻoponopono pono. ʻO kāna uē, kāna uē, kāna twittering wale nō kāna ala e kamaʻilio ai e loaʻa ai ka ʻoluʻolu o kāna mau pono mua (pōloli, puliki, hiamoe…). “Inā ʻike ʻia kēia mau noi e like me nā manaʻo, no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa i ka makua ka loaʻa ʻana o ka psychic e pono ai e lohe iā lākou (ma hope o ka pō me ka hiamoe ʻole, no ka laʻana) ”, wehewehe ʻo Gilles-Marie Valet, keiki psychiatrist.
Ma hope, ma kahi o 1 a me ka hapa a hiki i 2 mau makahiki, i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai ke keiki e aʻo i ka ʻōlelo a me ka kamaʻilio ʻana ma ke ʻano ākea, hiki i kāna mau noi a me kāna mau pane ke lilo i manaʻo a no laila ua like. ʻeleʻele. "ʻIke nā keiki hiki iā lākou, no ka laʻana, ke pōmaikaʻi mai ka ʻakaʻaka maikaʻi a i ʻole ka huhū i ka lehulehu," ʻakaʻaka ka mea lapaʻau.
2-E haʻi i nā lula ma mua a pili iā lākou
A inā hāʻawi ka makua i kāna nā mea koi, hoʻomanaʻo ke keiki e hana ana kāna ʻenehana. "No ka pale ʻana i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona, no laila ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka haʻi ʻana i nā lula e like me ka hiki ma mua", hoʻomanaʻo ka loea. ʻO ke ala e ʻai ai, i loko o ke kaʻa, nā heihei, nā manawa ʻauʻau a i ʻole ka wā moe… “ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kekahi manawa ua luhi nā mākua a makemake lākou e hāʻawi. Paʻa paha lākou i ka lā aʻe. Hiki i nā keiki ke hoʻohui i nā loli, ke hoʻomohala nei lākou i nā mea ola! ʻAʻohe mea i maloʻo, "i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Gilles-Marie Valet.
3-E hōʻalo i ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho
” ʻO ka manaʻo manipulator ʻaʻole maoli. Hoʻomohala ia i nā keiki ma ka ʻike ʻana me nā pākeke a puni lākou, "wahi a ka psychiatrist. ʻO ia hoʻi, inā hoʻāʻo nā keiki i ka ʻeleʻele manaʻo, no ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā mākua. "Me ka ʻike ʻole a no ka mea ua maʻa kā mākou hoʻonaʻauao iā mākou, hoʻohana mākou i ka" inā / inā ". “Inā ʻoe e kōkua mai iaʻu e hoʻomaʻemaʻe, e nānā ʻoe i kahi kiʻi paʻi kiʻi." ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka "a / a" paha. "A i ʻole e kōkua mai ʻoe iaʻu e hoʻomaʻemaʻe a hōʻoia mai iaʻu he kanaka makua ʻoe i hiki ke nānā i ka TV." ʻAʻole ʻoe e kōkua iaʻu a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā, "wahi a ke kauka.
"Me he mea lā he kiko'ī, he nuance o ka hōʻikeʻike, akā aia i loko o ka manaʻo holoʻokoʻa o ke kuleana a me ke koho, he mea nui i ke keiki ke loaʻa ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho a lilo i mea kūpono iā ia iho," hoʻomau ʻo ia. Ma luna o nā mea a pau, hiki iā mākou ke hele i waho o ka pāʻani o nā kuleana i loko o ka ka hōʻailona. E like me ka hoʻopaʻi hiki ʻole ("e hoʻonele ʻia ʻoe i ka paka no hoʻokahi pule!") ʻO mākou i hoʻohiki ai he mea hoʻoweliweli ...
4-E hui pū me ka makua kāne / makuahine o ke keiki
No Gilles-Marie Valet, maopopo, inā ʻaʻole ʻae nā mākua, holo wikiwiki ke keiki. "ʻElua mau hoʻonā: ʻo ke kānāwai e mālama ʻia ua lawe ʻia e nā mākua ʻelua ma mua no ka mea ua kamaʻilio mua lāua. Nalo kekahi o lāua i kēlā manawa a hoʻopaneʻe i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hiki i ka wā ma hope o ka hele ʻole ʻana o ke keiki. ʻAʻole pono e ʻike ʻia he ala o ka hāʻule ʻana, akā he haʻaheo i ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke keiki a pane maopopo a lokahi ", hoʻomohala i ka mea lapaʻau.
5-E noʻonoʻo mua i ka pono o ke keiki
A pehea la hewa ? Pehea e hōʻole ai i ka mea pāʻani, ka ʻāpana keke, ka holo me ka ʻole o ka hewa? “Pono nā mākua e nīnau iā lākou iho i ka mea maikaʻi no ke keiki. E pōʻino anei kāna noi i kona olakino, kona kaulike? Inā pēlā, mai kānalua i ka ʻōlelo ʻole, "wahi a ka loea. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hiki i nā keiki ke noi i nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia e pili ʻole i ko lākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā. Laʻana: "Makemake au e lawe i kēia bea liʻiliʻi me aʻu ma ke ala i ke kula!" “
Ma keia ano hihia, whim aole. "He manaʻo huna ka noi (eia kahi pono no ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo) i kekahi manawa e pakele iā mākou i kēlā manawa. Ma kēia ʻano hihia, inā ʻaʻohe kumu e hōʻole ai, no ke aha e hana ai? », wahi a ka psychiatrist.
(1) Puke i paʻi ʻia e Editions Larousse ma 2016.