Hiki ke aʻo nui nā moʻolelo i haʻi ʻia ma nā moʻolelo. Akā no kēia pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o nā leka a lākou e lawe ai. Kaʻana like ʻo Ilene Cohen i kāna mau manaʻo no nā kiʻi kiʻi Walt Disney e aʻo ai i nā keiki a me nā mākua.
"He wahaheʻe ka moʻolelo moʻolelo, akā aia kahi hōʻailona i loko, he haʻawina no nā hoa maikaʻi," i kākau ai ʻo Pushkin. I kēia lā, ulu nā keiki i nā moʻolelo moʻomeheu like ʻole. He aha ka mea i waiho ʻia i loko o ka noʻonoʻo o ka poʻe liʻiliʻi me kēlā me kēia moʻolelo hou - a kahiko? Ua nānā hou ʻo Psychotherapist ʻo Ilene Cohen i nā memo i lawe ʻia e nā kiʻi Disney i nā keiki a me nā pākeke. Ua hoʻoikaika ʻia ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ke kipa ʻana i ka pā leʻaleʻa ʻo Disneyland me kāna kaikamahine liʻiliʻi - he mau makahiki ma hope o Ilene iho i laila no ka manawa hope loa.
“Ua nānā māua me kaʻu kaikamahine i nā kiʻi kiʻi Disney he nui. Ua makemake au e hoʻolauna iā ia i nā mea aʻu i aloha ai iaʻu iho. Ua hoʻoikaika kekahi mau moʻolelo iaʻu i koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe ua hoʻomaka wau e hoʻomaopopo ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua, "wahi a Cohen.
Ma Disneyland, ua ʻike ʻo Ilene a me kāna kaikamahine iā Mickey lāua ʻo Minnie e hula ana a puni ke kahua a hīmeni e pili ana i ka maikaʻi o ka noho mau ʻana iā ʻoe iho.
"Ua nīnau au iaʻu iho no ke aha mai koʻu wā kamaliʻi i hoʻāʻo nui ai e hoʻololi a ʻaʻole wau i ʻike ua aʻo ʻia kaʻu mau kiʻi punahele Disney ma kahi ʻē. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu he pono ʻoe e haʻaheo ʻo wai ʻoe, "ʻae ka psychotherapist.
Hōʻike nā moʻolelo Disney e pili ana i ka pono e hahai i kāu moeʻuhane, e hoʻokō i ka kūleʻa a hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho ma ke ala i ka pahuhopu. A laila e lilo ko mākou ola i ke ala a mākou e makemake ai. He mea pono kēia no nā keiki wale nō, akā no nā mākua.
Eia naʻe, i ka nānā ʻana o ke kaikamahine ʻo Ilene i kāna mau kiʻi me ka hoihoi, manaʻo ka psychotherapist - ʻo nā kiʻi o kā lākou kiʻi punahele punahele e hoʻopunipuni ana i nā keiki? A i ʻole aʻo maoli kā lākou mau moʻolelo i kekahi mea nui? I ka hopena, ua ʻike ʻo Ilene e kamaʻilio ana nā moʻolelo ʻo Disney e pili ana i nā mea like āna i kākau ai ma kāna ʻatikala a me kāna blog.
1. Mai mihi i ka hala. Minamina pinepine mākou i kā mākou ʻōlelo a hana, manaʻo hewa, moeʻuhane e hoʻi i hope a hoʻoponopono i nā hewa. Ma The Lion King, noho ʻo Simba i ka wā kahiko. Makaʻu ʻo ia e hoʻi i ka home. Manaʻo ʻo ia e hōʻole ka ʻohana iā ia no ka mea i hana ʻia i kona makuakāne. Uaʻaeʻo Simba i ka makaʻu a me ka mihi e hoʻomalu i kona ola, ua ho'āʻo e holo i nā pilikia.
Akā ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka mihi a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka wā i hala ma mua o ka hana ʻana i kēia manawa. Pono ka wiwo ʻole e ʻae iā ʻoe iho a kū i nā mea e hoʻoweliweli a hopohopo iā ʻoe. E huki i nā hopena a neʻe i mua. ʻO kēia wale nō ke ala e loaʻa ai ka hauʻoli.
2. Mai makau oe ia oe iho. Pono mākou iā mākou iho, ʻoiai ke ʻakaʻaka mai nā mea a pau a puni mākou. 'Ōleloʻo Ilene Cohen: "Ke aʻo nei nā kiʻi kiʻi Disney ʻaʻole he mea ʻino ka ʻokoʻa."
ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona ka mea e maikaʻi ai mākou. Ma ke aloha wale nō iā lākou, hiki iā Dumbo ke lilo i kona ʻano maoli.
3. Mai haʻalele i kou leo. I kekahi manawa, manaʻo mākou ma ka hoʻololi wale ʻana iā mākou iho, e hauʻoli mākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a laila hiki i ka poʻe a mākou e aloha ai ke aloha iā mākou. No laila ua hāʻawi ʻo Ariel ma The Little Mermaid i kona leo nani i mea e loaʻa ai nā wāwae i ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana a noho pū me Prince Eric. Akā ʻo kona leo ka mea āna i makemake nui ai. Me ka leo ʻole, ua nalowale ʻo Ariel i ka hiki ke hōʻike iā ia iho, ua pau kona noho ʻana iā ia iho, a ma muli wale nō o ka loaʻa hou ʻana o kona akamai i ka hīmeni ʻana i hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻokō i kāna moeʻuhane.
4. Mai makaʻu e hōʻike i kou manaʻo. Nui ka poʻe makaʻu e ʻōlelo i ko lākou manaʻo, makaʻu lākou e hoʻokolokolo ʻia. ʻOi aku ka pinepine o nā wahine i kēia ʻano. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, manaʻo ʻia ka haʻahaʻa a me ke kaohi ʻana mai iā lākou. ʻO kekahi o nā kiʻi Disney, e like me Jasmine (Aladdin), Anna (Frozen) a me Merida (Brave), hōʻole i nā stereotypes, hakakā no ka mea a lākou e manaʻoʻiʻo ai, e ʻōlelo i ko lākou manaʻo me ka makaʻu ʻole.
ʻAʻole ʻae ʻo Merida i kekahi e hoʻololi iā ia. ʻO ka manaʻo ikaika a me ka manaʻo paʻa e kōkua iā ia e hoʻokō i kāna mea e makemake ai a mālama i kāna mea i aloha ai. Hana ʻo Anna i nā mea āpau e pili ai i kona kaikuahine, a hele pū i kahi huakaʻi weliweli e ʻike iā ia. Ua pale ʻo Jasmine i kona kuleana kūʻokoʻa. Hōʻike nā aliʻi wahine paʻakikī ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ola ma muli o nā lula o kekahi.
5. E hahai i kāu moeʻuhane. Nui nā kiʻi kiʻi Disney e aʻo iā ʻoe e hoʻoikaika i kahi pahuhopu me ka makaʻu. Ua moeʻuhane ʻo Rapunzel e hele i kona kūlanakauhale a nānā i nā kukui i kona lā hānau, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke haʻalele i ka hale kiaʻi. Ua manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia he pōʻino ma waho, akā i ka hopena, haʻalele ke kaikamahine i kahi huakaʻi i kāna moeʻuhane.
6. E ao i ka hoomanawanui. I kekahi manawa, no ka hoʻokō ʻana i kahi moeʻuhane, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui. ʻAʻole pololei a maʻalahi ke ala i ka pahuhopu. Pono ka hoʻomanawanui a me ka hana nui e loaʻa ai ka mea āu e makemake ai.
ʻO ka honua kilokilo o Disney fairy tales e aʻo mai iā mākou i kahi mea hiki ʻole ke hana me ka ʻole o ka wā makua. "Inā wau i nānā pono i kēia mau kiʻi kiʻi i koʻu wā kamaliʻi, hiki paha iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo nui ma mua a pale i nā hewa aʻu i hana ai," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Cohen.
No ka mea kākau: ʻO Ilene Cohen he psychotherapist a he kumu aʻo ma ke Kulanui ʻo Barry.